Snookums33OPJoburg, Gauteng South Africa5,760 posts
Just accept urself as is. Voetstoots. Do not change for others benefit, u only have to please urself.
When u get constructive criticism from a loved one consider it. If it does not suit u as a person, just don't do it !
When someone does not like something about u, tell them to find the person they want elsewhere then. E.g. They don' like ur hair, body, voice, and many more ?
yubba: . Some like it like that Krema and post hundreds of threads here only to throw sheet at posters when they do not fall in line with its thinking.
I agree Yubba, I usually try to ignore the reason behind and answer to what I believe the question should be... When we put on a side the extremes and the sickening trends forced on us, our opinions can be understood pretty easily I believe...
Snookums33OPJoburg, Gauteng South Africa5,760 posts
Tanqueray: Why ?
I'm not the most eloquent person, but will try to explain, in my way:-
If u love urself, u have high self-esteem, and u accept love and attention, not wonder why ur getting it. If u don't love urself, u don't expect people to love u, and thus do not believe it someone tells u that they love u as u doubt it, and r always querying ur self-worthiness.
U have to make peace with urself, and learn to love urself !!!
Snookums33OPJoburg, Gauteng South Africa5,760 posts
KremaP: To love yourself should not be understood like having a high self esteem... The way you treat others speaks louder than what you think of yourself... If you have love you give love, if you have high self esteem you walk over others... We should be ready to not expect anything in return when we give...actually the more we give the more we have to give...
U automatically have a high self esteem, if u love urself:- and No, u do not walk over others, u just make ur point known, and not keep quiet, else they then walk over u.
I give a lot out of my heart, to all that I feel need it, and expect nothing back. and No u don't end up giving more and more, as they r then using U.
You'll hunt down and punish others for breaking your own rules, but forgive yourself for doing the same. All your relationships with others will be based on hypocrisy and fear because of self-cherishment and who is to say you gain the upper hand every time and do not instead become victim to an abusive tyrant oblivious to anything they do wrong?
Snookums33OPJoburg, Gauteng South Africa5,760 posts
ChesneyChrist: You'll hunt down and punish others for breaking your own rules, but forgive yourself for doing the same. All your relationships with others will be based on hypocrisy and fear because of self-cherishment and who is to say you gain the upper hand every time and do not instead become victim to an abusive tyrant oblivious to anything they do wrong?
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When u get constructive criticism from a loved one consider it. If it does not suit u as a person, just don't do it !
When someone does not like something about u, tell them to find the person they want elsewhere then.
E.g.
They don' like ur hair, body, voice, and many more ?
Tell them to go fly a kite !