Long distance (28)
I agree with the above. I would not even entertain the thought of a LDR. Not enough trust especially in myself.
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It sure does work
I prefer to keep them at a distance.
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McChewby: Hi does this long distance actualy work?
If so how to weave between al the golddiggers or scammers and fakers?
If you have any ideas let me know
If so how to weave between al the golddiggers or scammers and fakers?
If you have any ideas let me know
Yep, it can work and has for quite a few folks here but it takes a fair bit of money to travel and work through the red tape of relocating to another country if things work out for each other. Not everyone is willing or able to do it for various reasons and might find local dating to be the better option.
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cutiemary86: For me I am open to date foreign man... But I dont like LDR at all! It sound crazy huh? What I meant is I dont want a long-term LDR... Thats kinda depressing to me! If I met foreign man online, I dont mind phone call/Skype, text and email for a month or two... But really I prefer man who would visit me here soon so we see if we have chemistry... Thats how we would know if we choose to pursue a "relationship". If we like each other in person and we want to continue the relationship, I hope he thinking of marriage and want to marry soon. As you may know about Philippines, many girl married foreign man. Some find guy online and got married within 3 or 4 months and others meet a guy but it take a year or longer of chatting, calling, visits before they got married. So I can say how I see LDR work in my country:
1. Found each other online (like each other profile)
2. Send messages to learn each other relationship goal and seriousness
3. If seeking same then exchange Skype or email address
4. Weeks or months of getting to know each other online.
5. Decide to meet in person.
6. Whoever can travel easier visit the other person. (Here most girl are to poor to meet requirement for tourist visa to go to USA. So the guy usually visit her here).
7. Spend 2 weeks or a month getting to know each other in person. seeing if you like each other.
8. If you liked each other, stay in touch after his visit and plan another visit ASAP.
9. Some guys propose on the second visit. Other guys propose on Skype.
10. If she say yes then they decide they marry in Philippines or the man country.
11. Man usually have to petition for his wife or fiance based on his country rules.
Lots of girls in my city here find foreign men and go with them... I saw this process happen many times with classmates and friends...
Hmm, about scammer... I dont know what to say... Just dont send your money! Even I get message from scammer men and I live here in a poor country! I dont have extra money to give, so I just say "sorry I'm poor too"... That works and they dont message anymore.
1. Found each other online (like each other profile)
2. Send messages to learn each other relationship goal and seriousness
3. If seeking same then exchange Skype or email address
4. Weeks or months of getting to know each other online.
5. Decide to meet in person.
6. Whoever can travel easier visit the other person. (Here most girl are to poor to meet requirement for tourist visa to go to USA. So the guy usually visit her here).
7. Spend 2 weeks or a month getting to know each other in person. seeing if you like each other.
8. If you liked each other, stay in touch after his visit and plan another visit ASAP.
9. Some guys propose on the second visit. Other guys propose on Skype.
10. If she say yes then they decide they marry in Philippines or the man country.
11. Man usually have to petition for his wife or fiance based on his country rules.
Lots of girls in my city here find foreign men and go with them... I saw this process happen many times with classmates and friends...
Hmm, about scammer... I dont know what to say... Just dont send your money! Even I get message from scammer men and I live here in a poor country! I dont have extra money to give, so I just say "sorry I'm poor too"... That works and they dont message anymore.
A good approach and positive outlook to the problem,
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If I had to choose between a challenging, long distance relationship and an emotionally distant relationship, the former may be stronger and more rewarding...
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diova: If I had to choose between a challenging, long distance relationship and an emotionally distant relationship, the former may be stronger and more rewarding...
so much agree with you diova
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If you are not ready and able to do that, then don't start an LDR.
Limit yourself to places you can, and want to, move to, and adjust your profile settings accordingly.
That will probably cut down on 90% of the scammers immediately.
After that, get savvy about the language and nuances of emails.
If it looks too good to be true, it probably is.