THE Lonely Narcissist!! (172)
MikeD12: I agree - we can and so - all make mistakes.
I was brought up to apologise If I have offended someone unintentionally and will readily do so if they show the specific error. End OF
I was brought up to apologise If I have offended someone unintentionally and will readily do so if they show the specific error. End OF
I would also apologize if i had upset someone,,, it is the right thing to do
But they can dish it out and expect it to be ok,, it's not ok for me!!
------ This thread is Archived ------
MikeD12: I agree - But he has shown evidence of deliberate and malicious intent to women he
disagreed with and others where he made an unprovoked snide remark.
The only cure in any important team job is dismissal
disagreed with and others where he made an unprovoked snide remark.
The only cure in any important team job is dismissal
You mean the one you just made about jac on the Linda jones blog
------ This thread is Archived ------
The title said " The lonely Narcissist " and naturally I thought it was another thread about Trump !
------ This thread is Archived ------
Grouchyoldfart: The title said " The lonely Narcissist " and naturally I thought it was another thread about Trump !
Nope, not this time,,, any views on the subject ?
------ This thread is Archived ------
MikeD12: I agree - we can and so - all make mistakes.
I was brought up to apologise If I have offended someone unintentionally and will readily do so if they show the specific error. End OF
I was brought up to apologise If I have offended someone unintentionally and will readily do so if they show the specific error. End OF
The narcissist would be oblivious to the fact of having offended someone,
or think it was their fault anyway,,,,,,, so would be unable to say sorry just that simple word, because, they think
that they can do no wrong!!
------ This thread is Archived ------
One2note: You mean the one you just made about jac on the Linda jones blog
I advertised Welsh Broomsticks so ?
------ This thread is Archived ------
You are welcome to use this thread to comment on the subject in question,
Not to have a a snipe at someone ,thanks !!
Not to have a a snipe at someone ,thanks !!
------ This thread is Archived ------
annaroach: You are welcome to use this thread to comment on the subject in question,
Not to have a a snipe at someone ,thanks !!
Not to have a a snipe at someone ,thanks !!
I´m far too handsome to comment at all. I´m going to look at myself naked standing over my mirror
------ This thread is Archived ------
Bnaughty: I´m far too handsome to comment at all. I´m going to look at myself naked standing over my mirror
I hope you love what you see,,,,,,,,,and to quote lookin........" any pics"
------ This thread is Archived ------
Deedee123x: Indeed it is Anna a very lonely and sad disorder I'm sure.
I know one or two....they can't see much beyond their own nose.
They have a provoking antagonistic personality and when confronted with this will twist and turn it all around to make u look like th em bad one!!
There is no known cure...but what usually happens is these people (they usually are of the assumption that they are highly and I mean highly intelligent...handsome gorgeous the works...think they r better than everyone else)...they tend to get seen through very quicklying and slowly but surely people will drift away from them...and want nothing more to do with them....of course them being a narcissist they will assume it's everyone else's fault but their own because self reflection and self awareness are not in their vocabulary. ..why should it I mean they are perfect (in their eyes)....I even doubt when these people are inevitably left all alone at the end of their lives do they even then think...maybe I'm the cause of my loneliness and isolation from the world.
Even sadder is their own flesh n blood tend to want nothing to do with them in the end either.
It makes for a sad pathetic existence and I wish anyone suffering from this disorder to maybe someday when they can stop looking at themselves on reflective sur faces that they may look at their actions instead.
May God bless them
I know one or two....they can't see much beyond their own nose.
They have a provoking antagonistic personality and when confronted with this will twist and turn it all around to make u look like th em bad one!!
There is no known cure...but what usually happens is these people (they usually are of the assumption that they are highly and I mean highly intelligent...handsome gorgeous the works...think they r better than everyone else)...they tend to get seen through very quicklying and slowly but surely people will drift away from them...and want nothing more to do with them....of course them being a narcissist they will assume it's everyone else's fault but their own because self reflection and self awareness are not in their vocabulary. ..why should it I mean they are perfect (in their eyes)....I even doubt when these people are inevitably left all alone at the end of their lives do they even then think...maybe I'm the cause of my loneliness and isolation from the world.
Even sadder is their own flesh n blood tend to want nothing to do with them in the end either.
It makes for a sad pathetic existence and I wish anyone suffering from this disorder to maybe someday when they can stop looking at themselves on reflective sur faces that they may look at their actions instead.
May God bless them
So you have experienced it first hand
Such a sad existence, i feel sorry for them really!
------ This thread is Archived ------
annaroach: I hope you love what you see,,,,,,,,,and to quote lookin........" any pics"
Yes lots of pics, very provocative starfish ones
------ This thread is Archived ------
annaroach: I hope you love what you see,,,,,,,,,and to quote lookin........" any pics"
..Anna...I am flabbergasted to know after reading about this subject, that I have had the misfortune to know a past relationship was just like this...no wonder I ran.....far away!
I always knew in the back of my mind, something was askew
Well now I know...........
Nice to see you back here
------ This thread is Archived ------
Lilith10: ..Anna...I am flabbergasted to know after reading about this subject, that I have had the misfortune to know a past relationship was just like this...no wonder I ran.....far away!
I always knew in the back of my mind, something was askew
Well now I know...........
Nice to see you back here
I always knew in the back of my mind, something was askew
Well now I know...........
Nice to see you back here
Hi Lilith, i'm glad to be of help, a fascinating subject, i never knew about all of this until today
Imagine that, you never knew,,,, ,,it is a bad day that we don't learn something,,,,,, thankfully.
Thank you,, i came back for another while anyway.
------ This thread is Archived ------
Bnaughty: Yes lots of pics, very provocative starfish ones
Oh the mind boggles!!
------ This thread is Archived ------
Jealousy, attention seeking, lies, non apologetic, , loving dating sites
so very obviously full of themselves, in denial, , and so many more.
Things to look out for peeps,,,, wouldn't want to end up getting involved,,,,,, not knowing !!
so very obviously full of themselves, in denial, , and so many more.
Things to look out for peeps,,,, wouldn't want to end up getting involved,,,,,, not knowing !!
------ This thread is Archived ------
annaroach: How could someone fall for someone,, ,,if he/she undervalues them.
Hello, annaroach,
in my case I can say it was not like that that I fell for him (the dad of my daughter). I only looked unconsciously for a familiar structure (I grew up with a narcissistic parent - not my dad).
But anyway, in the beginning someone with a narcissistic disorder makes you feel special. It is like a golden time in the beginning. And that you feel special has the reason that the narcissist mirrors you, and you think, oh my, I never met someone with whom I get along so freakishly well. You can´t know that it is intentional lulling you. Then, after that first "happy" time (the narcissist does not love you) the time of belittling starts. You wonder what happens. You have a bad conscience because the narcissist is perfect in making you think that you did something wrong. This all happens in a subtle way.
It does not play any role if you and the narcissist are just in an (alleged) happy or unhappy phase - the narcissist himself is empty in himself. He lives from your feelings. He needs the energy that he produces in you through pretending feelings for you or through seeing how bad you feel because of and during his manipulations. You as a person don´t exist, only the role you play or better your function is important. You are only a source of energy for him.
He can not change. There is no therapy. I think extremely intelligent narcissists can be told that they have a narcissistic personality disorder, but that does not mean they will ever be able to reflect and be able to feel guilt.
When you talk with a narcissist about his anti-social behaviour towards you or others and expect that he will understand anything of what you say, then you will understand that you are the one who did not understand what that personality disorder means. I spent so many nights on my terrace years ago, thinking about how I could tell him how abusive he is, but I thought against walls :-)
I think people with that disorder have never experienced a loving parent who taught good normal social behaviour. And/or maybe they had a narcissistic role model and no help and learned to survive with bad social mechanisms.
It is difficult to deal with someone with that disorder because, even if you go no contact they will reappear when they need new energy (when they just lost another source of energy).
Sorry for the long post :-)
------ This thread is Archived ------
Innocentia00122: Hello, annaroach,
in my case I can say it was not like that that I fell for him (the dad of my daughter). I only looked unconsciously for a familiar structure (I grew up with a narcissistic parent - not my dad).
But anyway, in the beginning someone with a narcissistic disorder makes you feel special. It is like a golden time in the beginning. And that you feel special has the reason that the narcissist mirrors you, and you think, oh my, I never met someone with whom I get along so freakishly well. You can´t know that it is intentional lulling you. Then, after that first "happy" time (the narcissist does not love you) the time of belittling starts. You wonder what happens. You have a bad conscience because the narcissist is perfect in making you think that you did something wrong. This all happens in a subtle way.
It does not play any role if you and the narcissist are just in an (alleged) happy or unhappy phase - the narcissist himself is empty in himself. He lives from your feelings. He needs the energy that he produces in you through pretending feelings for you or through seeing how bad you feel because of and during his manipulations. You as a person don´t exist, only the role you play or better your function is important. You are only a source of energy for him.
He can not change. There is no therapy. I think extremely intelligent narcissists can be told that they have a narcissistic personality disorder, but that does not mean they will ever be able to reflect and be able to feel guilt.
When you talk with a narcissist about his anti-social behaviour towards you or others and expect that he will understand anything of what you say, then you will understand that you are the one who did not understand what that personality disorder means. I spent so many nights on my terrace years ago, thinking about how I could tell him how abusive he is, but I thought against walls :-)
I think people with that disorder have never experienced a loving parent who taught good normal social behaviour. And/or maybe they had a narcissistic role model and no help and learned to survive with bad social mechanisms.
It is difficult to deal with someone with that disorder because, even if you go no contact they will reappear when they need new energy (when they just lost another source of energy).
Sorry for the long post :-)
in my case I can say it was not like that that I fell for him (the dad of my daughter). I only looked unconsciously for a familiar structure (I grew up with a narcissistic parent - not my dad).
But anyway, in the beginning someone with a narcissistic disorder makes you feel special. It is like a golden time in the beginning. And that you feel special has the reason that the narcissist mirrors you, and you think, oh my, I never met someone with whom I get along so freakishly well. You can´t know that it is intentional lulling you. Then, after that first "happy" time (the narcissist does not love you) the time of belittling starts. You wonder what happens. You have a bad conscience because the narcissist is perfect in making you think that you did something wrong. This all happens in a subtle way.
It does not play any role if you and the narcissist are just in an (alleged) happy or unhappy phase - the narcissist himself is empty in himself. He lives from your feelings. He needs the energy that he produces in you through pretending feelings for you or through seeing how bad you feel because of and during his manipulations. You as a person don´t exist, only the role you play or better your function is important. You are only a source of energy for him.
He can not change. There is no therapy. I think extremely intelligent narcissists can be told that they have a narcissistic personality disorder, but that does not mean they will ever be able to reflect and be able to feel guilt.
When you talk with a narcissist about his anti-social behaviour towards you or others and expect that he will understand anything of what you say, then you will understand that you are the one who did not understand what that personality disorder means. I spent so many nights on my terrace years ago, thinking about how I could tell him how abusive he is, but I thought against walls :-)
I think people with that disorder have never experienced a loving parent who taught good normal social behaviour. And/or maybe they had a narcissistic role model and no help and learned to survive with bad social mechanisms.
It is difficult to deal with someone with that disorder because, even if you go no contact they will reappear when they need new energy (when they just lost another source of energy).
Sorry for the long post :-)
Don't be sorry for your long post,, it is good to hear your story.
wasn't nice for you, maybe as a young girl not understanding it fully.
I didn't understand the full implications of it .
Thank you for sharing , hope you are in a good place now.
------ This thread is Archived ------
I don't feel sorry for narcissists...I feel sorry for anybody who comes in contact with them.
------ This thread is Archived ------
mollybaby: I don't feel sorry for narcissists...I feel sorry for anybody who comes in contact with them.
Yes Molly, it would be difficult to live with someone with that behaviour,, impossible even.
------ This thread is Archived ------
This Thread is Archived
This Thread is archived, so you will no longer be able to post to it. Threads get archived automatically when they are older than 3 months.
« Go back to All Threads
« Go back to All Threads
More Threads
If Our Profiles Were Truly Honest
Cat Calling
Iran- Israel war
Keep It Going!
No Burning Bodies
Trump on Trial
Should CS charge EVERYone a fee to keep fake profiles and scammers out?
Eid Mubarak
So, . . .
Which Of These Is Your Favorite Breakfast
More Threads
Report threads that break rules, are offensive, or contain fighting. Staff may not be aware of the forum abuse, and cannot do anything about it unless you tell us about it. click to report forum abuse »
If one of the comments is offensive, please report the comment instead (there is a link in each comment to report it).
If one of the comments is offensive, please report the comment instead (there is a link in each comment to report it).
The tapestry of life