SINGLEDOM...do you think it becomes CHRONIC ... after ( Archived) (51)

Hey Molly, yep I did change location, was on vacation only in Spain, am now back in the Danish green winter

Agree, resting in yourself is essential - & not always easy

I really like the way you express it, and totally agree; we ALL get our own weird single habits; so we need to find smb who is more or less weird in the same way like us

Yep

Singledom is a fortress to which I alone have the key. It sits a-bottom relationship's rocky ravine, offering me shelter, peace and nourishment before again engaging evolution's selfish biological crusade.

The key to being a happy single is maintaining the distorted, fanciful imaginings that I won't sabotage my next relationship with my neurosis, even if I believe my neurosis to be endearing.

And m**turbation

This is super advice, which I am gonna follow, I also used to love making lists to clear my thoughts on hard decisions years ago, gonna get out pen & paper


Guess its important to feel good about yourself & clear on where you're heading before rushing any where

Its TOUGH, and yeah intimicy is also a problem, but we get wiser & stronger every time, and ppl want to be there for you, just ask for it

No one is ever truly happy being single but that doesn't mean rushing into a relationship & choosing the wrong partner as a result!
I'm content being single, just need that missing link to complete me!

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You are correct in that thought but l am 'alone' 8 years but happy, this is only because l have other diversions, if l had stopped meeting girls for odd nights and weekends possibly l would be more serious in my search, not in all cases but in a few over the past 8 years l have had some fairly serious thoughts about the other person but somehow it has never been more than a couple of months, it has always been me that has stopped the contact and never the girl so l believe that l will not break the cycle, at times you need be honest with yourself and come to a conclusion.

I had a very beautiful and caring Ukrainian girl of 35 with all bits in correct places and she knew exactly what she wanted, due to an 'oversight' by her regarding personal hygiene l found that l wanted no more with her, so l am a very rigid person in my list of things that l will accept. When one is paying the bills l think its he who calls the shots.

I think subconsciously , you knew that , deep down , your recent encounters were doomed to failure, from the beginning . Maybe that's why you chose them, knowing full well , it was never going to last & no feeling would be spared.
People often fear to really commit because of past failures & don't want to go through the hurt & heartache again.