Do you think is right to chat to multiple people at one time? (108)
BerrySmoothie: John,
If you ever "meet" someone ONLINE, they curl ya toes.....and the feeling is definitely mutual.....your best chance of survival is to take it OFFLINE....dispense with online dating sites....give yourselves the opportunity to get to know one another in real life.
We all know sites like these are the ever revolving candy store.
If you're seriously interested in pursuing a relationship, then give CS the boot...you won't need the distraction, because you'll have each other to focus on and enjoy.
If it works out, you may come back as an item(or not), or if it doesn't work, you can always return anyway.
But, temporarily, at least, you both need that time.....alone....to give yourselves more than a fighting chance.
JMO....
If you ever "meet" someone ONLINE, they curl ya toes.....and the feeling is definitely mutual.....your best chance of survival is to take it OFFLINE....dispense with online dating sites....give yourselves the opportunity to get to know one another in real life.
We all know sites like these are the ever revolving candy store.
If you're seriously interested in pursuing a relationship, then give CS the boot...you won't need the distraction, because you'll have each other to focus on and enjoy.
If it works out, you may come back as an item(or not), or if it doesn't work, you can always return anyway.
But, temporarily, at least, you both need that time.....alone....to give yourselves more than a fighting chance.
JMO....
nicely stated
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One2note: Does online dating mean you should be exclusive to one person , or do you think it's morally ok to talk to multiple people, considering there may be feelings involved?
Is it dating or socializing? Either one can turn into a waste of time and resources at some points here and there. As long as caution isn't thrown totally to the wind, I think most things can be recovered from.
If it's actually for dating purposes, one at a time seems a better choice. Try more than one in real life at a time, and it generally doesn't go so well. How could it turn out much different in a virtual life? There are both, men and women, with views that these types of sites are great for "hookups", notches, good times at others' expense, even games of the video variety. Maybe just about any type of variety possible, is available some where.
If interested in a person, do you really want them considering more than just you? Worse still, maybe trying to "include" you in a different place and/or time slot?
Many just use these sites for socializing. If that's the purpose, what can you say one way or the other?
People from all walks of life are in and out of the revolving door provided by online dating. How are you going to have a chance of knowing what you might be able to have, if you over fill the basket with more than you can actually handle or take in?
Of course; with the mention of many different types of people, it's not going to matter what a personal opinion might be. Whether by accident or on purpose, all will do what they do, according to what they want, or think they want. The question of actual feelings existing, may be another matter entirely. I think people become much more calloused through a type of anonymity, also provided by a virtual life. These forums certainly don't shave or erode callouses away.
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Really? I don't think too many women are comfortable with having a potential boyfriend chatting with different women at one time. If we must chat with other people, we must be honest about it...Is the decent thing to do. Why string people along to satisfy our selfish needs? G
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Really? I seriously doubt many women are happy with a potential partner wanting to chat with multiple women at one time. I would not want to waste my time with someone who desires to chat with multiple women at one time. These days relationships are difficult enough and when we add stringing people along the problem gets compounded. If we must chat with more than one person at one time, we must be upfront about it. Is the decent thing to do, I think. G
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I used to love to flirt with the blond beauties in Eastern Europe, a few of them were actually real. I think most of them were weirded out by the whole thing though. I was nice though and so were they. Since I didnt have a jet and a castle near them, getting to know them was difficult, much less anything physical. Its also possible even a man could wind up in a hole somewhere chasing dreams like that.
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I used to love to flirt with the blond beauties in Eastern Europe, a few of them were actually real. I think most of them were weirded out by the whole thing though. I was nice though and so were they. Since I didnt have a jet and a castle near them, getting to know them was difficult, much less anything physical. Its also possible even a man could wind up in a hole somewhere chasing dreams like that.
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One2note: Does online dating mean you should be exclusive to one person , or do you think it's morally ok to talk to multiple people, considering there may be feelings involved?
Whatever you both decide from the beginning. This is a dating site and you get quite a list build up in the mail, so you have to reply to lots of people out of courtesy.
You can, however, see on messenger for example where people are having multiple conversations at the same time when talking to you and my advice is to drop them immediately as they are time wasters and move onto the next one. Also you can see here on the CS site on your favourite list if the other person has been on here recently. It shows the date.
End of serious conversation and back to the mailbox.
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i'm not sure how you drew that conclusion....
if ya found the right egg...put it in the basket
i'm saying...
be true to oneself, with honesty and integrity.... however that manifests for you.
one egg/ one basket
plenty of eggs/ one basket
no eggs/ no basket
one egg/ two baskets or more
plenty of eggs/ plenty of baskets
i'm saying put honesty and transparency into the equation and be open and fair, and communicate with whomever you are chatting with, so they can make informed choices, too.