How soon after meeting online and chatting do you think 2 people should become exclusive and why? (109)
GregKeegan: I find it interesting how often people I meet or should I say ladies I meet online and start chatting too, ask the question if I am chatting to anyone else and if I say yes, are offended and want a commitment not too.
If I met someone at a pub and talked the night away, that would not constitute the start of anything more than friendship or hopefully so anyway and would not stop me from talking to other female friends both old and new. Why do people online want to be exclusive so fast? It does not make sense to me when someone I have only just met, asks this or can even consider it as a reasonable request or is it only the cons that do this. What has been your experience concerning this kind of behavior and how do you respond if and when it happens?
Most probably you didn't yet find the one to secretly wish that she spends most of the time talking to you...but because your female friends ' chasing you for commitment' that put's you off.If I met someone at a pub and talked the night away, that would not constitute the start of anything more than friendship or hopefully so anyway and would not stop me from talking to other female friends both old and new. Why do people online want to be exclusive so fast? It does not make sense to me when someone I have only just met, asks this or can even consider it as a reasonable request or is it only the cons that do this. What has been your experience concerning this kind of behavior and how do you respond if and when it happens?
Guess that Reverse Psychology works most often than we like to acknowladge and see it ....
When a man feeling hot for lady , more she appear unreachable, like a wind...more commitment he wants and vice versa ?
Generally speaking, I think it's a bit ridicules to seek commitment from someone you don't know that well....and yet if initiation doesn't come from a man,
if he continues waisting time with everyone and not seking more out of each meating from one ....I think i wouldn't waist time on such type.
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I think if two people like each other by appearance they should start talking to see if they are compatible
Rainbow , what's your number ?
Sorry rainbow , kidding
Rainbow , what's your number ?
Sorry rainbow , kidding
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When I have decided that I want to talk to a certain person and want to know more about them, they are the only one I talk to ...
I know many keep multiple options open and I find it highly disrespectful...
It doesn't take that long to know if you want to continue to get to know somebody, therefore you can give them the time without being afraid you'll miss on someone more "valuable"...
I know many keep multiple options open and I find it highly disrespectful...
It doesn't take that long to know if you want to continue to get to know somebody, therefore you can give them the time without being afraid you'll miss on someone more "valuable"...
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GregKeegan: I find it interesting how often people I meet or should I say ladies I meet online and start chatting too, ask the question if I am chatting to anyone else and if I say yes, are offended and want a commitment not too.
If I met someone at a pub and talked the night away, that would not constitute the start of anything more than friendship or hopefully so anyway and would not stop me from talking to other female friends both old and new. Why do people online want to be exclusive so fast? It does not make sense to me when someone I have only just met, asks this or can even consider it as a reasonable request or is it only the cons that do this. What has been your experience concerning this kind of behavior and how do you respond if and when it happens?
If I met someone at a pub and talked the night away, that would not constitute the start of anything more than friendship or hopefully so anyway and would not stop me from talking to other female friends both old and new. Why do people online want to be exclusive so fast? It does not make sense to me when someone I have only just met, asks this or can even consider it as a reasonable request or is it only the cons that do this. What has been your experience concerning this kind of behavior and how do you respond if and when it happens?
Talking to men on Cs, I have never been asked that question, as when I talk to one, I don't talk to others. The current one deserves all my attention, till I call it off. I wish the men would feel the same.
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ali110:
Rainbow , what's your number ?
Rainbow , what's your number ?
Try 666
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Harbal: Try 666
at least it's not 25.80697
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KremaP: When I have decided that I want to talk to a certain person and want to know more about them, they are the only one I talk to ...
I know many keep multiple options open and I find it highly disrespectful...
It doesn't take that long to know if you want to continue to get to know somebody, therefore you can give them the time without being afraid you'll miss on someone more "valuable"...
I know many keep multiple options open and I find it highly disrespectful...
It doesn't take that long to know if you want to continue to get to know somebody, therefore you can give them the time without being afraid you'll miss on someone more "valuable"...
Yep, it makes sense....and if a man behaves as Wind Blower, there's nothing to hang on to but to treat him as Wind Blower and make sure, Not to Miss to keep rainbow options open ..Perhaps is also cultural thing - mix with individual attitude to matter?
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Harbal: Try 666
Isn't that a Devil hot line number ? 
You're giving me a way too much credit.
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I think often people assume this is specifically a dating site, rather than a singles' site with lots of social options.
I think people who are solely looking for a relationship often assume that everyone else is solely looking for a relationship.
They may view any interaction as building a relationship. They may view anybody else interacting as building a relationship.
I think people lose sight of normal social interaction by making these assumptions. If we go to an office do, there may be someone we're building a relationship with, but it would be a bit odd to blank everyone else.
The question for me would be, do I want to build a relationship with someone who wants to stop me from socially interacting with others?
Do I want to commit to someone after one email? Do I want to build a relationship with someone who can't trust me to chat, or discuss a forum inspired point of detail without whipping my knickers off?
I kinda view these things as self-selecting processes. If someone doesn't like my ethos after discussing it with them, they're kinda welcome not to interact with me.
I'm not going to act all odd because someone else is acting all odd. I'm okay with my own odd.
I think people who are solely looking for a relationship often assume that everyone else is solely looking for a relationship.
They may view any interaction as building a relationship. They may view anybody else interacting as building a relationship.
I think people lose sight of normal social interaction by making these assumptions. If we go to an office do, there may be someone we're building a relationship with, but it would be a bit odd to blank everyone else.
The question for me would be, do I want to build a relationship with someone who wants to stop me from socially interacting with others?
Do I want to commit to someone after one email? Do I want to build a relationship with someone who can't trust me to chat, or discuss a forum inspired point of detail without whipping my knickers off?
I kinda view these things as self-selecting processes. If someone doesn't like my ethos after discussing it with them, they're kinda welcome not to interact with me.
I'm not going to act all odd because someone else is acting all odd. I'm okay with my own odd.
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jac_the_gripper:
They may view any interaction as building a relationship. They may view anybody else interacting as building a relationship.
They may view any interaction as building a relationship. They may view anybody else interacting as building a relationship.
I've established several relationships here already and I'm pretty sure than none of the other parties mind in the slightest that it isn't exclusive.
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to be on the safe side.....emmm about 7/8 years......
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GregKeegan: I find it interesting how often people I meet or should I say ladies I meet online and start chatting too, ask the question if I am chatting to anyone else and if I say yes, are offended and want a commitment not too.
If I met someone at a pub and talked the night away, that would not constitute the start of anything more than friendship or hopefully so anyway and would not stop me from talking to other female friends both old and new. Why do people online want to be exclusive so fast? It does not make sense to me when someone I have only just met, asks this or can even consider it as a reasonable request or is it only the cons that do this. What has been your experience concerning this kind of behavior and how do you respond if and when it happens?
If I met someone at a pub and talked the night away, that would not constitute the start of anything more than friendship or hopefully so anyway and would not stop me from talking to other female friends both old and new. Why do people online want to be exclusive so fast? It does not make sense to me when someone I have only just met, asks this or can even consider it as a reasonable request or is it only the cons that do this. What has been your experience concerning this kind of behavior and how do you respond if and when it happens?
Exclusivity isn't a matter of time for me. Rather chemistry and understanding that both parties commit to each other. Until then each should be free to chat, talk or even meet anyone they want to.
Three months of talking to my partner, although when I decided after the first phone conversation that he's the one, I never talked to anyone anymore. He on the other hand was still chatting with others. After we met, four years ago, three months after the first phone call, then exclusivity began. We have never been away from each other ever since.
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13 years
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heavensmile: 13 years
Wow, I can't believe exclusivity can take that long to establish. But each to their own.
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heavensmile: 13 years
thats fine with me.....if your mother/father....decided that,, on the day you where born.......emmmm.------ This thread is Archived ------
There can be No time span as the decision to meet in RL is up to the two involved.
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I would say that 2 people should become exclusive after a few weeks or months.By making very sure that both people feel the same way.
It wouldn't be anything that should be shared on a very first day.
It wouldn't be anything that should be shared on a very first day.
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GregKeegan: I find it interesting how often people I meet or should I say ladies I meet online and start chatting too, ask the question if I am chatting to anyone else and if I say yes, are offended and want a commitment not too.
If I met someone at a pub and talked the night away, that would not constitute the start of anything more than friendship or hopefully so anyway and would not stop me from talking to other female friends both old and new. Why do people online want to be exclusive so fast? It does not make sense to me when someone I have only just met, asks this or can even consider it as a reasonable request or is it only the cons that do this. What has been your experience concerning this kind of behavior and how do you respond if and when it happens?
If I met someone at a pub and talked the night away, that would not constitute the start of anything more than friendship or hopefully so anyway and would not stop me from talking to other female friends both old and new. Why do people online want to be exclusive so fast? It does not make sense to me when someone I have only just met, asks this or can even consider it as a reasonable request or is it only the cons that do this. What has been your experience concerning this kind of behavior and how do you respond if and when it happens?
the timing is up to the two folks concerned...
it's all information one can use to determine whether they wish to continue with the other person.
it doesn't have to make sense, it just serves to help you make choices.
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As I don't see a virtual relationship where the people have never, or possibly will never, meet as a relationship, then it is impossible to have an exclusive non-relationship.
In real life it is a different story. Then it will either happen naturally, or be discussed by the people involved.
In real life it is a different story. Then it will either happen naturally, or be discussed by the people involved.
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If I met someone at a pub and talked the night away, that would not constitute the start of anything more than friendship or hopefully so anyway and would not stop me from talking to other female friends both old and new. Why do people online want to be exclusive so fast? It does not make sense to me when someone I have only just met, asks this or can even consider it as a reasonable request or is it only the cons that do this. What has been your experience concerning this kind of behavior and how do you respond if and when it happens?