Snookums33OPJoburg, Gauteng South Africa5,760 posts
jac_the_gripper: Because the phrases 'he's a scammer' and 'he chose me!' are somewhat incongruous.
Scammers don't chose, they target. One of the ways they target is by leading naive people to believe they are choosing them, not targeting them.
If you can't tell the difference, you're a potential target.
I think both KB and I got the impression from your posts that you can't tell the difference. That's why I asked if you'd read the scammer warnings.
I wanted to ask you how this fella had scammed you over the last 3 1/2 years, but didn't know how to do it without you getting stroppy.
Before I thought of a way, KB had asked the question...and you got stroppy with her.
He was very nice at the beginning sending me pm's eventually to marry him. Then he publicly played the field with like Jazz and Daniella and I got angry and reported him where he got banned from Cs for life.
He had all my personal details and we corresponded on Skype for 3 1/2 years. All that I know about him is his Skype address, supposedly an architect with his own business, and sleeps with anything, men and women. I stopped believing the promises, even tho I wanted to, it was just too smooth as if staged. He showed off physically countless times, jerking off on Skype. I did not show any nakedness, as I always had something, even shorts and a top on. I suspected he was taping all the Skype video calls.
This week an internet account was tried to be hacked by someone in Milano, Italy, where he is currently building another fictitious hotel, while according to him, living in Turkey. I don't know anyone else there. We have hardly any contact left, except sometimes exchanging a hello on Skype. I never met him, after countless promises. This past Christmas he was also supposed to come visit. I hate flying long distance, so never went there.
No, he's not a scammer, nor have you suggested anything which would imply trolling.
He might not have been very nice, he might have been a player, he might have taken advantage of your nativity, but he wasn't a scammer.
Y'know, if people want to lie, cheat, mess people around, they are at liberty to do so.
You need to be able to tell the difference between nice people and not so nice people. If it took you 3 1/2 years to work out he wasn't a nice person, you missed the signals you could have probably started picking up in the first few mails.
Maybe you could let a trusted friend read your mail if you're getting emotionally attached to someone and give you some feedback.
jac_the_gripper: No, he's not a scammer, nor have you suggested anything which would imply trolling.
He might not have been very nice, he might have been a player, he might have taken advantage of your nativity, but he wasn't a scammer.
Y'know, if people want to lie, cheat, mess people around, they are at liberty to do so.
You need to be able to tell the difference between nice people and not so nice people. If it took you 3 1/2 years to work out he wasn't a nice person, you missed the signals you could have probably started picking up in the first few mails.
Maybe you could let a trusted friend read your mail if you're getting emotionally attached to someone and give you some feedback.
ah, and that's what I was going to say, but jac did it more succinctly.
Snookums33OPJoburg, Gauteng South Africa5,760 posts
jac_the_gripper: No, he's not a scammer, nor have you suggested anything which would imply trolling.
He might not have been very nice, he might have been a player, he might have taken advantage of your nativity, but he wasn't a scammer.
Y'know, if people want to lie, cheat, mess people around, they are at liberty to do so.
You need to be able to tell the difference between nice people and not so nice people. If it took you 3 1/2 years to work out he wasn't a nice person, you missed the signals you could have probably started picking up in the first few mails.
Maybe you could let a trusted friend read your mail if you're getting emotionally attached to someone and give you some feedback.
So, what was he using me for ?
Some INNOCENT FUN ?
He was definitely a scammer (fraud) and a troll.
I'm not giving more info. That was just to give u some idea, and obviously not the private details in too much colour !
How can u make such a judgement without knowing the finer details ?
Unless he was cleaning out your bank account, or getting you to cash dodgy checks, or selling your personal details to certain companies, he wasn't a scammer.
If you find someone's activities on Skype disgusting, you don't have to politely sit there and humour them. Close the Skype the moment you feel uncomfortable, or intruded upon and then block them.
You don't need to explain. You don't need to worry about hurting their feelings. If it's something you haven't both agreed upon, if it's not mutual, if you haven't consented, then just leave and don't bother communicating with them again.
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That happens me too.
They r so weird....one was of a baldy aussie on roller skates and hotpants singing Kylies spinning around.
Then lo and behold i wake up n log onto CS and "meet" u!!