Age Gap ( Archived) (33)

Hi Treasha!

I don't KNOW you, and your question may, or may NOT be personal (since you're fairly young), but are you familiar with the term "hypergamy"? I ask, because girls from YOUR area, have QUITE A REPUTATION for it! Marriage as a means of IMPROVING one's "status/situation". Now, I DOUBT that many have a problem, with someone wishing to improve their lot in life. And CERTAINLY, relationships CAN/DO play a role in one's ability to "better" themself. But "romance/marriage" ISN'T SUPPOSED TO "BE" about improving you "status/situation"! It's SUPPOSED to "BE" about loving/caring! LIFELONG companionship!

I DOUBT that there's 1 elder person that even THINKS about "retirement" being in ANY WAY connected to romantic liaisons. The FACT that YOU mention it, indicates that "financial" considerations ARE of AT LEAST SOME importance, to YOU, in WHO you "hook up" with.

And, there ARE some older people that thing younger people live in a "disposable" world. Where EVERYTHING, INCLUDING relationships, ARE disposable, when they're no longer "useful". But I think MOST of us feel that, as always, EVERYBODY is different! And such conclusions MUST BE MADE on a case by case basis.

And, #3, as MORE "players" tend to BE younger, than older, AND older people HAVE more experience in/at BEING "played", certainly, older people are GOING TO BE CONSCIOUS of the possibility that a younger person IS TRYING to play them! But that DOESN'T MEAN that an older person automatically assumes that a younger person IS playing them.

Why do you ASK such a question? Are YOU dealing with such a "gap"? If so, "I" would advise openness, honesty, and communications as the method of overcoming such an obstacle! But then, a "player" would tell whatever lies they feel will aid THEM, in getting what THEY want. So, at best, it's a slow process. Good luck!

At my age, older usually means, care home material.

Obviously the bigger the age gap the bigger the differences will be. That being said as long as there is sufficient attraction and understanding of those differences between two people then the age gap becomes less of a problem.