What Would You Do??? (156)
BerrySmoothie: I haven't posted a thread for yonks, either because I haven't the time to hang around to monitor nor the patience tbh....but I have a question for you.
I'm in a difficult situation. I have a very ill daughter(it is not a terminal illness but requires a lot of patience, understanding and emotional support from me). My daughter does not live with me, but we do visit her regularly. The prognosis of her illness is unclear at this stage.
I have my son with me full time(unfortunately estranged from his Dad)...and I work. This leaves me, at times, to be very tired by the end of the day.
I have a void however. I do miss male companionship and intimacy. Is it selfish of me to entertain the idea of having a partner/lover in my life.
Is it fair to ask a man to be involved in this situation?
I'm not into casuals(I wish I was...)...and neither do I wish to walk down the aisle or even share the same roof.
What would you do?
Note Well: I do not wish for any sympathy. This is not why I posted this thread. I'm simply wanting to know what you would do in a similar situation to my own?
marry Truheart..(pete)problem solved.I'm in a difficult situation. I have a very ill daughter(it is not a terminal illness but requires a lot of patience, understanding and emotional support from me). My daughter does not live with me, but we do visit her regularly. The prognosis of her illness is unclear at this stage.
I have my son with me full time(unfortunately estranged from his Dad)...and I work. This leaves me, at times, to be very tired by the end of the day.
I have a void however. I do miss male companionship and intimacy. Is it selfish of me to entertain the idea of having a partner/lover in my life.
Is it fair to ask a man to be involved in this situation?
I'm not into casuals(I wish I was...)...and neither do I wish to walk down the aisle or even share the same roof.
What would you do?
Note Well: I do not wish for any sympathy. This is not why I posted this thread. I'm simply wanting to know what you would do in a similar situation to my own?
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BerrySmoothie: I haven't posted a thread for yonks, either because I haven't the time to hang around to monitor nor the patience tbh....but I have a question for you.
I'm in a difficult situation. I have a very ill daughter(it is not a terminal illness but requires a lot of patience, understanding and emotional support from me). My daughter does not live with me, but we do visit her regularly. The prognosis of her illness is unclear at this stage.
I have my son with me full time(unfortunately estranged from his Dad)...and I work. This leaves me, at times, to be very tired by the end of the day.
I have a void however. I do miss male companionship and intimacy. Is it selfish of me to entertain the idea of having a partner/lover in my life.
Is it fair to ask a man to be involved in this situation?
I'm not into casuals(I wish I was...)...and neither do I wish to walk down the aisle or even share the same roof.
What would you do?
Note Well: I do not wish for any sympathy. This is not why I posted this thread. I'm simply wanting to know what you would do in a similar situation to my own?
I'm in a difficult situation. I have a very ill daughter(it is not a terminal illness but requires a lot of patience, understanding and emotional support from me). My daughter does not live with me, but we do visit her regularly. The prognosis of her illness is unclear at this stage.
I have my son with me full time(unfortunately estranged from his Dad)...and I work. This leaves me, at times, to be very tired by the end of the day.
I have a void however. I do miss male companionship and intimacy. Is it selfish of me to entertain the idea of having a partner/lover in my life.
Is it fair to ask a man to be involved in this situation?
I'm not into casuals(I wish I was...)...and neither do I wish to walk down the aisle or even share the same roof.
What would you do?
Note Well: I do not wish for any sympathy. This is not why I posted this thread. I'm simply wanting to know what you would do in a similar situation to my own?
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truheart1941: marry Truheart..(pete)problem solved.
Marriage? Are you sure we're...like....ready?
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BerrySmoothie: Marriage? Are you sure we're...like....ready?
..you have doubts....??????/
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Miss berry. Get yourself a nice man for companionship and enjoy it. This will give you energy to carry on helping your kids. Also a nice man will be a support person for you and will enjoy helping your kids too. I have taken on a lady and her kids a few times and enjoyed the time. A male would do this without hesitation if he really liked you. Besides your allowed to have what your heart desires. You cant give all the time without recieving.
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BerrySmoothie: Lookin'
Dominant? We do?.....because that's how I see you Ozzies.....well, not so much domineering.....more determined and unfazed people.
I lived in Seeednee for a beet....I enjoyed the experience.
"Once Were Warriors".....was fictional....and didn't do us any favours on the world map. Although entertaining, it was JUST a movie....not characteristic of your typical Kiwi woman at all.
Dominant? We do?.....because that's how I see you Ozzies.....well, not so much domineering.....more determined and unfazed people.
I lived in Seeednee for a beet....I enjoyed the experience.
"Once Were Warriors".....was fictional....and didn't do us any favours on the world map. Although entertaining, it was JUST a movie....not characteristic of your typical Kiwi woman at all.
No it did,nt jmo only .... but there are peeps in this world that love smack'em in the head and gory blood, poke'em in the eyes sort of stuff...
As said b4, i know and work with a lot of kiwis
and will be with them in another 9hrs or so ...Jmo ONLY ... i find that the young ones especially like to dominate over the aussies... they talk with their eyebrows and like to yelp/talk with sounds (voices) etc...
Myself .... i love the kiwi accent, them and their chubby asses, butt for some reason they think that aussies are easy prey for some reason
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BerrySmoothie: I haven't posted a thread for yonks, either because I haven't the time to hang around to monitor nor the patience tbh....but I have a question for you.
I'm in a difficult situation. I have a very ill daughter(it is not a terminal illness but requires a lot of patience, understanding and emotional support from me). My daughter does not live with me, but we do visit her regularly. The prognosis of her illness is unclear at this stage.
I have my son with me full time(unfortunately estranged from his Dad)...and I work. This leaves me, at times, to be very tired by the end of the day.
I have a void however. I do miss male companionship and intimacy. Is it selfish of me to entertain the idea of having a partner/lover in my life.
Is it fair to ask a man to be involved in this situation?
I'm not into casuals(I wish I was...)...and neither do I wish to walk down the aisle or even share the same roof.
What would you do?
Note Well: I do not wish for any sympathy. This is not why I posted this thread. I'm simply wanting to know what you would do in a similar situation to my own?
I'm in a difficult situation. I have a very ill daughter(it is not a terminal illness but requires a lot of patience, understanding and emotional support from me). My daughter does not live with me, but we do visit her regularly. The prognosis of her illness is unclear at this stage.
I have my son with me full time(unfortunately estranged from his Dad)...and I work. This leaves me, at times, to be very tired by the end of the day.
I have a void however. I do miss male companionship and intimacy. Is it selfish of me to entertain the idea of having a partner/lover in my life.
Is it fair to ask a man to be involved in this situation?
I'm not into casuals(I wish I was...)...and neither do I wish to walk down the aisle or even share the same roof.
What would you do?
Note Well: I do not wish for any sympathy. This is not why I posted this thread. I'm simply wanting to know what you would do in a similar situation to my own?
I have never been in your situation. putting myself in it..
I would just want to be with my girl., if through circumstances happened and a wonderful man came along and could understand, I would have to know he understood circumstances.
as there will be someone somewhere.
it is not wrong for you to enjoy the pleasure of wonderful company.
Soph
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epirb: Rena Owen , Once were Warriors lead female , was in character . She wacked one of her mates with a pool cue in the Oil Springs Hotel , not an hour from where I live in Gisborne .
That's not commonplace for your typical kiwi woman.
I'm sure you're on this site Epirb to give the most disturbing and twisted view to the world of how we Kiwis are.
Rarely do I see you post anything positive about New Zealand.....and I can't fathom why? Maybe you've had some bad experiences???
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BerrySmoothie: I haven't posted a thread for yonks, either because I haven't the time to hang around to monitor nor the patience tbh....but I have a question for you.
I'm in a difficult situation. I have a very ill daughter(it is not a terminal illness but requires a lot of patience, understanding and emotional support from me). My daughter does not live with me, but we do visit her regularly. The prognosis of her illness is unclear at this stage.
I have my son with me full time(unfortunately estranged from his Dad)...and I work. This leaves me, at times, to be very tired by the end of the day.
I have a void however. I do miss male companionship and intimacy. Is it selfish of me to entertain the idea of having a partner/lover in my life.
Is it fair to ask a man to be involved in this situation?
I'm not into casuals(I wish I was...)...and neither do I wish to walk down the aisle or even share the same roof.
What would you do?
Note Well: I do not wish for any sympathy. This is not why I posted this thread. I'm simply wanting to know what you would do in a similar situation to my own?
I'm in a difficult situation. I have a very ill daughter(it is not a terminal illness but requires a lot of patience, understanding and emotional support from me). My daughter does not live with me, but we do visit her regularly. The prognosis of her illness is unclear at this stage.
I have my son with me full time(unfortunately estranged from his Dad)...and I work. This leaves me, at times, to be very tired by the end of the day.
I have a void however. I do miss male companionship and intimacy. Is it selfish of me to entertain the idea of having a partner/lover in my life.
Is it fair to ask a man to be involved in this situation?
I'm not into casuals(I wish I was...)...and neither do I wish to walk down the aisle or even share the same roof.
What would you do?
Note Well: I do not wish for any sympathy. This is not why I posted this thread. I'm simply wanting to know what you would do in a similar situation to my own?
Hey Gorgeous
In answer to your specific questions above.
No, I don't think its selfish of you to entertain such thoughts.
I don't think its unfair to ask a man to be involved, so long as you are honest and up front about what you can offer, which may involve some serious introspection.
But, I don't think anyone can really answer this for you, as you are the only one who knows whats best for you. We all have tresholds for stress and we all needs balance in our lives, so I think its really up to you to decide. I don't think anyone would judge you for seeking a relationship and I do think most men would accept your circumstances.
You deserve a life too.
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truheart1941: ..you have doubts....??????/
I have a couple of concerns...yeah....
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Lookin, you are so funny...spunkybum!
Berry, everybody is entitled to have a relationship.
Not all relationships are the same, and you should go find one that suits your particular circumstance.
Once the man knows the situation, then he is going in with his eyes open. If he still wishes to have a relationship with you, in spite of your circumstances, then he is the man for you.
best of luck
Berry, everybody is entitled to have a relationship.
Not all relationships are the same, and you should go find one that suits your particular circumstance.
Once the man knows the situation, then he is going in with his eyes open. If he still wishes to have a relationship with you, in spite of your circumstances, then he is the man for you.
best of luck
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BerrySmoothie: That's not commonplace for your typical kiwi woman.
I'm sure you're on this site Epirb to give the most disturbing and twisted view to the world of how we Kiwis are.
Rarely do I see you post anything positive about New Zealand.....and I can't fathom why? Maybe you've had some bad experiences???
You should read a few more of my posts . Perhaps I have not been parroting your opinions , hanging on every word you say , stroking you ego enough ?I'm sure you're on this site Epirb to give the most disturbing and twisted view to the world of how we Kiwis are.
Rarely do I see you post anything positive about New Zealand.....and I can't fathom why? Maybe you've had some bad experiences???
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daears: Miss berry. Get yourself a nice man for companionship and enjoy it. This will give you energy to carry on helping your kids. Also a nice man will be a support person for you and will enjoy helping your kids too. I have taken on a lady and her kids a few times and enjoyed the time. A male would do this without hesitation if he really liked you. Besides your allowed to have what your heart desires. You cant give all the time without recieving.
I've stopped looking Daears, for the very reason I'm not sure if I could fulfill my part in a partnership. I wouldn't be able to give it a 100%....and is that fair to "him?" Dunno....
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BerrySmoothie: I've stopped looking Daears, for the very reason I'm not sure if I could fulfill my part in a partnership. I wouldn't be able to give it a 100%....and is that fair to "him?" Dunno....
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mollybaby: Lookin, you are so funny...spunkybum!
Berry, everybody is entitled to have a relationship.
Not all relationships are the same, and you should go find one that suits your particular circumstance.
Once the man knows the situation, then he is going in with his eyes open. If he still wishes to have a relationship with you, in spite of your circumstances, then he is the man for you.
best of luck
Berry, everybody is entitled to have a relationship.
Not all relationships are the same, and you should go find one that suits your particular circumstance.
Once the man knows the situation, then he is going in with his eyes open. If he still wishes to have a relationship with you, in spite of your circumstances, then he is the man for you.
best of luck
Shut up fuzzy
I'm not trying to be funny ...
.... 
Miss smoothie is gorgeous and having some probs
She wants me bad
You are just jelous (spellcheck)
So bite me nom
nom lubs ya
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epirb: You should read a few more of my posts . Perhaps I have not been parroting your opinions , hanging on every word you say , stroking you ego enough ?
I don't need my ego stroked?
You just seem so negative and hostile regarding your views re our country....and THAT bothers me.
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Lookin4missright: Shut up fuzzy
I'm not trying to be funny ... ....
Miss smoothie is gorgeous and having some probs
She wants me bad
You are just jelous (spellcheck) So bite me nom nom
lubs ya
I'm not trying to be funny ... ....
Miss smoothie is gorgeous and having some probs
She wants me bad
You are just jelous (spellcheck) So bite me nom nom
lubs ya
Yeah, that must be it, the green jealousy monster has taken over
Ok, I concede...Berry can have you
Phew, that is a weight off of my shoulders
(Lose some weight, Lookin!
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BerrySmoothie: I don't need my ego stroked?
You just seem so negative and hostile regarding your views re our country....and THAT bothers me.
well get you , like I post to keep you happy dear You just seem so negative and hostile regarding your views re our country....and THAT bothers me.
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Lookin4missright: No it did,nt jmo only .... but there are peeps in this world that love smack'em in the head and gory blood, poke'em in the eyes sort of stuff...
As said b4, i know and work with a lot of kiwis and will be with them in another 9hrs or so ...
Jmo ONLY ... i find that the young ones especially like to dominate over the aussies... they talk with their eyebrows and like to yelp/talk with sounds (voices) etc...
Myself .... i love the kiwi accent, them and their chubby asses, butt for some reason they think that aussies are easy prey for some reason
As said b4, i know and work with a lot of kiwis and will be with them in another 9hrs or so ...
Jmo ONLY ... i find that the young ones especially like to dominate over the aussies... they talk with their eyebrows and like to yelp/talk with sounds (voices) etc...
Myself .... i love the kiwi accent, them and their chubby asses, butt for some reason they think that aussies are easy prey for some reason
Kiwis are generally not well liked in Oz.
It must be our big butts....
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I'm in a difficult situation. I have a very ill daughter(it is not a terminal illness but requires a lot of patience, understanding and emotional support from me). My daughter does not live with me, but we do visit her regularly. The prognosis of her illness is unclear at this stage.
I have my son with me full time(unfortunately estranged from his Dad)...and I work. This leaves me, at times, to be very tired by the end of the day.
I have a void however. I do miss male companionship and intimacy. Is it selfish of me to entertain the idea of having a partner/lover in my life.
Is it fair to ask a man to be involved in this situation?
I'm not into casuals(I wish I was...
What would you do?
Note Well: I do not wish for any sympathy. This is not why I posted this thread. I'm simply wanting to know what you would do in a similar situation to my own?