Everyone wants to be accepted, in a family, circle of friends, work team... And you need to be acceptable to a certain degree if you don't want to be an outsider... Don't know about a leader but one needs to follow some rules and orders... Anarchy doesn't lead to progress...
Snookums33OPJoburg, Gauteng South Africa5,760 posts
pKrema: Everyone wants to be accepted, in a family, circle of friends, work team... And you need to be acceptable to a certain degree if you don't want to be an outsider... Don't know about a leader but one needs to follow some rules and orders... Anarchy doesn't lead to progress...
If u just go with the flow always, will there be any improvement in this world...…..?
And the more unique and different one insist they are the more predictable and with the "flow" they turn out to be... Being part of a working social structure doesn't mean you are a sheep, on a contrary, to make a society working you need people with vision of their own...
I don't worry about being accepted nor I do go along with the incrowd.
I've been thinking for myself since I was old enough to do so. I'm dead serious about that too.A lot of responsibility had been dumped on me when I was a child of 10.My mother had to go to work after my father had passed away and a lot of the time I was by myself and didn't have much of a childhood like most children did.I never looked for sympathy when I reached adulthood I had to be a leader of myself.Yes I have backbone and learned to fight for myself when my mother wasn't around and learned to be street smart as it's called.
Do I always have to be accepted you ask? Nope and never was by my own family and was treated like a black sheep.
Snookums33OPJoburg, Gauteng South Africa5,760 posts
pKrema: And the more unique and different one insist they are the more predictable and with the "flow" they turn out to be... Being part of a working social structure doesn't mean you are a sheep, on a contrary, to make a society working you need people with vision of their own...
Krem, that's the biggest load of crap, I have ever seen u write......
Snookums33OPJoburg, Gauteng South Africa5,760 posts
pKrema: May be because I grew up in a society where people weren't self absorbed, irreplaceable narcissists...and realised that every individual is responsible for the growth of that society as a whole... Meaning being their best... Staying true to yourself when you are a w*nker isn't doing anyone a favour...
If ur referring to people like me, there r very little of us, and when u refer to others, everyone make their life as it suits them best, if that does not work, they'll find another way, where some will hit the jackpot, and others on the side of the road.
I live in a country, very much like all others, and the same basic rules apply everywhere, not just in ur country. I have had to fight from a very early age, to get the mentality, to reach what I have become. It has not been even slightly easy. I'm a born and made fighter..... R U....?
Snookums33OPJoburg, Gauteng South Africa5,760 posts
pKrema: I'm not fighting with life, I improve myself in any possible way...this is how I positively change life for myself and for others...
U purposefully misunderstand, I c. It is a battle being a single woman, that had always provided for the household, in all ways. I work very hard, to support my kids, used to be ex husband, and animals. All the pressure is on me. I have very strong beliefs, in humans surpassing anyone's expectations. I will always push myself to do better always, not to please outsiders, but to enhance life for my family. I have proven myself, but cannot see me ever stopping, until I just can't anymore. That to me is fulfilment, of urself and ur capabilities. Nothing is ever really impossible, u just have to believe in urself, even tho no-one else does, but who cares about other peoples expectations, which r way below urs ? Always trust in urself, and there is No End......
Snookums33OPJoburg, Gauteng South Africa5,760 posts
pKrema: I am a single mother too and I did not get anything from anyone in life, where I am now is thanks to me and me only... No, not purposefully and not misunderstood... I am not talking about you Snook, don't take it personally ...
We do appear to have very similar backgrounds, It has given me a solid backbone, no crap, no lies, extremely responsible, and don't take people at face value always, etc
I have heard lots of rumours, of people using me as an example, in my home life and work life. I'm very proud of myself, for the abilities to get this far. I never give up on something/one I feel deserves it.....
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And acceptable.....
U follow the leader....
Can't u think for urself.........?