Snookums33OPJoburg, Gauteng South Africa5,760 posts
We all have had lots of friends in out lives.
Sometimes it is just plain innocent fun, else it turns into special friends.
We tell some of these friends, that we trust, our inmost secrets, that they subsequently tread on and the original trust is destroyed and the harmless relationship turns into malice, and the spreading of lies and hate.
Snookums33OPJoburg, Gauteng South Africa5,760 posts
From my experience, friends r made by either a common aspect in ur lives, or opposites, with slight similarities. The opposites, become fun friends, and the common ones, become the confidantes.
I've never had female friends turn on me, but lots of males, from pure jealousy, as they don't just want to be friends, but lots more.
I must admit my current 2 Male Best Friends, r examplerary. Opposites, but also so sweet and innocent, and much older than me.
It is not worth Not having friends because of the odd balls !!!
I used to think that most people were trustworthy but over the years I didn't find that to be absolutely true.
People whether they were family or not I don't find them trustworthy anymore.
People do show their true colors after awhile.
My oldest son is finding that out too.He told me before that he used to think that all people were nice but through the years like myself had realized differently.
Snookums33OPJoburg, Gauteng South Africa5,760 posts
LeeCharming: ...It depends on who we let into our lives and if they have stability in their lives....Trust is earned and not given freely....We always take a chance on a stranger, but we learn judge others characters by their actions and sadly we will only know these things by making mistakes and letting the bad people into our life's, but some have healing powers and have the ability to accept life's lot and move on...
Snookums33OPJoburg, Gauteng South Africa5,760 posts
Bearwoman: I used to think that most people were trustworthy but over the years I didn't find that to be absolutely true.
People whether they were family or not I don't find them trustworthy anymore.
People do show their true colors after awhile.
My oldest son is finding that out too.He told me before that he used to think that all people were nice but through the years like myself had realized differently.
They were mostly two-faced.
I have always liked ur comments on my threads.
U r so world-wise,intuitive,logical, and straight forward.
rainbowdream2017: “Go up close to your friend, but do not go over to him! We should also respect the enemy in our friend.” ?Friedrich Nietzsche
Friedrich Nietzsche really was from the wrong planet. There's a difference between a friend and a frenemy and somebody should have told him. Maybe he wouldn't have gone mad like a lonely old billy no mates.
I've maliciously fallen out with a frenemy once in my life.. on the contrary to malice I remember my friends as the people who dragged me out of the river Amstel, the first person I laid eyes on when I came round in hospital, and the man who gave his life trying to save a girl from a knife-wielding maniac. The list is endless, suffice it to say malice is the last thing I associate with ye band of brothers.
rainbowdream2017Melbourne, Victoria Australia2,486 posts
ChesneyChrist: Friedrich Nietzsche really was from the wrong planet. There's a difference between a friend and a frenemy and somebody should have told him. Maybe he wouldn't have gone mad like a lonely old billy no mates.
Friedrich Nietzche was a male chauvinist but in his time that was acceptable normality. However he is a respectable phyloshoper and I find most of his saying down to earth, specially about friends.
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Sometimes it is just plain innocent fun, else it turns into special friends.
We tell some of these friends, that we trust, our inmost secrets, that they subsequently tread on and the original trust is destroyed and the harmless relationship turns into malice, and the spreading of lies and hate.
Do u ever know how friendship will turn out ?
But u still take the chance ?
How often has this happened to u ?