Women and men....young or older than us.... (56)

Jul 2, 2018 7:16 AM CST Women and men....young or older than us....
Some men seem to get off on having a much younger thing on the arm. Well, perhaps there's merit in it. But in terms of the important things, Older women have always done it for me. Maturity seems to trump most items. Conversation, life experience, street smarts, education---formal or otherwise, groundedness, and so on. Being a mom, if done well, brings much for a man with it too, as long as enabling and codependency isn't part of the bundle. As to intimacy, while I was much younger, the ladies 10 or 30 years my elder were the absolute bomb, with rare exceptions. But as I age, will this still hold, as many say of European females?
Jul 2, 2018 8:47 AM CST Women and men....young or older than us....
ChesneyChristonline today!
ChesneyChristonline today!ChesneyChristManchester, Greater Manchester, England UK4,438 Posts
I find some older women desperate and rush rush like they’re against the clock or jaded and spent like they’ve been smashed to pieces too many times before. Older women are the territory of bunny boilers and the beyond battle and we should look a little deeper, young girls are more than a nice body they’re a healthier emotional population.
Jul 2, 2018 9:01 AM CST Women and men....young or older than us....
Sorry V but younger men have never done it for me.Some of the men who have contacted me are between 20 to 30 years younger then me but I stay away from them. I've had them get mad at me by asking me in blog topics of why my settings are set the way they are.Then they follow me around the site posting in different blog topics that somehow that he and I are somehow involved.Then I've had to spend time explaining to other people that that particular guy had misinformed them.Especially if the guy would've taken the time to read my profile where it states that I'm not looking and only here for the Blogs and Forms.They could've saved themselves a lot of time and trouble.Then they lash out at me within my blogs saying words like "Well you're breaking something off that hasn't started yet"? I wonder where some men get off acting like that.They act like spoiled brats.I raised to adults sons into adulthood and I'm not about to raise another man who's much much younger then myself.

Never ever going to happen.I refuse to be someones toy girl.No Way Jose.
Jul 2, 2018 9:06 AM CST Women and men....young or older than us....
Bearwoman: ...I raised to adults sons into adulthood and I'm not about to raise another man who's much much younger then myself.
Hey Bear! teddybear
I saw this happen first hand while growing up. Witnessing it shaped my view on what true love should look like.
Hugs!!
Jul 2, 2018 9:15 AM CST Women and men....young or older than us....
Kaylana04: Hey Bear!
I saw this happen first hand while growing up. Witnessing it shaped my view on what true love should look like.
Hugs!!
Kaylana I know to what you are referring to too.

Hugs back.thumbs up
Jul 2, 2018 9:56 AM CST Women and men....young or older than us....
It's hard to put them all in the same box...
There are some horrible young women, unhealthy, illiterate and absolute wrecks before they turn 30, and there are nice, selfish, healthy, emotionally cold women who turn into a wreck after 45...when they can't and don't want to pretend anymore how great they are... And the minority is ...well a minority of normal, young women... But most men will always go for the young flesh, the young ones, the middle aged ones and the old ones... That's a built in thing...
Emotional growth is something that's more and more rare nowadays, especially when emotions are considered a weakness...
The cold calculation what you gonna get from a relationship and how long it's gonna serve you is the main focus...
There are awful older women too, the emotional wreck, the "Forever young" caricature, the badly used and abused flesh...and the normal, healthy, emotionally stable and generous, genuine women...


It all depends what you want to see and what will suit your portrait best...
Will she be a nice and appropriate adding to your picture of what (your picture) should look like or you just want someone who will be really your other half...
Jul 2, 2018 12:00 PM CST Women and men....young or older than us....
Vierkaesehoch: Some men seem to get off on having a much younger thing on the arm. Well, perhaps there's merit in it. But in terms of the important things, Older women have always done it for me. Maturity seems to trump most items. Conversation, life experience, street smarts, education---formal or otherwise, groundedness, and so on. Being a mom, if done well, brings much for a man with it too, as long as enabling and codependency isn't part of the bundle. As to intimacy, while I was much younger, the ladies 10 or 30 years my elder were the absolute bomb, with rare exceptions. But as I age, will this still hold, as many say of European females?
As an older male who was married for 28 years, I watched my wife become a different person when she started menopause. That was the beginning of her bad decisions. Partying became the most important thing for her and she became an alcoholic.
I did everything I could to hold the family together and even got her off the booze. But she never forgave me for that and decided to get a divorce and went back to her drinking and partying as soon as I was out of the house.
Right after that I did some research and found out the majority of divorces after 40 are attributed to personality changes in from menopause.
Needless to say I have a bad taste in my mouth for women around my age. At this point even though I have a profile here I'm really not looking for anybody.
But if I had my choice between a younger and an older women, I'd choose the younger one.
Jul 2, 2018 4:13 PM CST Women and men....young or older than us....
Thanks, all. Many grounded comments, as so often. Well, I was, as always, merely expressing my druthers and experience. Of course exceptions follow any generalizations. But as I write, I think of a Prof. , a veterinarian, mid forties, whom I took home from a public health faculty/student party On my Honda years ago. I was much younger, but she was wonderful, except for her terminal alcoholism.
Jul 2, 2018 4:18 PM CST Women and men....young or older than us....
As long as it's in working order.
Jul 2, 2018 4:41 PM CST Women and men....young or older than us....
I don’t want no man who is 18, my son is 17 Not a good input for me
Jul 2, 2018 5:41 PM CST Women and men....young or older than us....
Maiana
MaianaMaianaAtlanta, Georgia USA135 Posts
I've always felt most comfortable with men around my age. Younger men never interested me and I always see older men as some father figures and feel respect toward them. I know that age doesn't mean much, that there are mature young people and childish old people, but still - with people around my age I share a lot and I can see them as equal. smile I can be more relaxed with them. smile
Jul 2, 2018 6:28 PM CST Women and men....young or older than us....
SlainteMhaithx
SlainteMhaithxSlainteMhaithxLimerick, Ireland5 Threads 1,336 Posts
I prefer men who are older than me but not by more than ten years.
I would date a guy my age or younger by about ten years also but that's my limit....
Jul 2, 2018 6:39 PM CST Women and men....young or older than us....
truheart1941
truheart1941truheart1941brentwood, Essex, England UK69 Threads 1 Polls 31,406 Posts
SlainteMhaithx: I prefer men who are older than me but not by more than ten years.
I would date a guy my age or younger by about ten years also but that's my limit....
...on here..its a case of.....do i want to go out with a young bag......or an old bag...............grin grin rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing ...............roll eyes
Jul 2, 2018 6:41 PM CST Women and men....young or older than us....
SlainteMhaithx
SlainteMhaithxSlainteMhaithxLimerick, Ireland5 Threads 1,336 Posts
truheart1941: ...on here..its a case of.....do i want to go out with a young bag......or an old bag............... ...............
Stick with the old bag...ye can wipe each others bums rolling on the floor laughing
Jul 2, 2018 6:56 PM CST Women and men....young or older than us....
I prefer around my age...too young and I feel like I would be dating a child and too old I would be dating my father...sooo neither appeal to me......laugh
Jul 2, 2018 7:00 PM CST Women and men....young or older than us....
Bogart_1960online today!
Bogart_1960online today!Bogart_1960Ask me !, Provence-Alpes-Cote dAzur France43 Threads 1 Polls 8,837 Posts
It really varies with what each person wants in a relationship at that time in their life.

I have had both experiences; from 16 to 20s (interesting, after 30, i did not) I dated some older women (+20/25 y older). It was fun, but I never took it on a serious side. On my 50s I dated younger women (20s/early 30)– also never thought or pretended to be serious. Basically I don’t believe in those “relationship” per se, as the nature, goals, and perspective about life are different. There are expectation, for sure.

As this stage, I am more comfortable with someone my near age (+-10/12 y) with emotional maturity and similar values/interest. If I really click with someone who's out of that range (with the exception of them being underage), I'll might give them a shot.
Jul 3, 2018 11:05 AM CST Women and men....young or older than us....
Bearwoman: Sorry V but younger men have never done it for me.Some of the men who have contacted me are between 20 to 30 years younger then me but I stay away from them. I've had them get mad at me by asking me in blog topics of why my settings are set the way they are.Then they follow me around the site posting in different blog topics that somehow that he and I are somehow involved.Then I've had to spend time explaining to other people that that particular guy had misinformed them.Especially if the guy would've taken the time to read my profile where it states that I'm not looking and only here for the Blogs and Forms.They could've saved themselves a lot of time and trouble.Then they lash out at me within my blogs saying words like "Well you're breaking something off that hasn't started yet"? I wonder where some men get off acting like that.They act like spoiled brats.I raised to adults sons into adulthood and I'm not about to raise another man who's much much younger then myself.

Never ever going to happen.I refuse to be someones toy girl.No Way Jose.
Most of the women who write to me on here are in their 30's.

I never write them back.
Jul 3, 2018 11:40 AM CST Women and men....young or older than us....
guysimple
guysimpleguysimpledelhi, India30 Threads 15 Polls 2,815 Posts
pKrema: It's hard to put them all in the same box...
There are some horrible young women, unhealthy, illiterate and absolute wrecks before they turn 30, and there are nice, selfish, healthy, emotionally cold women who turn into a wreck after 45...when they can't and don't want to pretend anymore how great they are... And the minority is ...well a minority of normal, young women... But most men will always go for the young flesh, the young ones, the middle aged ones and the old ones... That's a built in thing...
Emotional growth is something that's more and more rare nowadays, especially when emotions are considered a weakness...
The cold calculation what you gonna get from a relationship and how long it's gonna serve you is the main focus...
There are awful older women too, the emotional wreck, the "Forever young" caricature, the badly used and abused flesh...and the normal, healthy, emotionally stable and generous, genuine women...


It all depends what you want to see and what will suit your portrait best...
Will she be a nice and appropriate adding to your picture of what (your picture) should look like or you just want someone who will be really your other half...
Thanks god you are not man ...otherwise you may be called women hater...grin
Jul 3, 2018 12:12 PM CST Women and men....young or older than us....
aries1234online now!
aries1234online now!aries1234plymouth, ocean city, Devon, England UK171 Threads 3 Polls 6,154 Posts
ChesneyChrist: I find some older women desperate and rush rush like they’re against the clock or jaded and spent like they’ve been smashed to pieces too many times before. Older women are the territory of bunny boilers and the beyond battle and we should look a little deeper, young girls are more than a nice body they’re a healthier emotional population.
That's why most men prefer younger women they instinctively see they are healthier and more likely to bear healthy children, as well as being more pleasant to be with than bitter old cougars. It's mother natures way of pointing men in the right direction.cats meow
Jul 3, 2018 12:15 PM CST Women and men....young or older than us....
mykingdomforanam: Most of the women who write to me on here are in their 30's.

I never write them back.
Hello myking I don't write the younger men back .I just block and delete.
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