How is the best way to chat a women up that you have never spoke to before when you are shy and terr (89)
darkgaelBallybofey, Donegal Ireland1 Threads 33 PostsAll ideas are welcome as this virtual dating thing is not working for me:-(
darkgael: All ideas are welcome as this virtual dating thing is not working for me:-(
Don't think of it as chatting her up. Think of it as a conversation where you are both trying to get to know each other better.
Try to pretend you are talking to an acquaintance /friend might help the shyness ,virtual is fine for inital exchange but you never know ,the other person might be feeling just shy .
darkgael: All ideas are welcome as this virtual dating thing is not working for me:-(
Just be friendly ,ask how was your day, doing anything nice to day
If she says no say would you like to share. Nice cuppa coffee with me
Just be friendly with a hint of cheeky or whatever suits you ,just be yourself relax.
darkgael: All ideas are welcome as this virtual dating thing is not working for me:-(
Pretend that you are interested in whatever nonsense she is waffling on about, that works.
stanley8m: Pretend that you are interested in whatever nonsense she is waffling on about, that works.
How is that working out for you, Stan?
darkgael: All ideas are welcome as this virtual dating thing is not working for me:-(
Ask her "does this smell like chloroform to you?" You might need a carpet and a van for this operation
Jimmy5IA: Ask her "does this smell like chloroform to you?" You might need a carpet and a van for this operation
Ah, the Cheshire method of seduction
mollybaby: How is that working out for you, Stan?
Well, it hasn't worked yet, but give it time.
stanley8m: Well, it hasn't worked yet, but give it time.
I like a man who sticks to a plan. no matter how unworkable it is
So I go
Red
My tongue twists up and I stutter out
do you come here often
what would you like to drink
aww you have the most wonderful ?????
or
one of them cheeky pick up lines
Thanks or the advice so far everyone except the pretend you like what they are going on about.. I dont think that is any good !!
Red
My tongue twists up and I stutter out
do you come here often
what would you like to drink
aww you have the most wonderful ?????
or
one of them cheeky pick up lines
Thanks or the advice so far everyone except the pretend you like what they are going on about.. I dont think that is any good !!
darkgael: So I go
Red
My tongue twists up and I stutter out
do you come here often
what would you like to drink
aww you have the most wonderful ?????
or
one of them cheeky pick up lines
Thanks or the advice so far everyone except the pretend you like what they are going on about.. I dont think that is any good !!
Red
My tongue twists up and I stutter out
do you come here often
what would you like to drink
aww you have the most wonderful ?????
or
one of them cheeky pick up lines
Thanks or the advice so far everyone except the pretend you like what they are going on about.. I dont think that is any good !!
Gael, most women don't like cheesy pick-up lines
They just want to be treated like a human with a brain who is capable of conversation, and that is what they want from a man too.
After the initial greeting, choose a topic that is topical at the time. For example if there were a big GAA match that day. Ask them are they interested in GAA, and if so, then go on to discuss the match.
If they are not, then just have a back-up subject ready.
Ask them about themselves. Most people like to talk about themselves, it is one subject they are knowledgeable about! And tell them about yourself too, where you are from, what you do, your interests, etc. Just a regular conversation.
As as for being shy. Most people are. So don't worry about that. Take a deep breath and fake the confidence. That does work. And once you chat and relax you will be fine. Remember, she will be shy too.
Best of luck!
well its not that hard just tell them your superman and have come to rescue them .just be yourself chat away about all and everything if theybdont want to chat you wont hear back and then for me its time saved with endless mails .good luck anyway I will say a prayer for you a novena might be better
In response to: All ideas are welcome as this virtual dating thing is not working for me:-(
Just tell me you like my hair and you would even drink a cup of coffee with me even if my hair got in it.
Tell me you would put little plaits in it and fiddle with it for hours ,
Oh oh I'd be putty lying there, so so relaxing.
Topkaz: Just tell me you like my hair and you would even drink a cup of coffee with me even if my hair got in it.
Tell me you would put little plaits in it and fiddle with it for hours ,
Oh oh I'd be putty lying there, so so relaxing.
Tell me you would put little plaits in it and fiddle with it for hours ,
Oh oh I'd be putty lying there, so so relaxing.
Roll my hair round your fingers to twirl it , oh your onto a winner with me,
Topkaz: Just tell me you like my hair and you would even drink a cup of coffee with me even if my hair got in it.
Tell me you would put little plaits in it and fiddle with it for hours ,
Oh oh I'd be putty lying there, so so relaxing.
Tell me you would put little plaits in it and fiddle with it for hours ,
Oh oh I'd be putty lying there, so so relaxing.
Hey Topkaz, I love your hair, fancy a coffee sometime?
stanley8m: Hey Topkaz, I love your hair, fancy a coffee sometime?
Topkaz: Roll my hair round your fingers to twirl it , oh your onto a winner with me,
Omg, really?! I had that recently, and I was inwardly like 'get away from me - right - NOW!'
Shows how different people are in their preferences
Otherwise, was out last night, and when my friend got up to use bathroom, male who had stood at the bar next to him really wanted to approach, but started to get all flustered and finally managed to stutter a 'how are you' out. I felt really deeply for him, as I could see his wish to use the opportunity, but he just seemed very fearful of rejection, same as some others there.
Overcome that fear. Treat another first and foremost as a fellow human being, I'd say, who very possibly struggles with very similar worries. I for example would have happily talked to him, but am really tense in public settings, something I bet very very few would ever think. They see an attractive female and will probably rather judge me as arrogant by default, when in truth with me it's a case of 'rabbit panic in the headlights'.
Hair touching for me personally though really is a no no, or touching me in an obvious purposeful manner. That's something which has been with me since early childhood. I need time to get to know another, to feel safe and comfortable. A warm smile and just general chat, without giving me the feeling I have to watch myself as to not give the slightest wrong signal, can go a long way. It's the 'just another human being' thing for me, as this gives me an opportunity to relax and engage as a human being, over being female.
Btw, yes it seems unfair that males generally are still meant to make the first move, but I view it as part of evolution. Seems very common in nature overall.
darkgael: REJECTION the Fear of is it I think .. aww but look at all the variances of approaches but there is not one fix .... aww for the magical formulae !!
Yep, fear of rejection is not pleasant, but think the best way to deal with that is to not approach with the thought 'you and I could become a couple'.
Approach any female out there, just as you would approach a fellow male. Sort of what I mean with 'fellow human'. Appeal to the human, because that's what each and everyone is, before all else. Be genuine is important, and to not appear desperate. Think that's really just it.
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