truheart1941: why give it a fancy name.......when all it is .....is Manipulation......?????????
Narcissism is not just manipulation. It is a particular kind of manipulation that sick people use to feel superior and because they get off on it. Playing on people's emotions gives them a high and a sense of value in themselves that nothing else can give them. It is a well recognised form of mental illness. I was raised by one, married and divorced two and raised one myself. They groom people so they can hurt them and they enjoy it. They cause unbelievable pain to anyone who buys into their initial sweet personality act that they use to draw people in. Seeing them for who they are often comes as a terrible shock to the system of the people they prey on. Narcissists can scar for life because they hit at the very core of who you are.
CruniaVolcano Island, Canary Islands Spain252 posts
To use as need it “Dear target, you might want to take the blinders off. All his exes are not crazy or still in love w/ the narcissist” (this is another characteristic ....they speak evil about aaaaaaaall their exes, yeiz! no even a single one was decent ....ah! of course! all of them were manipulative, only wanted their money or similar, yeap! poor thing. This is, let me be clear here: statistically IMPOSSIBLE. Think & doubt)
Crunia: To use as need it “Dear target, you might want to take the blinders off. All his exes are not crazy or still in love w/ the narcissist” (this is another characteristic ....they speak evil about aaaaaaaall their exes, yeiz! no even a single one was decent ....ah! of course! all of them were manipulative, only wanted their money or similar, yeap! poor thing. This is, let me be clear here: statistically IMPOSSIBLE. Think & doubt)
..if you decide to date him
Interesting quote...you've nailed it Chuchi.
However...without reading all the comments here...I would go a step further to describe those people as "psychopaths" ummm..
No conscience. .no remorse..no regrets..no empathy etc... I've known 2 in my life (one being in the family and a friend of mine being married to one) and I can recognise them.
I've now met some on this site too! They're looking for vulnerable people who will listen to all their BS and play around with their feelings. Then...when people get tired of them...They move on to the next one!
daniela777: Interesting quote...you've nailed it Chuchi.
However...without reading all the comments here...I would go a step further to describe those people as "psychopaths" ummm..
No conscience. .no remorse..no regrets..no empathy etc... I've known 2 in my life (one being in the family and a friend of mine being married to one) and I can recognise them.
I've now met some on this site too! They're looking for vulnerable people who will listen to all their BS and play around with their feelings. Then...when people get tired of them...They move on to the next one!
i believe I’ve also recognized these behavior characteristics of the CS forums.but what do I know.
If neither a sociopath nor narcissists have empathy, then how do they have enough sensitivity to figure out how to play a person?
CruniaVolcano Island, Canary Islands Spain252 posts
galrads: i believe I’ve also recognized these behavior characteristics of the CS forums.but what do I know.
If neither a sociopath nor narcissists have empathy, then how do they have enough sensitivity to figure out how to play a person?
Thanks Rubia Nop Gal, what they have is not sensitivity, it´s "Mind theory", Google it please; it´s the ability to "read others minds"....which is not literally that lol!, it´s a cognitive skill we all have in different level (except Autistic people, they don´t have it).
They "study" their victims and they are pretty good doing that, they know what to say in order to please us and create an inmediate connection with us....it´s the same thing Empathetic people does, but one´s approach is emotional and the other´s cognitive.
(Sorry Daniela, I know the question was for you, please excuse me and add what you consider necessary .... )
Crunia: Thanks Rubia Nop Gal, what they have is not sensitivity, it´s "Mind theory", Google it please; it´s the ability to "read others minds"....which is not literally that lol!, it´s a cognitive skill we all have in different level (except Autistic people, they don´t have it).
They "study" their victims and they are pretty good doing that, they know what to say in order to please us and create an inmediate connection with us....it´s the same thing Empathetic people does, but one´s approach is emotional and the other´s cognitive.
(Sorry Daniela, I know the question was for you, please excuse me and add what you consider necessary .... )
That's ok guapa..because you more or less took the words out of my mouth and I was only summarizing it and agreeing with Mr Sea.
Yes ..you've got it right...it's all about mind games sometimes referred to as "cold reading".
galrads: Anyone ever known anyone else with serious acute Narcissism behavior? I do. Took awhile to figure out their behavior. Actions and words don’t match up. They are all alike. They can really mess with people, usually quietly over time. Relationships with them can truely be “psychological warfare.”
If yiu’re interested, here’s a good video with explanation and summary about Covert Narcissists. Worth a watch. Sorry if you can’t. They are out there.....
I think we all or maybe 99% have narcissistic traits....its not letting them get out of control is the issue.
galrads: Anyone know how the narcissist's manipulations are different from other kinds?
I would say manipulation is manipulation...def. the action of manipulating something in a skillful manner.
Its the latent effects that distinguish between the manipulators behavior. In the case of the narcissist they will repeat the process over and over again and will never be able to feel the victims remorse. The non-narcissist would eventually understand what he/she did to their recipient and have that all important moment of repentance...
galrads: Anyone ever known anyone else with serious acute Narcissism behavior? I do. Took awhile to figure out their behavior. Actions and words don’t match up. They are all alike. They can really mess with people, usually quietly over time. Relationships with them can truely be “psychological warfare.”
If yiu’re interested, here’s a good video with explanation and summary about Covert Narcissists. Worth a watch. Sorry if you can’t. They are out there.....
I was in a relationship with one for 6 years... when I Finally copped on ... I was lucky to escape with my life... Literally.
galrads: Anyone know how the narcissist's manipulations are different from other kinds?
narcissists manipulate others for their own advantage, are always right (due their sense of entitlement) and without conscience. if they apologize, it's because it's to their advantage and just more manipulation; it's not coming from a place of remorse. at best they may say they made a mistake, but usually blame others for it.
CruniaVolcano Island, Canary Islands Spain252 posts
seaworthy: I would say manipulation is manipulation...def. the action of manipulating something in a skillful manner.
Its the latent effects that distinguish between the manipulators behavior. In the case of the narcissist they will repeat the process over and over again and will never be able to feel the victims remorse. The non-narcissist would eventually understand what he/she did to their recipient and have that all important moment of repentance...
Ok Sir....you know what you are saying ....yes, I agree 100% with you SW
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Narcissism is not just manipulation. It is a particular kind of manipulation that sick people use to feel superior and because they get off on it. Playing on people's emotions gives them a high and a sense of value in themselves that nothing else can give them. It is a well recognised form of mental illness. I was raised by one, married and divorced two and raised one myself. They groom people so they can hurt them and they enjoy it. They cause unbelievable pain to anyone who buys into their initial sweet personality act that they use to draw people in. Seeing them for who they are often comes as a terrible shock to the system of the people they prey on. Narcissists can scar for life because they hit at the very core of who you are.