Snookums33OPJoburg, Gauteng South Africa5,760 posts
Most people expect others to change per their requirements:-
I don't like ur pants, buy others Ur hair is too short, I prefer long hair Please be friendlier to my Mom My friends expect u to be..... Stop being so negative
U have experienced the rest, as well
If I ask anyone if they try to change others, the answer is always No !!!
Snookums33OPJoburg, Gauteng South Africa5,760 posts
KremaP: It's mostly a women thing... They can't wait to get their hands on your wardrobe, hair, interior and group of friends... Men usually say they want to be accepted for what they are ...but women never listen...she already plans your total make over... Just to say "you're are not the man I fell in love with"... after the transformation is completed...
Most of my friends r men, and none of them have ever not wanted to change me, that's why they're friends only !
KremaP: It's mostly a women thing... They can't wait to get their hands on your wardrobe, hair, interior and group of friends... Men usually say they want to be accepted for what they are ...but women never listen...she already plans your total make over... Just to say "you're are not the man I fell in love with"... after the transformation is completed...
Snookums33OPJoburg, Gauteng South Africa5,760 posts
KremaP: It's mostly a women thing... They can't wait to get their hands on your wardrobe, hair, interior and group of friends... Men usually say they want to be accepted for what they are ...but women never listen...she already plans your total make over... Just to say "you're are not the man I fell in love with"... after the transformation is completed...
I think people should have their own identity. Whether they are friends or in a relationship, those who have their own identity should be able to co-exist in each other's lives without having to change. Change is a part of growth and everyone should grow at their own pace and comfort without anyone's preference to influence them. No one should have to change because someone else says so and should respect people who they are.
Snookums33OPJoburg, Gauteng South Africa5,760 posts
Quixotic2k17: I think people should have their own identity. Whether they are friends or in a relationship, those who have their own identity should be able to co-exist in each other's lives without having to change. Change is a part of growth and everyone should grow at their own pace and comfort without anyone's preference to influence them. No one should have to change because someone else says so and should respect people who they are.
If I were to say that I'm the same person inside now than when little, would u have according to ur writeup have me rather changed thru the years to make the rest of humankind happy ?
Snookums33OPJoburg, Gauteng South Africa5,760 posts
Lookin4missright: I concur papa lookin had plans for me to study something and go to Oxford University in England and be successful at something being a proud Polish man that he was (i think or stubborn)
That was in 1963 when little lookin popped out ( hello ) ... he died in 1969 so i became a truckdriver
Just imagine i could have been a Pom and if i became a clock maker, Big Ben might have been a bit different to what it is now
And i'd be able to spell and put commas ect in their right places
Why should anyone change the way they are for someone else? Later in life that person who changes will change back to who they are and it will seem like a waste of time in this short life of ours. And if we change for someone else in a relation that only hurts that relation down the road. Everyone just needs to be themselves and if another does not like that person, just move on but respect who that person is. Being who one naturally is is what makes this a great wonderful world, but only if that person is truly who they are.
Snookums33OPJoburg, Gauteng South Africa5,760 posts
stemik62: Why should anyone change the way they are for someone else? Later in life that person who changes will change back to who they are and it will seem like a waste of time in this short life of ours. And if we change for someone else in a relation that only hurts that relation down the road. Everyone just needs to be themselves and if another does not like that person, just move on but respect who that person is. Being who one naturally is is what makes this a great wonderful world, but only if that person is truly who they are.
Lookin4missright: I concur papa lookin had plans for me to study something and go to Oxford University in England and be successful at something being a proud Polish man that he was (i think or stubborn)
That was in 1963 when little lookin popped out ( hello ) ... he died in 1969 so i became a truckdriver
Just imagine i could have been a Pom and if i became a clock maker, Big Ben might have been a bit different to what it is now
And i'd be able to spell and put commas ect in their right places
Pssst dude, I think Big Ben is the GREAT BIG Bell hanging behind the clock.... jest saying.
KremaP: It's mostly a women thing... They can't wait to get their hands on your wardrobe, hair, interior and group of friends... Men usually say they want to be accepted for what they are ...but women never listen...she already plans your total make over... Just to say "you're are not the man I fell in love with"... after the transformation is completed...
I reckon if you're trying to change someone, it maybe because you're with the wrong person anyway...I'll go back to what I said on a different thread, To many people fall in love with someone they don't like.
Snookums33OPJoburg, Gauteng South Africa5,760 posts
Mickmjb: I reckon if you're trying to change someone, it maybe because you're with the wrong person anyway...I'll go back to what I said on a different thread, To many people fall in love with someone they don't like.
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I don't like ur pants, buy others
Ur hair is too short, I prefer long hair
Please be friendlier to my Mom
My friends expect u to be.....
Stop being so negative
U have experienced the rest, as well
If I ask anyone if they try to change others, the answer is always No !!!