The Biggest Mistake you can make is... (119)

Apr 1, 2018 8:35 AM CST The Biggest Mistake you can make is...
The Biggest Mistake you can make in life is being offended.
"You hurt my feelings!!"

It is based upon egotism and wrong beliefs.(I don't deserve it. It's not fair. etc...)
"Emotions aren't random. They follow from beliefs."

We always want to punish the 'offender' - not realizing the damage we are creating by being 'offended'.

Was the offense truly directed at you? or are you merely a party who was involved against your choice?
Is revenge the best route to go? If so, what is gained by it?

And as for 'hurt feelings' - can you show me the injury? It's about as absurd as 'saving electricity' ...Can you show me the saved amount?

Being offended consumes so much of our internal energy. It turns us into negative people that others don't want to be around.

Not to mention, that when we hold it as a threat over other people, absurd governments write lengthy documents about how to not offend people.
It's called Political Correctness.

We need to grow up and take responsibility for our own actions and reactions and stop being offended.


peace
Apr 1, 2018 8:45 AM CST The Biggest Mistake you can make is...
Pushing a sharp pencil up your nose
Apr 1, 2018 9:08 AM CST The Biggest Mistake you can make is...
Bnaughty: Pushing a sharp pencil up your nose

It's true that some might find that act offensive, but I for one say it's your own choice. peace
Apr 1, 2018 9:22 AM CST The Biggest Mistake you can make is...
truheart1941
truheart1941truheart1941brentwood, Essex, England UK69 Threads 1 Polls 31,406 Posts
Kaylana04: It's true that some might find that act offensive, but I for one say it's your own choice.
...I dont make mistakes.........snooty snooty snooty grin wave
Apr 1, 2018 9:22 AM CST The Biggest Mistake you can make is...
Kaylana04: It's true that some might find that act offensive, but I for one say it's your own choice.

That´s debatable, school bullies are known for pushing pencils up the noses of smaller kids just for fun
Apr 1, 2018 9:35 AM CST The Biggest Mistake you can make is...
Kaylana04: The Biggest Mistake you can make in life is being offended.
"You hurt my feelings!!"

It is based upon egotism and wrong beliefs.(I don't deserve it. It's not fair. etc...)
"Emotions aren't random. They follow from beliefs."

We always want to punish the 'offender' - not realizing the damage we are creating by being 'offended'.

Was the offense truly directed at you? or are you merely a party who was involved against your choice?
Is revenge the best route to go? If so, what is gained by it?

And as for 'hurt feelings' - can you show me the injury? It's about as absurd as 'saving electricity' ...Can you show me the saved amount?

Being offended consumes so much of our internal energy. It turns us into negative people that others don't want to be around.

Not to mention, that when we hold it as a threat over other people, absurd governments write lengthy documents about how to not offend people.
It's called Political Correctness.

We need to grow up and take responsibility for our own actions and reactions and stop being offended.
Wow, there is so much there, I can't respond to each statement.
So... We can not control other people, we can only control how we react to them.
I don't think reactions are necessarily negative or wrong think, or a punishment.
People have boundaries, so do laws and countries. If any of that is broken or crossed, there should be consequences. Even toddlers have to learn this to live in a society.
Apr 1, 2018 9:54 AM CST The Biggest Mistake you can make is...
CossackCat: Wow, there is so much there, I can't respond to each statement.
So... We can not control other people, we can only control how we react to them.
I don't think reactions are necessarily negative or wrong think, or a punishment.
People have boundaries, so do laws and countries. If any of that is broken or crossed, there should be consequences. Even toddlers have to learn this to live in a society.
killarys islam PC is bad for all/agree!
Apr 1, 2018 10:09 AM CST The Biggest Mistake you can make is...
Track16online now!
Track16online now!Track16Little Hearts Ease, Newfoundland Canada581 Threads 7,329 Posts
I thought the biggest mistake you could make was to super glue your a**hole shut and drink a bunch of laxatives
Apr 1, 2018 10:33 AM CST The Biggest Mistake you can make is...
It is only a crime when it happens to you . To everyone else it is just " life ".
Apr 1, 2018 10:33 AM CST The Biggest Mistake you can make is...
Inthewoodsonline now!
Inthewoodsonline now!InthewoodsColorado Springs, Colorado USA2,551 Posts
1 Tailgating a Policeman.

2 Having a picnic in the mountains without bear repellent.
Apr 1, 2018 10:42 AM CST The Biggest Mistake you can make is...
So, if I'm offended by the torture and execution of children, it's based on egotism and false beliefs?

I shouldn't protest, or take any action with intent to stop the torture and execution of children?

I shouldn't acknowledge my offended thoughts or feelings, or indeed feel offended at all?

Healthy repression and oppression all round, eh?
Apr 1, 2018 10:46 AM CST The Biggest Mistake you can make is...
The Biggest Mistake you can make is... Not trusting your gut feeling
Apr 1, 2018 10:47 AM CST The Biggest Mistake you can make is...
Track16online now!
Track16online now!Track16Little Hearts Ease, Newfoundland Canada581 Threads 7,329 Posts
jac_the_gripper: So, if I'm offended by the torture and execution of children, it's based on egotism and false beliefs?

I shouldn't protest, or take any action with intent to stop the torture and execution of children?

I shouldn't acknowledge my offended thoughts or feelings, or indeed feel offended at all?

Healthy repression and oppression all round, eh?


You have a way with words

kiss
Apr 1, 2018 11:10 AM CST The Biggest Mistake you can make is...
Aquarius4You
Aquarius4YouAquarius4YouChampallement, Bourgogne France33 Posts
Kaylana04: The Biggest Mistake you can make in life is being offended.
"You hurt my feelings!!"

It is based upon egotism and wrong beliefs.(I don't deserve it. It's not fair. etc...)
"Emotions aren't random. They follow from beliefs."

We always want to punish the 'offender' - not realizing the damage we are creating by being 'offended'.

Was the offense truly directed at you? or are you merely a party who was involved against your choice?
Is revenge the best route to go? If so, what is gained by it?

And as for 'hurt feelings' - can you show me the injury? It's about as absurd as 'saving electricity' ...Can you show me the saved amount?

Being offended consumes so much of our internal energy. It turns us into negative people that others don't want to be around.

Not to mention, that when we hold it as a threat over other people, absurd governments write lengthy documents about how to not offend people.
It's called Political Correctness.

We need to grow up and take responsibility for our own actions and reactions and stop being offended.
thumbs up
Apr 1, 2018 11:22 AM CST The Biggest Mistake you can make is...
Track16: I thought the biggest mistake you could make was to super glue your a**hole shut and drink a bunch of laxatives



rolling on the floor laughing Are you trying out for Pat's position, Track? Keep up the good work! doh head banger wave
Apr 1, 2018 11:24 AM CST The Biggest Mistake you can make is...
jac_the_gripper: So, if I'm offended by the torture and execution of children, it's based on egotism and false beliefs?

I shouldn't protest, or take any action with intent to stop the torture and execution of children?

I shouldn't acknowledge my offended thoughts or feelings, or indeed feel offended at all?

Healthy repression and oppression all round, eh?


You should do what all the good Christians do. Go and join a protest against gay rights and abortion, that way you can say that you " love " children. They tell me that it is what Jesus would do.
Apr 1, 2018 11:36 AM CST The Biggest Mistake you can make is...
Kaylana04: The Biggest Mistake you can make in life is being offended.
"You hurt my feelings!!"

It is based upon egotism and wrong beliefs.(I don't deserve it. It's not fair. etc...)
"Emotions aren't random. They follow from beliefs."

We always want to punish the 'offender' - not realizing the damage we are creating by being 'offended'.

Was the offense truly directed at you? or are you merely a party who was involved against your choice?
Is revenge the best route to go? If so, what is gained by it?

And as for 'hurt feelings' - can you show me the injury? It's about as absurd as 'saving electricity' ...Can you show me the saved amount?

Being offended consumes so much of our internal energy. It turns us into negative people that others don't want to be around.

Not to mention, that when we hold it as a threat over other people, absurd governments write lengthy documents about how to not offend people.
It's called Political Correctness.

We need to grow up and take responsibility for our own actions and reactions and stop being offended.


doh KL, can you PLEASE tell WHY you're hell bent of trying to educate people - WHO AREN'T interested in LEARNING anything? As a PROFESSIONAL teacher, I'd had thought you would have learned the FUTILITY of THAT, by now! I'm SURE you're familiar with the old saw, "There are none so blind s they who will not see." I AGREE with it. But those who "will not see" don't piss me off as MUCH as those who "DON'T WANNA LOOK/SEE". And there IS a difference! I'm NOT naming names! I'm BEING as "nice" as I LIABLE to be. But I AM a little surprised, at you! doh confused hug teddybear elephant
Apr 1, 2018 12:14 PM CST The Biggest Mistake you can make is...
jac_the_gripper: So, if I'm offended by the torture and execution of children, it's based on egotism and false beliefs?

I shouldn't protest, or take any action with intent to stop the torture and execution of children?

I shouldn't acknowledge my offended thoughts or feelings, or indeed feel offended at all?

Healthy repression and oppression all round, eh?


There's a DIFFERENCE between "being offended/taking umbrage", Jac, and responding to "CRIMES"! professor Taking umbrage/being offended is a response to somebody's THINKING! Whereas responding to somebody's ACTIONS (torture and execution of children) is a WHOLE DIFFERENT question of "morality"! I (AND KL, I think) aren't implying that WRONG ACTION should NOT be dealt with, in and by WHATEVER MEANS are open and necessary! But that "FEELING" offended is a useless, pointless exercise in DOING nothing - of benefit to yourself, OR others! You WISH TO ACT on YOUR "morality", that's your right! NO! Your OBLIGATION! But you're CHOOSING to ACT, in re: an ACT! Being offended/taking umbrage is NOT an "ACT"! It's a "feeling" - that MAY stimulate an action - but ABSENT that "ACTION" is COMPLETELY pointless and a waste of time and energy! And repression/oppression IS NOT an automatically incorporated/promoted aspect of NOT "taking offense/umbrage" at something one MIGHT "feel" offended by! scold There's the old saying, "I may disagree with what you say, but I'll defend to the death, your right to say it!". I THINK/FEEL it applies, in THIS case! But defending a person's right to SAY something, is a FAR CRY from defending his right to DO something! Again, Jac, a difference between thought/speech, and action! "Offense" (in this case - UMBRAGE) at the spoken word, is NOT benefiting ANYONE! IF a spoken word "offends" you, then SPEAK UP/SUPPORT a different "view". If an ACT offgends you, then ACT against it! IF somebody ACTS, and YOU COUNTERACT, THAT IS entirely different than "feeling - without acting"! The "offense" that KL is speaking on, is the "feeling" that is ONLY "internalized"! Whereas YOU are addressing "EXTERNALIZED" offense. Two DIFFERENT things! handshake hug teddybear
Apr 1, 2018 12:22 PM CST The Biggest Mistake you can make is...
A pupil cannot learn from a teacher who assumes the pupil is privy to the teacher's thoughts.

A pupil cannot learn if essential information is withheld.

A pupil can only learn from logical fallacy by challenge.
Apr 1, 2018 12:22 PM CST The Biggest Mistake you can make is...
Let_Us: KL, can you PLEASE tell WHY you're hell bent of trying to educate people - WHO AREN'T interested in LEARNING anything?...But I AM a little surprised, at you!


Let_Us,
Being fairly new to the forums, I've been dismayed at the number of times I've seen posters "wearing their heart on their sleeve." People get offended and fly off the handle at other people - or state their plan of revenge on an offender.

The topic of Adultery got me thinking. People are often utterly shocked at my response to my own personal situation. The question of "How could you forgive him?" gets asked over and over again.

This thread was a series of thoughts on how I have/would answer the questions surrounding my own survival after the confession of an affair.

The point would only be received by those for whom it was meant. I have no qualms with those who choose a different route - to learn or not to learn these life lessons. The choice is theirs alone.

I cast my net wide by posting a thread. Only those who have positive identification with it will understand. For them it is written.

And Let_Us, many people have been conditioned to view capital letters as a form of yelling with a written text. I've written about how easy it is for people to be offended by your use of capital letters. The offended behavior often prevents them from seeing the true (and quite valid) points you present. Communication breaks down.

I, for one, am not offended by your style. I see the value inside.

I trust you can see the value of the message I have written. wave
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