Just an opinion here. I refuse to argue with people, esp. the ones that I am in a relationship with. I try not to raise my voice...I just shut down. I HATE arguing. We may not talk for days, I am fine with that.
This is not to say...I haven't failed at this occasionally. One relationship I was in, every time we disagreed on something her voice continued to get louder and louder. Every other word was "F" this and "F" that. So, I would just go to a different part of the house or out to rearrange things in the shed.
sergio09: Just an opinion here. I refuse to argue with people, esp. the ones that I am in a relationship with. I try not to raise my voice...I just shut down. I HATE arguing. We may not talk for days, I am fine with that.
This is not to say...I haven't failed at this occasionally. One relationship I was in, every time we disagreed on something her voice continued to get louder and louder. Every other word was "F" this and "F" that. So, I would just go to a different part of the house or out to rearrange things in the shed.
Bottom line...why argue and raise voices?
I think people that raise their voices in argument, are very unhappy in themselves and with their situation, it solves nothing,, but they are just volatile,,,,, mediation needed, if serious discussion is to be had,,
sergio09: Just an opinion here. I refuse to argue with people, esp. the ones that I am in a relationship with. I try not to raise my voice...I just shut down. I HATE arguing. We may not talk for days, I am fine with that.
This is not to say...I haven't failed at this occasionally. One relationship I was in, every time we disagreed on something her voice continued to get louder and louder. Every other word was "F" this and "F" that. So, I would just go to a different part of the house or out to rearrange things in the shed.
Bottom line...why argue and raise voices?
I know where you coming from about drama. My first wife was a drama queen. She love to drop the F bombs too whenever she could get a chance. It was like f-you while she threw a metal trash can lid in my direction or f-you while she ripped off the side view mirror on my car while I was making a getaway, or most evenings it was f-you while a full bottle of good jack Daniels was swung across the back of my head.... all just to do the drama makeup thing later on.
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sergio09: Just an opinion here. I refuse to argue with people, esp. the ones that I am in a relationship with. I try not to raise my voice...I just shut down. I HATE arguing. We may not talk for days, I am fine with that.
This is not to say...I haven't failed at this occasionally. One relationship I was in, every time we disagreed on something her voice continued to get louder and louder. Every other word was "F" this and "F" that. So, I would just go to a different part of the house or out to rearrange things in the shed.
Bottom line...why argue and raise voices?
Thats how I react with people that are in my life but I don`t really care much about them
galrads: I know where you coming from about drama. My first wife was a drama queen. She love to drop the F bombs too whenever she could get a chance. It was like f-you while she threw a metal trash can lid in my direction or f-you while she ripped off the side view mirror on my car while I was making a getaway, or most evenings it was f-you while a full bottle of good jack Daniels was swung across the back of my head.... all just to do the drama makeup thing later on.
annaroach: I think people that raise their voices in argument, are very unhappy in themselves and with their situation, it solves nothing,, but they are just volatile,,,,, mediation needed, if serious discussion is to be had,,
Bertrand Russell once said " Strong words indicate a weak cause"
Ccincy: When an arguement becomes abusive I find it better to just walk away until they can calm down and talk to me in an adult voice and not childish.
Ccincy: When an arguement becomes abusive I find it better to just walk away until they can calm down and talk to me in an adult voice and not childish.
galrads: I know where you coming from about drama. My first wife was a drama queen. She love to drop the F bombs too whenever she could get a chance. It was like f-you while she threw a metal trash can lid in my direction or f-you while she ripped off the side view mirror on my car while I was making a getaway, or most evenings it was f-you while a full bottle of good jack Daniels was swung across the back of my head.... all just to do the drama makeup thing later on.
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This is not to say...I haven't failed at this occasionally. One relationship I was in, every time we disagreed on something her voice continued to get louder and louder. Every other word was "F" this and "F" that. So, I would just go to a different part of the house or out to rearrange things in the shed.
Bottom line...why argue and raise voices?