I find if I do what I'm told I have an easier life
I like your attitude
Nah, I'd hate a subservient person really. They'd annoy me. I wouldn't want anybody who would expect subservience from me either though. Ain't going to happen.
To me real friendship, fun, selflessness, attraction, loyalty, and trust are necessary ingredients.
Dec 21, 2016 7:00 AM CST What is more important in relationships
RumplesManchester, Greater Manchester, England UK592 Posts
RumplesManchester, Greater Manchester, England UK592 posts
Appreciate the person in front of you as the collection of stereotypes they are. Every single human being is between 30 and 80% stereotype and there's nothing more stereotypical than denying that you are a stereotype.
Where does she come from? How did you meet? What's her age/generation? What does she do with her free time? What's her job?
All these general indications reveal an incredibly large amount about an individual yet the trick with women is to always maintain the snowflake's illusion. A gentleman allows a woman to maintain her fiction especially when he knows better.
Dec 21, 2016 7:20 AM CST What is more important in relationships
RumplesManchester, Greater Manchester, England UK592 Posts
RumplesManchester, Greater Manchester, England UK592 posts
Appreciate the person in front of you as the collection of stereotypes they are. Every single human being is between 30 and 80% stereotype and there's nothing more stereotypical than denying that you are a stereotype.
Where does she come from? How did you meet? What's her age/generation? What does she do with her free time? What's her job?
All these general indications reveal an incredibly large amount about an individual yet the trick with women is to always maintain the snowflake's illusion. A gentleman allows a woman to maintain her fiction especially when he knows better.
But do allow room to be pleasantly surprised when a person is unique. One purpose of generalisation is setting the bar high for originality and a stereotype is a probability and not a certainty, people generalise as the socially intelligent response to not being able to know every person on the planet inside out. But you have to be careful because stereotypes offend an insecure person's vanity and you're dealing with vain creatures out there.
Dec 21, 2016 7:58 AM CST What is more important in relationships
RumplesManchester, Greater Manchester, England UK592 Posts
RumplesManchester, Greater Manchester, England UK592 posts
Another reason why stereotypes are important when dealing with women is because you're supposed to know things without having to ask. Allow your general assumptions to align with your experienced intuition so you can know something of a person without having to ask. I cannot overstate how important this is.
Anyway, when done correctly women will often say that it's like you've known them all their life. Of course you haven't known them all their life, but you do understand the lives they've come from. This is key.
Honesty is a good start... Be who you are, don't be frightened. If they love you then they'll love you for who you are.... You can't be someone you're not... ......... ...............
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