I have been around a few of these sites, for a whole now, and it always seems that the ladies all think that the guy should always be the one who does the traveling to meet for the first time or should pay for them to relocate if a connection goes that far. Why is that? I think that both parties should be willing to risk something in meeting and showing some sort of commitment to taking that step. Why shouldn't a lady be expected to pay equally as a guy when first connecting especially if there is a large distance between them.
GregKeegan: I have been around a few of these sites, for a whole now, and it always seems that the ladies all think that the guy should always be the one who does the traveling to meet for the first time or should pay for them to relocate if a connection goes that far. Why is that? I think that both parties should be willing to risk something in meeting and showing some sort of commitment to taking that step. Why shouldn't a lady be expected to pay equally as a guy when first connecting especially if there is a large distance between them.
rainbowdream2017Melbourne, Victoria Australia2,486 posts
By the way, I am use to taking care of myself and never expected someone paying for my relocation or anything ...but I am a bit old fashion and think,gentlemen would offer or at least share concern if he has anything serious on his mind. People should just get use to help and support each other in many ways if they really plan to be together as if everything becomes an issue, from a toothpick, it's better to give up stright away ...
GregKeegan: I have been around a few of these sites, for a whole now, and it always seems that the ladies all think that the guy should always be the one who does the traveling to meet for the first time or should pay for them to relocate if a connection goes that far. Why is that? I think that both parties should be willing to risk something in meeting and showing some sort of commitment to taking that step. Why shouldn't a lady be expected to pay equally as a guy when first connecting especially if there is a large distance between them.
I don't do the long-distance thing, if they are over two hours away from me, no way. And I don't ever expect a guy to pay.
BerrySmoothieMy Retreat, Auckland New Zealand4,733 posts
GregKeegan: I have been around a few of these sites, for a whole now, and it always seems that the ladies all think that the guy should always be the one who does the traveling to meet for the first time or should pay for them to relocate if a connection goes that far. Why is that? I think that both parties should be willing to risk something in meeting and showing some sort of commitment to taking that step. Why shouldn't a lady be expected to pay equally as a guy when first connecting especially if there is a large distance between them.
I don't expect any man to relocate here.
It's a bit much to ask really.
...even if he was nutty enough to travel here to meet up, I would pay for half of his travelling expenses.
rainbowdream2017Melbourne, Victoria Australia2,486 posts
BerrySmoothie: I don't expect any man to relocate here.
It's a bit much to ask really.
...even if he was nutty enough to travel here to meet up, I would pay for half of his travelling expenses.
It's only fair.
You are quiet generous !
I give him 'pinats' to share...as thank you for travelling a world for me... and yet if i come to realisation that he is worth it, he might be lucky to get a world from me.
BerrySmoothieMy Retreat, Auckland New Zealand4,733 posts
rainbowdream2017: You are quiet generous !
I give him 'pinats' to share...as thank you for travelling a world for me... and yet if i come to realisation that he is worth it, he might be lucky to get a world from me.
If I wanted to meet him as much as he wanted to meet me Rainbow, I think it's only fair to contribute to his expenses.
I'm unable to travel myself, due to my commitments, right now...
GregKeegan: I have been around a few of these sites, for a whole now, and it always seems that the ladies all think that the guy should always be the one who does the traveling to meet for the first time or should pay for them to relocate if a connection goes that far. Why is that? I think that both parties should be willing to risk something in meeting and showing some sort of commitment to taking that step. Why shouldn't a lady be expected to pay equally as a guy when first connecting especially if there is a large distance between them.
i’m thinkin’ that if two folks get to know each other and really want to meet in spite of the distance, it won’t be an issue. i don’t think it has to be a gender issue. as well, it’s easier for some folks to travel than others due to individual circumstances.
I don’t know about you, but as i age, I find meeting others’ expectations more and more unappealing.....
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