tomcatwarne: Well my story was at a time when I was single and my G/f told me of a time when her best g/f and her best friend boyfriend broke up.
The boyfriend asked my new gf to speak to his estranged g/f on his behalf,
although she new she wanted to get back with him, she never spoke to her on his behalf.
I asked her why she didn't tell her g/f that her old boyfriend wanted her back.
he said she wanted her best friend all to herself. She was not gay.
I know you have been on CS long enough so you must be aware of the CS curse. If I ever discover that I click with a female CS member, I would not make it know here because if I do, it is sure to get analysed and poked till the flame dies.
tomcatwarneOcean City, Plumouth, Devon, England UK17,106 posts
Lonely1: I know you have been on CS long enough so you must be aware of the CS curse. If I ever discover that I click with a female CS member, I would not make it know here because if I do, it is sure to get analysed and poked till the flame dies.
Yes my story was absolutely nothing to do with whisper but I know what you mean
123whisperMelbourne, Victoria Australia2,116 posts
tomcatwarne: Well my story was at a time when I was single and my G/f told me of a time when her best g/f and her best friend boyfriend broke up.
The boyfriend asked my new gf to speak to his estranged g/f on his behalf,
although she new she wanted to get back with him, she never spoke to her on his behalf.
I asked her why she didn't tell her g/f that her old boyfriend wanted her back.
he said she wanted her best friend all to herself. She was not gay.
That's quiet selfish from so called friend...and petty that ex boyfriend of her friend couldn't made any move himself without seeking support from friend of his ex girlfriend. Not all friends can be trusted ! Close friend of my sister tried to steal my hasbuned just day or two before wedding day. I've found her mesage note in his jacket pocket when he asked me to get something for him...and I've read note and put it back in his pocket without saying anything to him or anyone else...He also didn't said nothing to me at the time Guess he didn't wanted to upset me with it.
tomcatwarne: Yes my story was absolutely nothing to do with whisper but I know what you mean
I get your drift, but I don't think I would ever be brave enough to put myself between a male friend and his female love interest: except if it is my daughter or my wife.
tomcatwarneOcean City, Plumouth, Devon, England UK17,106 posts
123whisper: That's quiet selfish from so called friend...and petty that ex boyfriend of her friend couldn't made any move himself without seeking support from friend of his ex girlfriend. Not all friends can be trusted ! Close friend of my sister tried to steal my hasbuned just day or two before wedding day. I've found her mesage note in his jacket pocket when he asked me to get something for him...and I've read note and put it back in his pocket without saying anything to him or anyone else...He also didn't said nothing to me at the time Guess he didn't wanted to upset me with it.
That was my reaction too, I'm glad you understood that, I didn't think I explained it well..
123whisperMelbourne, Victoria Australia2,116 posts
Lonely1: I get your drift, but I don't think I would ever be brave enough to put myself between a male friend and his female love interest: except if it is my daughter or my wife.
I wouldn't call that 'bravery'...Indeed it's very low and dishonest to withold important information from friend -just for selfish reasons to keep friend to ourself. As for daughter (and I have 1 grown up )- it be also challenging to withold information, out of fairness; because one day -this may hunt parent...We don't really have 'right' to make decisions in behalf of our children, even if our children make bad choice, they have to learn for themselves until they chose right choice.
123whisper: I wouldn't call that 'bravery'...Indeed it's very low and dishonest to withold important information from friend -just for selfish reasons to keep friend to ourself. As for daughter (and I have 1 grown up )- it be also challenging to withold information, out of fairness; because one day -this may hunt parent...We don't really have 'right' to make decisions in behalf of our children, even if our children make bad choice, they have to learn for themselves until they chose right choice.
123whisperMelbourne, Victoria Australia2,116 posts
Lonely1: I get your drift, but I don't think I would ever be brave enough to put myself between a male friend and his female love interest: except if it is my daughter or my wife.
Imagine knowing that our partner could do such thing to a friend. I think that would make most of us doubting if the same partner will hide something important from us or use what ever trick on us for manipulations of self benefit.
123whisperMelbourne, Victoria Australia2,116 posts
tomcatwarne: Well my story was at a time when I was single and my G/f told me of a time when her best g/f and her best friend boyfriend broke up.
The boyfriend asked my new gf to speak to his estranged g/f on his behalf,
although she new she wanted to get back with him, she never spoke to her on his behalf.
I asked her why she didn't tell her g/f that her old boyfriend wanted her back.
he said she wanted her best friend all to herself. She was not gay.
You know,it doesn't make any difference if she was stright or gay, no excuse at all for being selfish and doing the wrong thing. She also wasn't 'smart enough' to hide her wrong doing ...as if she doesn't have any conciousness to know that something is wrong with it.
123whisper: Imagine knowing that our partner could do such thing to a friend. I think that would make most of us doubting if the same partner will hide something important from us or use what ever trick on us for manipulations of self benefit.
As I said: truth is sometimes stranger than fiction. I have been caught putting my mouth and life on the line for so called friends, only to find out later that they were snakes in the grass. Sadly, that could sometimes be your own spouse. Who can we really trust?
123whisperMelbourne, Victoria Australia2,116 posts
Lonely1: As I said: truth is sometimes stranger than fiction. I have been caught putting my mouth and life on the line for so called friends, only to find out later that they were snakes in the grass. Sadly, that could sometimes be your own spouse. Who can we really trust?
Trust your instincts ! Trust is about patience while not forcing issues we learn more about others. The words we speak can uplift and inspire people to love, laugh, motivate, to stir feelings and imagination and make person struggle toward perfection, as to catch hold of men's minds and feelings and inspire other to do things bigger than themselves are the people who are for safe keeping forever (if anything is forever) ......but our words can also instill a sense of dislike, and even hopelessness in the person who is on the receiving end if we don't give trust.Trust is earned when everyone's interests are considered and respected and we should not expect to receive more trust than we dish out.
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The boyfriend asked my new gf to speak to his estranged g/f on his behalf,
although she new she wanted to get back with him, she never spoke to her on his behalf.
I asked her why she didn't tell her g/f that her old boyfriend wanted her back.
he said she wanted her best friend all to herself. She was not gay.