Apologies ( Archived) (99)

Yes. My lovely 2 siblings tried to rip me off from my share of inheritance...just because they thought I am too far to do anything about it. Indeed it was psychologically and emotional difficult to face that my own blood can use all kind of tricks, missinfirmations, emotional blackmails to misslead me so Ive took Lawyer... Anyway after a few years of legal battle Ive won, they where ' forced' to make compromise if they want to enjoy inheritance or to legally battle with me to the rest of their life and although its all over now (except some birocratic paper work to be finalized) nothing in our family relation will ever be the same or in our children relations as casens....and when I can cut my siblings out of my life, I can as well cut out anyone else that trys to do any demage in my life.
I will never get any appologies and I don't expect it, I am just content that they know, they can't take me for a ride ....You learn to be strong, there's no other choice but in certain situations to stright forward 'hit the snake in the head ', do what you have to do, make a peace with yourself that you did what's rightful and be happy with what you have in your life what ever that is.
Hurt does mingle around but if you know what you did is rightfully adjusted, what else you can do ? We can't change nature of people, only ourselves how we deal with things. All the best in finding your own solution how to deal with this issue...

Dear Lindsy,
truly the hardest betrayal comes from family members. Another problem is that family betrayel doesn't only stay between siblings but is going on forever to effect our children and our childrens -children who will not know each other...except by name and searching true Facebook and when we die or they die, maybe we won't even know it. I don't feel like calling them my family as family not suppose to behave deceitful...
My daughter some times gets occasional messages from my sister, they all want contact with my daughter and my daughter left up to my 'wisdom' which is to be polite in respond and distant, not giving away nothing.
I guess, they want to get info from my daughter, about our life and what will I do with a big house, maybe hoping I will give it away to them. After betrayal it's hard to believe in any sencire feelings ! It's never enough to them, regardless how much more they got from inheritance.
I am sorry what your mother went true and you too. The same could of happen to me if I made a different decision. It's admirable in generousity, how your mother handle her issue with her family.
I think if my family are poor, I would probably give them all but they all got (from the same parents) so much and without struggles, served to them on the silver plate as they live there and since I've left country, they always enjoyed to make a sarcastic teasing , calling me 'adventures' for my life struggles in a new country and I might of be 'a bit crazy' but I appreciate all my struggles as valuable experience, while they laughted off - enjoyong traveling the world with our parents money, even before death of our father and I still work as donkey. Some how villains seems to be always ahead in they're careful made plans and luck of circumstances...and I wish them all well but so long ...far away.

Very wise thoughts.

Every person and situation is different but I think, most of them lie to themselves to feel better with their councious, most of them have no regrets what so ever...and probably the only sorrow they have is that they didn't rip you off more.
I think, people with a good heart, sense for justice and fairness, simply can't understand that other side may not feel and think anything to consider adjusting injustice and far away appologetic for any wrong doing. Before making my definite choice with family issues, I've felt it was helpful to me, reading lot's of books, everything that relates to what I was searching for... how to deal with this type of egocentric behaviour as with family, it's too much emotions involved to see things clear in traying to still hang on for the idea of family meaning....and after all reasurch and psychological analyses, I've come to conculusion that as hardest it can be, cut off the cancerous part in body, just like a sergion in operation room... no matter if is a family member or friend and who ever that try to plays with your mind and heart. That's me but if people can sit around the table and talk honestly 'what went wrong'...I would always give a chance, as long I believe that there is change of heart and sencire regrets for the wrong doing.

I like your funny caricature.

My past experience has not defined me, destroyed me or defeated me, it has only strenghtened me....It's what we do after falling down that determines wheather we are life worriors that doesn't give up, pick up our broken hearts peaces and keep going or wheather we are week to find the strength to move on from a deep fixation in our minds.
I have faith that life always has a means and a purpose for everything that it throws our way, a journey of experiences filled with lessons,clues, hardships with challenges that must be confronted and overcome in time by adjusting our sails...it's important to be flexible in our daily life, to find peace and contentment in positive attitude, as well it's important to confront our fears about anything or anyone and make the right choice. I believe each time when we hesitate to confront our matter of concern, we're prolonging what we will eventually face, sooner or later, so it's better sooner. No use of seeking appologise or hoping for it or even hearing word 'sorry' if it doesn't come with genuine intentions to make any difference....
Many wisdoms came out of truth but in the end, we must find truth and define our own wisdom.
The family members or friends that we know 'yesturday' are not the same people today, nor will be the same in the future, nor will we be the same tomorrow, its a constant process of change and to resist accepting this changes is to fight against the inevitable....it's like hiting the brick wool that will only brake our life.