Snookums33OPJoburg, Gauteng South Africa5,760 posts
Bogart_1960: I am sorry you had to go through that!
Life goes on. He comes to visit his family here every couple of years and then demands to see my kids. He has no rights to them anymore by court order, I wish he would realise it and leave us alone.
rainbowdream2017Melbourne, Victoria Australia2,486 posts
rizlared: What she said,
No two people are the same, so comparing would be pointless, and may even destroy an otherwise perfect friendship. IMO
Nobody's perfect and even in the best relationship, each of us falls down and get up again, hopefully with given hand of understanding to each other different needs...and to see and accept an imperfect person perfectly and still love him/her completely; that's a joy of life.
I am perfectly imperfect and accept my self perfectly... : and if I ever manage to become perfect, I have to die instantly before ruining that perfection.
rainbowdream2017: Nobody's perfect and even in the best relationship, each of us falls down and get up again, hopefully with given hand of understanding to each other different needs...and to see and accept an imperfect person perfectly and still love him/her completely; that's a joy of life.
I am perfectly imperfect and accept my self perfectly... : and if I ever manage to become perfect, I have to die instantly before ruining that perfection.
OK so - Show us Pnky & Perky so Tom can do a B4 & after comparison check to see the difference before you shut the door and when you re-incarnate
rainbowdream2017Melbourne, Victoria Australia2,486 posts
MikeD12: OK so - Show us Pnky & Perky so Tom can do a B4 & after comparison check to see the difference before you shut the door and when you re-incarnate
OK so -show us first what you have to do comparison check... .
Your questions made me think now and I can frankly say "No", never consciously compared men...If I'm in a relationship or even just dating the last thing on my mind will be my ex...
I've met women and come to find out later they are widows. They compare men, measure them up to the gold standard they lost. They probably don't want to but when the widow(ears) put someone on a pedestal like that it's probably hard not too, especially if there are children. I've been guilty of that. I like to live in the present.
rainbowdream2017: Nobody's perfect and even in the best relationship, each of us falls down and get up again, hopefully with given hand of understanding to each other different needs...and to see and accept an imperfect person perfectly and still love him/her completely; that's a joy of life.
I am perfectly imperfect and accept my self perfectly... : and if I ever manage to become perfect, I have to die instantly before ruining that perfection.
I didn't say perfect relationship I absolutely agree that no one is perfect, but I think it is possible to have a very near as perfect friendship, a relationship has more expectations so perfection is never possible.
Snookums33OPJoburg, Gauteng South Africa5,760 posts
2intrigued: Nope, I wouldn't compare a new person with my ex but I'd make darn sure I'm not falling into the same trap as I did with my ex.
Yes ur gullible, young, trusting and believing. U wish for happiness and all u get is a player. (It kinda make u not believe in the well spoken anymore)
Snookums33OPJoburg, Gauteng South Africa5,760 posts
rainbowdream2017: Nobody's perfect and even in the best relationship, each of us falls down and get up again, hopefully with given hand of understanding to each other different needs...and to see and accept an imperfect person perfectly and still love him/her completely; that's a joy of life.
I am perfectly imperfect and accept my self perfectly... : and if I ever manage to become perfect, I have to die instantly before ruining that perfection.
Snookums33OPJoburg, Gauteng South Africa5,760 posts
ChesneyChrist: I don't approach each new relationship as fresh as a virgin nor has it been so long that I've forgotten my experience with women. I compare how each woman makes me feel, and why. I don't expect my current girlfriend to be equal and superior to my ex in every way nevertheless experience matters, it does evolve my personality it serves no good to consider only the prospects of the next and last 5 minutes.
Snookums33OPJoburg, Gauteng South Africa5,760 posts
KremaP: Your questions made me think now and I can frankly say "No", never consciously compared men...If I'm in a relationship or even just dating the last thing on my mind will be my ex...
I compare all of them:-
I'm serous, if I find any of the ex'es very bad characteristics, like violence, it is bye bye.
Snookums33OPJoburg, Gauteng South Africa5,760 posts
galrads: I've met women and come to find out later they are widows. They compare men, measure them up to the gold standard they lost. They probably don't want to but when the widow(ears) put someone on a pedestal like that it's probably hard not too, especially if there are children. I've been guilty of that. I like to live in the present.
While together still, I was the breadwinner, he sponged off me, and look lots of money from my bank account as he felt he was owed it (without doing a stitch of work)
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