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Let_Us: “Good enough for government work, Dee! And thanks for taking the time to answer! I WASN'T sure you would! But now, let me ask THIS. In YOUR opinion, was your upbringing TYPICAL, of girls being raised in Ireland?”

Well I wouldn't normally say that much about myself but given I started the thread I felt I should answer.
What do u mean by 'Good enough for Government work?'

I can only know what went on under our roof growing up.
But typically I find the Mother rules the roost.
The Father was the bread winner.
Mothers were the disciplinarians and the fathers were the ones u went to when the mothers said no to some request that u asked.

However I'm sure there were plenty of other types of upbringings in Ireland...but this is one I know of.

Now for my question for you if I may.

You have said time and again u are socially awkward in your answers to others.
How are u socially awkward.
Have u always been this way and does it stem from your own upbringing?

I'm not nosey but curious to know more about people.
U have the right to say No.

#1. "Good enough for government work." was in response to your question "Does that answer your question?" It's an old "Americanism", meaning that, while it MAY NOT be 100% perfect, the government inspectors will accept/pass it.

As far as being "socially awkward", I was raised in a family (mother, father, older sister, and me) that WASN'T emotionally demonstrative. We NEVER hugged, or made any type of OUTWARD SHOW of "caring". So I had no "example" of how to relate to others, emotionally. And so, I have ALWAYS felt "awkward/reluctant" about how to "interact" with other people. Male and female. ESPECIALLY with females, once I learned that there WAS "something" different, with/about females. On top of THAT, I'm an introvert. (I KNOW none of you believe that, but it's true, nonetheless.) Plus, I was brought up with "Yes, ma'am. And "No, sir." Let's just call it a "sense" of "deference" towards others. But I'm inherently "intelligent" (according to ALL sources). And, when you combine the introversion, the deference, and the intelligence, you end up with a person who tends to "think" first, before he talks. Consequently, because I go through "contortions" (in my head" before I say anything), I'm NOT particularly "good" at social "repartee". Not that I can't think of good responses, but that I DON'T say them - quickly enough. Which is PART of "good" repartee. A CONSTANT/IMMEDIATE back and forth between people. So, to keep from keeping people waiting on MY part of the conversation, I tend to tell the "truth", as "I" see it! Plus I'm blunt, to the point that some people are offended by my "comments". And THAT is NOT what most people want/are looking for, in social banter. They want quick, and "witty" (funny). NOT "truth, or reasoned answers. So I'm NOT really "good" in "social" situations/interactions. On paper, I'm fine. Because I have the "time" to "think", and formulate an ACCEPTABLE response. But, in person, combined with my introversion, I tend to be much more of an "observer " (in the background), than you see me, here, in the forums. Because of the format, here, I can take whatever time I want/need to "construct" my responses. Not that I ALWAYS take a lot of time. Here, I tend to "shoot from the hip", more than I would, in a social situation. But that's because #1. I'm NOT concerned with you reaching for your gun! Or that you're going to go burn down my house. Or ANY of those types of things. #2. Because we AREN'T in a situation where we (and others) can SEE each others responses, I'll never KNOW if I've embarrassed you, or if you are "displeased" with my response, but don't/won't show/admit it. And there are other reasons that I don't have room for, here. But, I've been this way for as long as I can remember. HOPEFULLY, THAT answers your question, for you.

But I MUST say that I find it INTERESTING that you asked, seeing that you banned me from one of your threads!