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You want it work, it does. Ask to see them before talking.
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McChewby: Hi does this long distance actualy work?
If so how to weave between al the golddiggers or scammers and fakers?
If you have any ideas let me know
If so how to weave between al the golddiggers or scammers and fakers?
If you have any ideas let me know
Do you want to move halfways across the world?
If you are not ready and able to do that, then don't start an LDR.
Limit yourself to places you can, and want to, move to, and adjust your profile settings accordingly.
That will probably cut down on 90% of the scammers immediately.
After that, get savvy about the language and nuances of emails.
If it looks too good to be true, it probably is.
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For me I am open to date foreign man... But I dont like LDR at all! It sound crazy huh? What I meant is I dont want a long-term LDR... Thats kinda depressing to me! If I met foreign man online, I dont mind phone call/Skype, text and email for a month or two... But really I prefer man who would visit me here soon so we see if we have chemistry... Thats how we would know if we choose to pursue a "relationship". If we like each other in person and we want to continue the relationship, I hope he thinking of marriage and want to marry soon. As you may know about Philippines, many girl married foreign man. Some find guy online and got married within 3 or 4 months and others meet a guy but it take a year or longer of chatting, calling, visits before they got married. So I can say how I see LDR work in my country:
1. Found each other online (like each other profile)
2. Send messages to learn each other relationship goal and seriousness
3. If seeking same then exchange Skype or email address
4. Weeks or months of getting to know each other online.
5. Decide to meet in person.
6. Whoever can travel easier visit the other person. (Here most girl are to poor to meet requirement for tourist visa to go to USA. So the guy usually visit her here).
7. Spend 2 weeks or a month getting to know each other in person. seeing if you like each other.
8. If you liked each other, stay in touch after his visit and plan another visit ASAP.
9. Some guys propose on the second visit. Other guys propose on Skype.
10. If she say yes then they decide they marry in Philippines or the man country.
11. Man usually have to petition for his wife or fiance based on his country rules.
Lots of girls in my city here find foreign men and go with them... I saw this process happen many times with classmates and friends...
Hmm, about scammer... I dont know what to say... Just dont send your money! Even I get message from scammer men and I live here in a poor country! I dont have extra money to give, so I just say "sorry I'm poor too"... That works and they dont message anymore.
1. Found each other online (like each other profile)
2. Send messages to learn each other relationship goal and seriousness
3. If seeking same then exchange Skype or email address
4. Weeks or months of getting to know each other online.
5. Decide to meet in person.
6. Whoever can travel easier visit the other person. (Here most girl are to poor to meet requirement for tourist visa to go to USA. So the guy usually visit her here).
7. Spend 2 weeks or a month getting to know each other in person. seeing if you like each other.
8. If you liked each other, stay in touch after his visit and plan another visit ASAP.
9. Some guys propose on the second visit. Other guys propose on Skype.
10. If she say yes then they decide they marry in Philippines or the man country.
11. Man usually have to petition for his wife or fiance based on his country rules.
Lots of girls in my city here find foreign men and go with them... I saw this process happen many times with classmates and friends...
Hmm, about scammer... I dont know what to say... Just dont send your money! Even I get message from scammer men and I live here in a poor country! I dont have extra money to give, so I just say "sorry I'm poor too"... That works and they dont message anymore.
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McChewby: Hi does this long distance actualy work?
If so how to weave between al the golddiggers or scammers and fakers?
If you have any ideas let me know
scam is an old story to me so it is very easy to identify scammers .If so how to weave between al the golddiggers or scammers and fakers?
If you have any ideas let me know
LDR works well , go for it
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If you are ready to be part-time b-friend or part time husband, then go for it.
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My heart and energy is not into LDR. However some seem to make it work. I like my man hands on and close by.
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As for scammers and fakes, most of thier profiles are widowed with one young child and a job that keeps them traveling ...so they can't be pined down. Or just come right out and let them know they are wasting their time with getting any money from you and if they are real and serious not a fake they will stay in touch.
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McChewby: Hi does this long distance actualy work?
If so how to weave between al the golddiggers or scammers and fakers?
If you have any ideas let me know
If so how to weave between al the golddiggers or scammers and fakers?
If you have any ideas let me know
Whether it works are not depends on what the two involved want and if they want the same.
It suits people who are happy with a kind of part-time relationships but it is difficult if you want to see more of the person than is possible.
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noooow problem for me....as i have my own plane...
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truheart1941: noooow problem for me....as i have my own plane...
just a lill ol 747 jumbo..+swimming poooool....
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McChewby: Hi does this long distance actualy work?
If so how to weave between al the golddiggers or scammers and fakers?
If you have any ideas let me know
If so how to weave between al the golddiggers or scammers and fakers?
If you have any ideas let me know
It works if you want it to work, have the resources and the wherewithal to move yourself and all that entails, e.g. family, career and friends.
Like any other online relationship I would advise you meet asap, because these things can drag on, and its easy to fall for what we want someone to be as opposed to who they are.
Good luck with it.
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Aragorn11: It works if you want it to work, have the resources and the wherewithal to move yourself and all that entails, e.g. family, career and friends.
Like any other online relationship I would advise you meet asap, because these things can drag on, and its easy to fall for what we want someone to be as opposed to who they are.
Good luck with it.
Like any other online relationship I would advise you meet asap, because these things can drag on, and its easy to fall for what we want someone to be as opposed to who they are.
Good luck with it.
Exactly!!!! Many girl here waiting months and months or years for guy who promise a visit her here... Some guys I think have no plan of ever coming to meet their girlfriend... but these girls accepted every excuse and kept waiting for him because they love him! Thats why I prefer a man who could meet ASAP (within 2 months)... So we see if we have chemistry and wanted to pursue more. If the man looking for a LONG-TERM LDR then I think he just bored and want pretty girl to chat with on webcam... Maybe they just wanna play with hearts?
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cutiemary86: Exactly!!!! Many girl here waiting months and months or years for guy who promise a visit her here... Some guys I think have no plan of ever coming to meet their girlfriend... but these girls accepted every excuse and kept waiting for him because they love him! Thats why I prefer a man who could meet ASAP (within 2 months)... So we see if we have chemistry and wanted to pursue more. If the man looking for a LONG-TERM LDR then I think he just bored and want pretty girl to chat with on webcam... Maybe they just wanna play with hearts?
I think it can work both ways Mary, i.e. both genders can do it. I think some people let someone in online to fill a void in themselves and are happy with that and don't want to let reality change it.
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cutiemary86: For me I am open to date foreign man... But I dont like LDR at all! It sound crazy huh? What I meant is I dont want a long-term LDR... Thats kinda depressing to me! If I met foreign man online, I dont mind phone call/Skype, text and email for a month or two... But really I prefer man who would visit me here soon so we see if we have chemistry... Thats how we would know if we choose to pursue a "relationship". If we like each other in person and we want to continue the relationship, I hope he thinking of marriage and want to marry soon. As you may know about Philippines, many girl married foreign man. Some find guy online and got married within 3 or 4 months and others meet a guy but it take a year or longer of chatting, calling, visits before they got married. So I can say how I see LDR work in my country:
1. Found each other online (like each other profile)
2. Send messages to learn each other relationship goal and seriousness
3. If seeking same then exchange Skype or email address
4. Weeks or months of getting to know each other online.
5. Decide to meet in person.
6. Whoever can travel easier visit the other person. (Here most girl are to poor to meet requirement for tourist visa to go to USA. So the guy usually visit her here).
7. Spend 2 weeks or a month getting to know each other in person. seeing if you like each other.
8. If you liked each other, stay in touch after his visit and plan another visit ASAP.
9. Some guys propose on the second visit. Other guys propose on Skype.
10. If she say yes then they decide they marry in Philippines or the man country.
11. Man usually have to petition for his wife or fiance based on his country rules.
Lots of girls in my city here find foreign men and go with them... I saw this process happen many times with classmates and friends...
Hmm, about scammer... I dont know what to say... Just dont send your money! Even I get message from scammer men and I live here in a poor country! I dont have extra money to give, so I just say "sorry I'm poor too"... That works and they dont message anymore.
1. Found each other online (like each other profile)
2. Send messages to learn each other relationship goal and seriousness
3. If seeking same then exchange Skype or email address
4. Weeks or months of getting to know each other online.
5. Decide to meet in person.
6. Whoever can travel easier visit the other person. (Here most girl are to poor to meet requirement for tourist visa to go to USA. So the guy usually visit her here).
7. Spend 2 weeks or a month getting to know each other in person. seeing if you like each other.
8. If you liked each other, stay in touch after his visit and plan another visit ASAP.
9. Some guys propose on the second visit. Other guys propose on Skype.
10. If she say yes then they decide they marry in Philippines or the man country.
11. Man usually have to petition for his wife or fiance based on his country rules.
Lots of girls in my city here find foreign men and go with them... I saw this process happen many times with classmates and friends...
Hmm, about scammer... I dont know what to say... Just dont send your money! Even I get message from scammer men and I live here in a poor country! I dont have extra money to give, so I just say "sorry I'm poor too"... That works and they dont message anymore.
I like your style.
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cutiemary86: For me I am open to date foreign man... But I dont like LDR at all! It sound crazy huh? What I meant is I dont want a long-term LDR... Thats kinda depressing to me! If I met foreign man online, I dont mind phone call/Skype, text and email for a month or two... But really I prefer man who would visit me here soon so we see if we have chemistry... Thats how we would know if we choose to pursue a "relationship". If we like each other in person and we want to continue the relationship, I hope he thinking of marriage and want to marry soon. As you may know about Philippines, many girl married foreign man. Some find guy online and got married within 3 or 4 months and others meet a guy but it take a year or longer of chatting, calling, visits before they got married. So I can say how I see LDR work in my country:
1. Found each other online (like each other profile)
2. Send messages to learn each other relationship goal and seriousness
3. If seeking same then exchange Skype or email address
4. Weeks or months of getting to know each other online.
5. Decide to meet in person.
6. Whoever can travel easier visit the other person. (Here most girl are to poor to meet requirement for tourist visa to go to USA. So the guy usually visit her here).
7. Spend 2 weeks or a month getting to know each other in person. seeing if you like each other.
8. If you liked each other, stay in touch after his visit and plan another visit ASAP.
9. Some guys propose on the second visit. Other guys propose on Skype.
10. If she say yes then they decide they marry in Philippines or the man country.
11. Man usually have to petition for his wife or fiance based on his country rules.
Lots of girls in my city here find foreign men and go with them... I saw this process happen many times with classmates and friends...
Hmm, about scammer... I dont know what to say... Just dont send your money! Even I get message from scammer men and I live here in a poor country! I dont have extra money to give, so I just say "sorry I'm poor too"... That works and they dont message anymore.
1. Found each other online (like each other profile)
2. Send messages to learn each other relationship goal and seriousness
3. If seeking same then exchange Skype or email address
4. Weeks or months of getting to know each other online.
5. Decide to meet in person.
6. Whoever can travel easier visit the other person. (Here most girl are to poor to meet requirement for tourist visa to go to USA. So the guy usually visit her here).
7. Spend 2 weeks or a month getting to know each other in person. seeing if you like each other.
8. If you liked each other, stay in touch after his visit and plan another visit ASAP.
9. Some guys propose on the second visit. Other guys propose on Skype.
10. If she say yes then they decide they marry in Philippines or the man country.
11. Man usually have to petition for his wife or fiance based on his country rules.
Lots of girls in my city here find foreign men and go with them... I saw this process happen many times with classmates and friends...
Hmm, about scammer... I dont know what to say... Just dont send your money! Even I get message from scammer men and I live here in a poor country! I dont have extra money to give, so I just say "sorry I'm poor too"... That works and they dont message anymore.
Sounds great. The real issue though is how long the marriage will last. It is not easy to know a person in 3-4 months that you plan to spend the rest of your life with. It is not easy to adapt to a new country unless both parties are mature, love each other, and are willing to work together.
It works both ways of course: both the bride and groom may show their true colors after marriage. Divorce is expensive
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Lonely1: Sounds great. The real issue though is how long the marriage will last. It is not easy to know a person in 3-4 months that you plan to spend the rest of your life with. It is not easy to adapt to a new country unless both parties are mature, love each other, and are willing to work together.
It works both ways of course: both the bride and groom may show their true colors after marriage. Divorce is expensive
It works both ways of course: both the bride and groom may show their true colors after marriage. Divorce is expensive
If guy picked a good girl and not scammer then marriage to Filipina will last long time! In Philippines there is no divorce, so ppl work hard to make marriage happy. I think most Filipina tried hard to make her marriage work even when its hard... If divorce is legal in your place then its last resort to her! If she love the man enough to marry him and trust him enough to leave everything she knows to go with him... she will do all she can to make it last! They say Filipina married with foreigner trying hard to make marriage last coz of "debt of gratitude"... She so thankful he picked her and pulled her out of her situation that she may put up with a lot and work hard to make sure the marriage last and they are happy.
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Aragorn11: I think it can work both ways Mary, i.e. both genders can do it. I think some people let someone in online to fill a void in themselves and are happy with that and don't want to let reality change it.
Maybe your right! But I can only talk on case of Filipinas... For sure they are NOT seeking just chat friends!
Here many girl are so poor with no chance of ever changing their situation... If you dont have college... hard for you to get a good job! Some job have height or age requirement! Many of us our parents run out of money before we finish high school or college (i finish high school, but not my siblings)... So many girls have low pay and live day to day... It meant she cant afford always to pay to load her phone or pay hourly at internet cafe! But she spend her money on that anyway coz she believe he will be the one...
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I think there are many ladies on here who are glad I am a long distance away. 
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McChewby: Hi does this long distance actualy work?
If so how to weave between al the golddiggers or scammers and fakers?
If you have any ideas let me know
If so how to weave between al the golddiggers or scammers and fakers?
If you have any ideas let me know
amazing... ...how old are you?
common sense in not that common . sometimes.
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If so how to weave between al the golddiggers or scammers and fakers?
If you have any ideas let me know