Victim Blaming (55)
Yesterday, I was talking about a love I had when I was young.
And a guy I call "Beg and Blame" started blaming me, for making his life less, because of my post that wasn't directed at him.
And I became concerned for my sister's on this sight.
That's a way for an abusive person to get into your life; and since he tried it on me, I know he'd try it on a woman; because, he's here to find a woman; and he blamed me for his loss, to use me as a pawn in his game to get to her.
I realize that the people who need this topic, are the ones are most likely to accept blame they don't deserve.
So you can't accept any blame, that would require you to change your mind, about anything.
And a guy I call "Beg and Blame" started blaming me, for making his life less, because of my post that wasn't directed at him.
And I became concerned for my sister's on this sight.
That's a way for an abusive person to get into your life; and since he tried it on me, I know he'd try it on a woman; because, he's here to find a woman; and he blamed me for his loss, to use me as a pawn in his game to get to her.
I realize that the people who need this topic, are the ones are most likely to accept blame they don't deserve.
So you can't accept any blame, that would require you to change your mind, about anything.
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It's very important to victim blamers, that you accept their blame.
So even when they know they're wrong, getting an apology out of them, will be like pulling teeth.
So even when they know they're wrong, getting an apology out of them, will be like pulling teeth.
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Oops...
In my second post I made a mistake.
I meant to say, Beg Or Blame, as in, BOB.
Everybody who needs an uncle to show you how to blame...
Bob's yer uncle.
In my second post I made a mistake.
I meant to say, Beg Or Blame, as in, BOB.
Everybody who needs an uncle to show you how to blame...
Bob's yer uncle.
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I blame all my victims because one thing´s for sure, it wasn´t my fault!
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mykingdomforanam: Victim blaming occurs when the victim of a crime or any wrongful act is held entirely or partially at fault for the harm that befell them. The study of victimology seeks to mitigate the perception of victims as responsible.
Victim blaming - Wikipedia
I'd like to talk about "Victim Blaming," and help people avoid getting involved with abusers, who weasel their way into our lives with begging and blaming.
Any wrongful act done to you, does not justify you getting blamed for having any wrongful act done to you.
Victim blaming - Wikipedia
I'd like to talk about "Victim Blaming," and help people avoid getting involved with abusers, who weasel their way into our lives with begging and blaming.
Any wrongful act done to you, does not justify you getting blamed for having any wrongful act done to you.
care to give us a example ?
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mollybaby: Because it is considered one of the worst crimes, along with murder.
And with murder, they are never going to blame a dead victim.
And with murder, they are never going to blame a dead victim.
so,how come you get a bigger sentence for bank robbing than for raping ...or for tax evasion...
I mean, when you say , its considerate... , by whom? our judgment ,legal system ...
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I'd like to comment on the phrase 'victim mentality' which I've heard numerous times on these forums.
It's a peach.
It seems that not only do victims get blamed for the harm done to them, they get blamed for the consequent impact on their psychology.
It seems like we don't want to hear of victims, but only survivors. I can't help, but wonder if the element of surviving which people want to hear is 'it doesn't matter, look how it hasn't had an impact on me'. Isn't that in itself seeking out a certain abdication of responsibility for the perpetrator?
Are we unable, or unwilling to take some personal responsibility ourselves in providing a safe space where people can work through the emotional consequences of victimisation?
It's a peach.
It seems that not only do victims get blamed for the harm done to them, they get blamed for the consequent impact on their psychology.
It seems like we don't want to hear of victims, but only survivors. I can't help, but wonder if the element of surviving which people want to hear is 'it doesn't matter, look how it hasn't had an impact on me'. Isn't that in itself seeking out a certain abdication of responsibility for the perpetrator?
Are we unable, or unwilling to take some personal responsibility ourselves in providing a safe space where people can work through the emotional consequences of victimisation?
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Sorry for the bad spelling.
I can spell lol just never go back over to rectify my mistakes as im lazy like that lol
I can spell lol just never go back over to rectify my mistakes as im lazy like that lol
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Okay, who`s turn is it now to wear the fluffy handcuffs
Big Papa has his whip ready
Big Papa has his whip ready
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Dedovix: Okay, who`s turn is it now to wear the fluffy handcuffs
Big Papa has his whip ready
Big Papa has his whip ready
I still have scars from the last time
Both physically and mentally.
Its surely one of the others turn.
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Dedovix: Okay, who`s turn is it now to wear the fluffy handcuffs
Big Papa has his whip ready
Big Papa has his whip ready
What colour are they?
I like to be colour-coordinated, yanno
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I want to modify my analogy.
It's more like popping the blisters and running away because victimisation of perpetrators facilitates the life cycle of the disease.
It's more like popping the blisters and running away because victimisation of perpetrators facilitates the life cycle of the disease.
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Deedee123x: I agree with what ur saying
But what if there comes a time when the perpetrator suddenly becomes the pitiable person also.
What if in seeking a solution to why they do there comes a time where them having done it is seen as just abother part of human nature we have to learn to accept and excuse away.
But what if there comes a time when the perpetrator suddenly becomes the pitiable person also.
What if in seeking a solution to why they do there comes a time where them having done it is seen as just abother part of human nature we have to learn to accept and excuse away.
We don't excuse murder as just being another part of human nature, although I am sure every human being is capable of it.
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mollybaby: We don't excuse murder as just being another part of human nature, although I am sure every human being is capable of it.
I sure am at the minute
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mollybaby: We don't excuse murder as just being another part of human nature, although I am sure every human being is capable of it.
Isnt the whole justice and sentencing system or lack there of not a slight sign that we r in some way excusing the act of Murder though.
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Deedee123x: Isnt the whole justice and sentencing system or lack there of not a slight sign that we r in some way excusing the act of Murder though.
There is a mandatory life sentence for murder, here.
We all know that that doesn't mean 'natural life', it is usually 7-30 years, but at least there is a mandatory sentence to show the seriousness of it.
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uptall: I sure am at the minute
Just get a new TV instead of having to share with Bubba
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Understanding the dynamic is not the same as excusing the behaviour.
Somebody once said to me, when you get to the stage when you'd gladly throw your insomniac, ADHD, colicky baby out of the window, it's okay to make her safe and walk away until you calm down. She understood the dynamic of my situation.
Would the death penalty after the event have been a better solution?
Somebody once said to me, when you get to the stage when you'd gladly throw your insomniac, ADHD, colicky baby out of the window, it's okay to make her safe and walk away until you calm down. She understood the dynamic of my situation.
Would the death penalty after the event have been a better solution?
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Don't blame it on the sunshine
Don't blame it on the moonlight
Don't blame it on good times
Blame it on the boogie
Don't blame it on the moonlight
Don't blame it on good times
Blame it on the boogie
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Victim blaming - Wikipedia
I'd like to talk about "Victim Blaming," and help people avoid getting involved with abusers, who weasel their way into our lives with begging and blaming.
Any wrongful act done to you, does not justify you getting blamed for having any wrongful act done to you.