Choices - a sign of intellect (22)
Life is choices, some are better than others but in the end, we (most of us) learn to make better choices that result in better outcomes.
A choice I am glad I made was insisting that I get an electric guitar for xmas when I was 14.
A choice I regret is . . . . . oh boy, so many of them . . . . . . The night I took 100 magic mushrooms. I will never forget that experience.
A choice I am glad I made was insisting that I get an electric guitar for xmas when I was 14.
A choice I regret is . . . . . oh boy, so many of them . . . . . . The night I took 100 magic mushrooms. I will never forget that experience.
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Track16: Life is choices, some are better than others but in the end, we (most of us) learn to make better choices that result in better outcomes.
A choice I am glad I made was insisting that I get an electric guitar for xmas when I was 14.
A choice I regret is . . . . . oh boy, so many of them . . . . . . The night I took 100 magic mushrooms. I will never forget that experience.
Hi Track,A choice I am glad I made was insisting that I get an electric guitar for xmas when I was 14.
A choice I regret is . . . . . oh boy, so many of them . . . . . . The night I took 100 magic mushrooms. I will never forget that experience.
Yes, life is a constant exam - "which choice will you make?"
I bet that your parents are glad they chose to give you the guitar.
I'm glad that I decided to allow my oldest daughter to draw and do art. I know that someday she will have a fulfilling career as an artist.
Cheers!!!
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Hi Kaylana04 Obviously we've never spoke on here but that's ok.
I'm pretty positive that I've done some things that some people approve of.
I think I made some good choices when I had decided to marry my late husband and had my two sons.
I'm pretty positive that I've done some things that some people approve of.
I think I made some good choices when I had decided to marry my late husband and had my two sons.
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What choices have you made that people criticized?
What choices are you glad you made?
What choices have you regretted?
I cant think of very many that people didn't criticize but that was my life....sort of swimming against the current fighting every step of the way to be and stay me.....
Im glad I chose to have my children...im glad I chose to go back to school and get my paralegal diploma so I could work with law which was always my passion...
I have made choices and they were all mine....some came with hard lessons and that's how I choose to see my experiences as a learning process.....
What choices are you glad you made?
What choices have you regretted?
I cant think of very many that people didn't criticize but that was my life....sort of swimming against the current fighting every step of the way to be and stay me.....
Im glad I chose to have my children...im glad I chose to go back to school and get my paralegal diploma so I could work with law which was always my passion...
I have made choices and they were all mine....some came with hard lessons and that's how I choose to see my experiences as a learning process.....
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Bearwoman: I'm pretty positive that I've done some things that some people approve of.
I think I made some good choices when I had decided to marry my late husband and had my two sons.
Hi Bear,I think I made some good choices when I had decided to marry my late husband and had my two sons.
Thank you for the reply. It is appreciated.
I congratulate you on making those decisions. It shows sound judgement.
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M4_Mischief: I have made choices and they were all mine....some came with hard lessons and that's how I choose to see my experiences as a learning process.....
M4,I loved the last part of your comment! I think that is an admirable perspective on life!!!
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Thanks kay.....life doesn't come with a blueprint...we're all on different paths and have different things to learn and experience throughout life.....
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Kaylana04: M4,
I loved the last part of your comment! I think that is an admirable perspective on life!!!
Do you have time now?I loved the last part of your comment! I think that is an admirable perspective on life!!!
Will only take you a few minutes to answer the question I asked 12 days ago.
And again I'm sorry for what you're going through personally... You seem very sad about it.
I hope everything turns out well.
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Let_Us: ... I can't change them, or their affect on my life, so why waste time thinking about things there's nothing I can do about, now? I TRY to focus my energy on the choices I'm faced with, NOW!
Hi Jim!!!Glad to see you stopping by here (and on the other thread currently running).
Your words are true.
I have read them to my oldest daughter. She is thinking them over right now. It is always helpful to listen to other people's opinions of their own life and circumstances.
I guess right now I'm a bit dismayed with people's criticism of another person's choice.
The pattern I see goes like this:
Person A makes a decision.
Person B criticizes it - based upon jealousy, pride, ego, etc... believing that the decision was "wrong".
Person A gets defensive.
Person B admits the error in judgement OR maintains his position and attacks Person A again.... Name labeling then ensues...
Cycle repeats.
If the decision was intentionally meant to cause harm, then there is justification.
But if no harm was intended, then there is no reason to be critical and cause the other person to be "guilty".
If someone makes a "mistake", can they be blamed?
A strong character would not jump to criticize and, instead, would seek to understand why the decision was made.
Thanks Jim!!!
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Theway100: Do you have time now?
Will only take you a few minutes to answer the question I asked 12 days ago.
And again I'm sorry for what you're going through personally... You seem very sad about it.
I hope everything turns out well.
Theway,Will only take you a few minutes to answer the question I asked 12 days ago.
And again I'm sorry for what you're going through personally... You seem very sad about it.
I hope everything turns out well.
I have taken the time to reply on your thread. I know that I may well be criticized for taking such time to do so... as those who know me, know that I choose my words carefully and with thought... which incidentally, takes a considerable amount of time...
And it is solely my choice based upon my own judgement.
You can respect it or not.
And that choice, dear sir, is yours.
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Thank you for the kind wishes regarding the recent death in my family. He was the only "father" I've had for the past 20 years.
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What choices have you made that people criticized?
Have never been criticised simply because the people in my life support one another.
What choices are you glad you made?
My son...WoW I got lucky big time.
What choices have you regretted?
No regrets..If I was to regret past decisions it would mean I haven't moved on.
Have never been criticised simply because the people in my life support one another.
What choices are you glad you made?
My son...WoW I got lucky big time.
What choices have you regretted?
No regrets..If I was to regret past decisions it would mean I haven't moved on.
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Kaylana04: Hi Jim!!!
Glad to see you stopping by here (and on the other thread currently running).
Your words are true.
I have read them to my oldest daughter. She is thinking them over right now. It is always helpful to listen to other people's opinions of their own life and circumstances.
I guess right now I'm a bit dismayed with people's criticism of another person's choice.
The pattern I see goes like this:
Person A makes a decision.
Person B criticizes it - based upon jealousy, pride, ego, etc... believing that the decision was "wrong".
Person A gets defensive.
Person B admits the error in judgement OR maintains his position and attacks Person A again.... Name labeling then ensues...
Cycle repeats.
If the decision was intentionally meant to cause harm, then there is justification.
But if no harm was intended, then there is no reason to be critical and cause the other person to be "guilty".
If someone makes a "mistake", can they be blamed?
A strong character would not jump to criticize and, instead, would seek to understand why the decision was made.
Thanks Jim!!!
Glad to see you stopping by here (and on the other thread currently running).
Your words are true.
I have read them to my oldest daughter. She is thinking them over right now. It is always helpful to listen to other people's opinions of their own life and circumstances.
I guess right now I'm a bit dismayed with people's criticism of another person's choice.
The pattern I see goes like this:
Person A makes a decision.
Person B criticizes it - based upon jealousy, pride, ego, etc... believing that the decision was "wrong".
Person A gets defensive.
Person B admits the error in judgement OR maintains his position and attacks Person A again.... Name labeling then ensues...
Cycle repeats.
If the decision was intentionally meant to cause harm, then there is justification.
But if no harm was intended, then there is no reason to be critical and cause the other person to be "guilty".
If someone makes a "mistake", can they be blamed?
A strong character would not jump to criticize and, instead, would seek to understand why the decision was made.
Thanks Jim!!!
I may be wrong, on this, Kaylana (I've never read any statistics), but I'm SUPPOSING that that something over 90% of the choices that are made, were THOUGHT TO BE the best options, at the time they were made. (There will ALWAYS be some who intentionally chose "wrong" choices.) I don't think the "criteria" should be "good", or "bad", but whether the person actually considered the choices possible, and choose the one they THOUGHT would have the best/preferable outcome.As far as one person criticizing another's choice, to me, it's a sign of "disrespect". Or egotism. Which, in a way, to a degree, are similar things. It's a sign that they don't consider that the other person is capable of "thinking" - for themself! And IF you don't allow a person to "think" for themself, then you're encouraging a society of "dependents", of people that can't/don't/won't think for themselves, which is a large step down the path of the demise of the human species. When people stop making choices, they stop trying. And, when they stop trying, they start dying. The ONLY person who ISN'T going to make mistakes, is a person whose NOT DOING anything! So I never worry about making mistakes! As Thomas Edison said, "I haven't failed! I've discovered another way that doesn't work." And IF I KEEP eliminating the ways that DON'T work, EVENTUALLY I'll find a way that DOES work! The road to success is LITTERED with mistakes!
(Oh! And how's that other thing coming along? Are you making any progress on that alternative heat source, yet?
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Kaylana04: Thank you for the kind wishes regarding the recent death in my family. He was the only "father" I've had for the past 20 years.
Which, by the way, was the reason for this thread...For 15 years I have lived overseas.
For 15 years he kept saying he would come and visit me and his grand kids.
For 15 years he made the choice to not come.
For 15 years, I was dismayed/saddened that he didn't take the time/effort to connect with them.
For 15 years I criticized his decision.
And now he is gone.
And what did it matter? Nothing.
It was my fault for shutting down the communication.
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Whenever we choose anything, it's the best choice we could make at the particular moment. At that time - we couldn't choose differently with all the information, knowledge and previous experiences we had had. However, as the time passes, our perspective on things change. We gain more knowledge and information, we get new experiences as a result of our certain choice and we think: "I made a mistake" or "I made a good choice". Then the time passes even more and our perspective changes again, so now the mistake appears to have been a good choice after all and a good choice starts to seem like a mistake. 
And so on and on through life - we gain more knowledge, we get new experiences and our perspective changes many many times.
We always think that we could choose better, yet it's easy to be the general after the battle. We always chose the best we could at that particular time. We couldn't do any better. 
This goes for all other people as well. No need to criticize both ourselves or others. Of course, this is an ideal - we will continue to do so, because it's simply a part of the human's nature.
And so on and on through life - we gain more knowledge, we get new experiences and our perspective changes many many times.We always think that we could choose better, yet it's easy to be the general after the battle.
We always chose the best we could at that particular time. We couldn't do any better. This goes for all other people as well. No need to criticize both ourselves or others. Of course, this is an ideal - we will continue to do so, because it's simply a part of the human's nature. ------ This thread is Archived ------
Let_Us: (Oh! And how's that other thing coming along? Are you making any progress on that alternative heat source, yet? We're ALL pulling for you!)
Thanks Jim!
We are in the process of making choices... Distance is a key factor.
My little Princess is busy making hearts for him.
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I kept my replies short. 
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Kaylana04: Hi Track,
Yes, life is a constant exam - "which choice will you make?"
I bet that your parents are glad they chose to give you the guitar.
I'm glad that I decided to allow my oldest daughter to draw and do art. I know that someday she will have a fulfilling career as an artist.
And maybe she will choose art as a hobby ...Yes, life is a constant exam - "which choice will you make?"
I bet that your parents are glad they chose to give you the guitar.
I'm glad that I decided to allow my oldest daughter to draw and do art. I know that someday she will have a fulfilling career as an artist.
Why would one not 'allow' a child to express their artistic tendencies
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Kaylana04: Thanks Jim!
We are in the process of making choices... Distance is a key factor.
My little Princess is busy making hearts for him.
We are in the process of making choices... Distance is a key factor.
My little Princess is busy making hearts for him.
I would never have thought anything else of you, Kaylana! 
But it encourages me that your bringin your children INTO the relationship during the early going. It would be a horrible strain on everybody, if the kids were to feel/be estranged because of the new edition. Hope all goes well. May your days be filled with MUCH sunshine, hand holding, stolen kisses, and and warm companionship! 
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As long as your choices and following decisions are not affecting other people you are free to believe you are right...
Otherwise i'ts called responsibility to make a decision after weighing the consequences...and a sense of social conscious is something missing from the picture nowadays...
Otherwise i'ts called responsibility to make a decision after weighing the consequences...and a sense of social conscious is something missing from the picture nowadays...
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Because I choose to do it that way.
Choosing to do something, or not, is a sign of intellect. While we may not agree with another person's choice, they certainly have grounds for "why" they decided the way they did.
I may choose to make a good dinner for my kids - because they will be leaving soon for the summer.
I may choose to work hard in my garden because I want healthy plants and healthy produce.
I may choose to not eat wheat because I can see the effects it has on me and my family.
None of these are outrageous decisions. The basis for the decision is evident.
When people criticize another person's choices, they are, in fact, criticizing that person's ability to make those decisions.
Another example: when I took the Latvian driving exam, I had prepped by practicing with a trainer and had talked with a few friends that had just taken the exam.
They gave me all kinds of warnings: watch out for left-hand turns, make sure you go into the closest lane, do this and do that.
When taking the exam, I came to an intersection and the examiner didn't tell me which way to go. "You tell me," was all he said.
I looked both ways. All the warnings the trainer had given me came flooding back. I knew the street was a one-way going to the left, so I pulled into closest lane (the left one). He asked me "Why are you in this lane?" When I explained, he said that I had just failed - because there was no one-way sign. At that very intersection, the trolley buses have to travel in the opposite direction - against traffic.
I failed the exam because of the choice I had made.
Even though, in normal circumstances the choice would have been correct, at that unusual point it was the wrong one. It was the absence of the sign that should have warned me....
In relationships, we make choices too.
What choices have you made that people criticized?
What choices are you glad you made?
What choices have you regretted?