Ccincy: Most parents that I know of can't wait till school starts every year to get their kids out the door.
I've heard parents say when I've been out shopping say to each other that they can't wait till school begins so their kids will be out of their hair.
CC, that, too. But generally I observed most first and second world share the same mentality not only the parents but so are the kids, to be independent.
In poor countries, I observe the opposite. Children are there to help parents and family us intact even after being married.
Snookums33OPJoburg, Gauteng South Africa5,760 posts
Ccincy: When my son was say in middle/junior school age I guided him into independence to prepare him on his way to entering the real world so to speak.
He moved out when he was in his early twenties and had thanked me for teaching him what I did back then.
I don't have my son anymore and would give anything to have him back with me.
lindsyjones: Most parents in America are like that, at least those that I know of.
Because gaining independence is very important in the USA, it doesn't mean the parents wash their hands of responsibility or stop loving their children. It means they want their children to learn how to cope with life's problems and struggles, as the parents know they won't always be around to pick up the pieces.
To suggest that letting your children become independent is wrong is just evil.
rizlared: Because gaining independence is very important in the USA, it doesn't mean the parents wash their hands of responsibility or stop loving their children. It means they want their children to learn how to cope with life's problems and struggles, as the parents know they won't always be around to pick up the pieces.
To suggest that letting your children become independent is wrong is just evil.
Lol agreed Rizla. It's your opinion to think it's evil to regard that they're independent?
I never said that it's good or bad. For me my children can live with me if they want except they're all married and yet I don't want to live with them even as they all want me in their lives, including living with them should I choose to.
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They r both very verbal, and have common sense.
What more do u want ?