Are you afraid of being hurt again? (209)
Maya74Atlanta, Georgia USA7 Threads 170 PostsIdeally - we should learn from our past mistakes and enter new relationships with that knowledge, yet fresh and capable to love and trust wholeheartedly again. But, can we really do that? Or do we develop all sorts of ways to protect ourselves from being hurt again and thus - maybe - prevent ourselves from being truly happy with someone else?
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Maya74: Ideally - we should learn from our past mistakes and enter new relationships with that knowledge, yet fresh and capable to love and trust wholeheartedly again. But, can we really do that? Or do we develop all sorts of ways to protect ourselves from being hurt again and thus - maybe - prevent ourselves from being truly happy with someone else?
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No I don't give a sheet now, I can survive anything simply because I have been kicked so many times I will never get so attached to anyone anymore.
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yubba: .
No I don't give a sheet now, I can survive anything simply because I have been kicked so many times I will never get so attached to anyone anymore.
No I don't give a sheet now, I can survive anything simply because I have been kicked so many times I will never get so attached to anyone anymore.
I hope thats not true.
No one should be alone
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Maya74: Ideally - we should learn from our past mistakes and enter new relationships with that knowledge, yet fresh and capable to love and trust wholeheartedly again. But, can we really do that? Or do we develop all sorts of ways to protect ourselves from being hurt again and thus - maybe - prevent ourselves from being truly happy with someone else?
it is difficult to love once your heart has been broken but we should not carry that with us into a new relationship. First, we have to deal with the rejection, which in itself can be crippling. Then give oneself enough time to grieve as sometime it can be carcrash breakup other times it is gradual. Just remember to love yourself because your worth is not based on just one persons inability to love you...
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Maya74: Ideally - we should learn from our past mistakes and enter new relationships with that knowledge, yet fresh and capable to love and trust wholeheartedly again. But, can we really do that? Or do we develop all sorts of ways to protect ourselves from being hurt again and thus - maybe - prevent ourselves from being truly happy with someone else?
I think if you have truly loved, and had your heart broken, it is difficult to ever totally forget that.
You may be a little more reticent going into a new relationship, and when in it, slower to allow yourself to fall in love again.
However, I believe that if conditions are right, past hurt can be healed with better love.
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Deedee123x: I hope thats not true.
No one should be alone
No one should be alone
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I am alone seven years and I am very happy I do what and who I want as and when I want, one problem I have is that there is not one Indian or Cantonese restaurant within two hours drive, no Macs either, you could not say it's a one horse town because we ain't got no 'kin horses either.
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Maya74: Ideally - we should learn from our past mistakes and enter new relationships with that knowledge, yet fresh and capable to love and trust wholeheartedly again. But, can we really do that? Or do we develop all sorts of ways to protect ourselves from being hurt again and thus - maybe - prevent ourselves from being truly happy with someone else?
Am i scared of being hurt? Sure ,but it wont stop me, no matter how many times i fall ,i will get up,dust off and keep on walking
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Dedovix: Am i scared of being hurt? Sure ,but it wont stop me, no matter how many times i fall ,i will get up,dust off and keep on walking
Great attitude, Dedo
Or should I say, greet altitude
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I believe we underestimate what our hearts are able to handle and how rejuvenating love can be...
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mollybaby: Great attitude, Dedo
Or should I say, greet altitude
Or should I say, greet altitude
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It's need and want in my case and I do not need or want and at my age having been through much unhappiness due to women looking for 'other' things I will just continue as I am but I would not tell anyone that they should stop chasing their rainbow because it is what that person wishes.
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mollybaby: Great attitude, Dedo
Or should I say, greet altitude
Or should I say, greet altitude
Thank God she didnt ask us, how many people did we hurt
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yubba: .
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It's need and want in my case and I do not need or want and at my age having been through much unhappiness due to women looking for 'other' things I will just continue as I am but I would not tell anyone that they should stop chasing their rainbow because it is what that person wishes.
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It's need and want in my case and I do not need or want and at my age having been through much unhappiness due to women looking for 'other' things I will just continue as I am but I would not tell anyone that they should stop chasing their rainbow because it is what that person wishes.
Everybody is different and wants different things.
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Dedovix: Thank God she didnt ask us, how many people did we hurt
In the game of love at least one person, if not both, gets hurt when it doesn't work out.
Being hurt as a consequence, rather than being deliberately hurt, is easier to handle overall.
I would never deliberately hurt someone I care about.
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mollybaby: In the game of love at least one person, if not both, gets hurt when it doesn't work out.
Being hurt as a consequence, rather than being deliberately hurt, is easier to handle overall.
I would never deliberately hurt someone I care about.
Being hurt as a consequence, rather than being deliberately hurt, is easier to handle overall.
I would never deliberately hurt someone I care about.
well . deliberately or not ,at the end its the same result ...and i do have some questions about the classifications of being in a relationship with someone we do care about and with someone we dont care about ...
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Dedovix: well . deliberately or not ,at the end its the same result ...and i do have some questions about the classifications of being in a relationship with someone we do care about and with someone we dont care about ...
Some people are incapable of really caring about anybody except themselves.
They do go into relationships nevertheless.
But they will always put themselves, and their needs, first.
The other person is simply seen as collateral damage.
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mollybaby: Some people are incapable of really caring about anybody except themselves.
They do go into relationships nevertheless.
But they will always put themselves, and their needs, first.
The other person is simply seen as collateral damage.
They do go into relationships nevertheless.
But they will always put themselves, and their needs, first.
The other person is simply seen as collateral damage.
okay, makes sense...
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mollybaby: Some people are incapable of really caring about anybody except themselves.
They do go into relationships nevertheless.
But they will always put themselves, and their needs, first.
The other person is simply seen as collateral damage.
They do go into relationships nevertheless.
But they will always put themselves, and their needs, first.
The other person is simply seen as collateral damage.
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Why does the other person never see that in its early stage.
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Dedovix: okay, makes sense...
Dedo, and I disagree with you that the end result is the same regarding being deliberately hurt or not.
Yes, the initial consequence of both is the feeling of hurt.
But there are different long-term consequences to them.
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yubba: .
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Why does the other person never see that in its early stage.
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Why does the other person never see that in its early stage.
Some people simply don't see. Others don't want to see.
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mollybaby: Dedo, and I disagree with you that the end result is the same regarding being deliberately hurt or not.
Yes, the initial consequence of both is the feeling of hurt.
But there are different long-term consequences to them.
Yes, the initial consequence of both is the feeling of hurt.
But there are different long-term consequences to them.
well, if it leads to a breakup ,end of a relationship ,whats the difference if the end result is the same
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