what way do you take people in genral as in what makes one tic? ( Archived) (2)

Funny you should ask that question, right now, today. I guess I am really learning fast to not personalize much of others' behaviors. Can you indulge for a moment, and then give me feedback, not only you, Pedro, but anyone else out there? I am very open to a conversation about this very thing. ---On a particular day, every week, I have a volunteer obligation. The venue is quite a distance from me, and getting there can be difficult, especially in inclement weather, which we are having a truckload of currently. One of the actual paid workers at that venue made an offer of sharing her cab (taxi) vouchers; i.e., picking me up on those days. She just gave me her number and said to call a day or two ahead. Well, (and you may have figured out where this is going....) I did, and of course, she reneged the offer, stating that using the taxi was "something I just do spontaneously". I explained that I had to have a firmer game plan; which she agreed but stuck with her desire to just be non-committal. Now, I have a problem with that. It is not reasonable to expect someone to just "know" when the offerer's spontaneous nature is going to "kick in". To cut to the chase, I believe people do this sort of "offering" all the time. They do it at funerals, especially ("If you need ANYTHING, ANYTHING at ALL, just CALL me...") but then of course, there is always a reason why it's bad timing, or something else came up, etc... I believe that people should stop doing this--think clearly about what they are going to commit to, and not make offers and promises they after all, cannot keep.