Why argue?...Why raise voices? ( Archived) (33)

May 13, 2017 8:11 AM CST Why argue?...Why raise voices?
sergio09
sergio09sergio09Knoxville, Tennessee USA31 Threads 901 Posts
Just an opinion here. I refuse to argue with people, esp. the ones that I am in a relationship with. I try not to raise my voice...I just shut down. I HATE arguing. We may not talk for days, I am fine with that.

This is not to say...I haven't failed at this occasionally. One relationship I was in, every time we disagreed on something her voice continued to get louder and louder. Every other word was "F" this and "F" that. So, I would just go to a different part of the house or out to rearrange things in the shed.

Bottom line...why argue and raise voices?dunno
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May 13, 2017 8:38 AM CST Why argue?...Why raise voices?
shyre_jane
shyre_janeshyre_janeYasothon..., Northeastern Thailand Thailand1 Posts
Very good point Sir...Keeping quiet will lessen the argument..The more words you speak the more faults you made...

Thsnks for sharing....
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May 13, 2017 8:44 AM CST Why argue?...Why raise voices?
sergio09
sergio09sergio09Knoxville, Tennessee USA31 Threads 901 Posts
shyre_jane: Very good point Sir...Keeping quiet will lessen the argument..The more words you speak the more faults you made...

Thsnks for sharing....
thumbs up thumbs up
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May 13, 2017 9:00 AM CST Why argue?...Why raise voices?
mollybaby
mollybabymollybabyCork City, Cork Ireland56 Threads 8 Polls 23,608 Posts
I'm not much into arguing either. I dislike it


But if I thought the alternative was the silent treatment and/or no discussion of the issue, then I guess I'd have to go for argument.
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May 13, 2017 9:02 AM CST Why argue?...Why raise voices?
sergio09
sergio09sergio09Knoxville, Tennessee USA31 Threads 901 Posts
mollybaby: I'm not much into arguing either. I dislike it


But if I thought the alternative was the silent treatment and/or no discussion of the issue, then I guess I'd have to go for argument.


I respect that.thumbs up
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May 13, 2017 10:01 AM CST Why argue?...Why raise voices?
my ex wife was like that......professor but I cured her......I bought a baseball bat......

very mad grin grin wave wave
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May 13, 2017 10:09 AM CST Why argue?...Why raise voices?
sergio09
sergio09sergio09Knoxville, Tennessee USA31 Threads 901 Posts
truheart1941: my ex wife was like that...... but I cured her......I bought a baseball bat......



Can I assume then, that you are here under a fictitious name? I would hope you did not hit a "homerun" with that bat...rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing
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May 13, 2017 10:16 AM CST Why argue?...Why raise voices?
sergio09: Can I assume then, that you are here under a fictitious name? I would hope you did not hit a "homerun" with that bat...
..nooo I,d creep up behind her then *WHACK* her.....when she woke up.....I,d say...hey honey you alright.....did you fall over...?????grin grin
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May 13, 2017 10:18 AM CST Why argue?...Why raise voices?
sergio09
sergio09sergio09Knoxville, Tennessee USA31 Threads 901 Posts
truheart1941: ..nooo I,d creep up behind her then *WHACK* her.....when she woke up.....I,d say...hey honey you alright.....did you fall over...?????
rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing
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May 13, 2017 10:22 AM CST Why argue?...Why raise voices?
annaroach
annaroachannaroachLimerick, Ireland217 Threads 6,747 Posts
sergio09: Just an opinion here. I refuse to argue with people, esp. the ones that I am in a relationship with. I try not to raise my voice...I just shut down. I HATE arguing. We may not talk for days, I am fine with that.

This is not to say...I haven't failed at this occasionally. One relationship I was in, every time we disagreed on something her voice continued to get louder and louder. Every other word was "F" this and "F" that. So, I would just go to a different part of the house or out to rearrange things in the shed.

Bottom line...why argue and raise voices?



I think people that raise their voices in argument, are very unhappy in themselves
and with their situation, it solves nothing,, but they are just volatile,,,,, mediation needed, if serious
discussion is to be had,, peace
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May 13, 2017 10:30 AM CST Why argue?...Why raise voices?
galrads
galradsgalradsDublin, Ohio USA2,264 Threads 279 Polls 36,283 Posts
sergio09: Just an opinion here. I refuse to argue with people, esp. the ones that I am in a relationship with. I try not to raise my voice...I just shut down. I HATE arguing. We may not talk for days, I am fine with that.

This is not to say...I haven't failed at this occasionally. One relationship I was in, every time we disagreed on something her voice continued to get louder and louder. Every other word was "F" this and "F" that. So, I would just go to a different part of the house or out to rearrange things in the shed.

Bottom line...why argue and raise voices?


I know where you coming from about drama. My first wife was a drama queen. She love to drop the F bombs too whenever she could get a chance. It was like f-you while she threw a metal trash can lid in my direction or f-you while she ripped off the side view mirror on my car while I was making a getaway, or most evenings it was f-you while a full bottle of good jack Daniels was swung across the back of my head.... all just to do the drama makeup thing later on. smitten
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May 13, 2017 10:34 AM CST Why argue?...Why raise voices?
Dedovix
DedovixDedovixBig Place, Central Serbia Serbia12 Threads 1 Polls 5,492 Posts
sergio09: Just an opinion here. I refuse to argue with people, esp. the ones that I am in a relationship with. I try not to raise my voice...I just shut down. I HATE arguing. We may not talk for days, I am fine with that.

This is not to say...I haven't failed at this occasionally. One relationship I was in, every time we disagreed on something her voice continued to get louder and louder. Every other word was "F" this and "F" that. So, I would just go to a different part of the house or out to rearrange things in the shed.

Bottom line...why argue and raise voices?

Thats how I react with people that are in my life but I don`t really care much about them
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May 13, 2017 10:35 AM CST Why argue?...Why raise voices?
sergio09
sergio09sergio09Knoxville, Tennessee USA31 Threads 901 Posts
galrads: I know where you coming from about drama. My first wife was a drama queen. She love to drop the F bombs too whenever she could get a chance. It was like f-you while she threw a metal trash can lid in my direction or f-you while she ripped off the side view mirror on my car while I was making a getaway, or most evenings it was f-you while a full bottle of good jack Daniels was swung across the back of my head.... all just to do the drama makeup thing later on.



At least there wass a happy ending to it all...laugh
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May 13, 2017 10:36 AM CST Why argue?...Why raise voices?
sergio09
sergio09sergio09Knoxville, Tennessee USA31 Threads 901 Posts
annaroach: I think people that raise their voices in argument, are very unhappy in themselves
and with their situation, it solves nothing,, but they are just volatile,,,,, mediation needed, if serious
discussion is to be had,,


Bertrand Russell once said " Strong words indicate a weak cause"
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May 13, 2017 11:00 AM CST Why argue?...Why raise voices?
Ccincy
CcincyCcincyCincinnati, Ohio USA77 Threads 20,535 Posts
When an arguement becomes abusive I find it better to just walk away until they can calm down and talk to me in an adult voice and not childish.
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May 13, 2017 11:04 AM CST Why argue?...Why raise voices?
sergio09
sergio09sergio09Knoxville, Tennessee USA31 Threads 901 Posts
Ccincy: When an arguement becomes abusive I find it better to just walk away until they can calm down and talk to me in an adult voice and not childish.



I do the same on CS...LOL
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May 13, 2017 11:04 AM CST Why argue?...Why raise voices?
Jenny5IA
Jenny5IAJenny5IACabopino, Andalusia Spain8 Threads 247 Posts
Ccincy: When an arguement becomes abusive I find it better to just walk away until they can calm down and talk to me in an adult voice and not childish.

I haven´t finished with you yet stinky poo face!
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May 13, 2017 11:29 AM CST Why argue?...Why raise voices?
Lookin4missright
Lookin4missrightLookin4missrightmelbourne, Victoria Australia400 Threads 24,032 Posts
Jenny5IA: I haven´t finished with you yet stinky poo face!



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May 13, 2017 11:33 AM CST Why argue?...Why raise voices?
Dedovix
DedovixDedovixBig Place, Central Serbia Serbia12 Threads 1 Polls 5,492 Posts
popcorn
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May 13, 2017 11:40 AM CST Why argue?...Why raise voices?
annaroach
annaroachannaroachLimerick, Ireland217 Threads 6,747 Posts
galrads: I know where you coming from about drama. My first wife was a drama queen. She love to drop the F bombs too whenever she could get a chance. It was like f-you while she threw a metal trash can lid in my direction or f-you while she ripped off the side view mirror on my car while I was making a getaway, or most evenings it was f-you while a full bottle of good jack Daniels was swung across the back of my head.... all just to do the drama makeup thing later on.



Wow, now that is an angry womancomfort hug kiss
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