The advantages & disadvantages of being single! ( Archived) (57)

Aug 19, 2018 3:44 AM CST The advantages & disadvantages of being single!
One2note
One2noteOne2noteLondon, Essex, England UK286 Threads 3 Polls 7,606 Posts
pKrema: Well, that's what I mean, it takes two to take a chance...you can't force anyone to make them see how much good you can bring into their life...
On here you are a number, a distance, a face and if given a chance something more than that...
A big, fat "IF"...
There always an element of doubt with online dating .. people generally look towards the negativity of a persons profile, rather than the positive.
My thought is , why join an international dating site , when you don't have the means , or the finances to travel abroad, or are not willing to leave family & relocate for the right person?
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Aug 19, 2018 3:45 AM CST The advantages & disadvantages of being single!
ChesneyChrist
ChesneyChristChesneyChristManchester, Greater Manchester, England UK7,144 Posts
Freedom and money.
Independence.
Career focus.
Hedonism.
Self-desire.

Careless and partial use of resources.
Isolation.
Mental health problems.
Dying younger and dying alone.
Loss of trust and respect.
Precious and irritating.
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Aug 19, 2018 3:46 AM CST The advantages & disadvantages of being single!
One2note
One2noteOne2noteLondon, Essex, England UK286 Threads 3 Polls 7,606 Posts
aries1234: You spent s0 much time trying to break up other peoples relationships and then blew your chance, and still come back as miss goody two shoes
If anything , I made your relationship stronger .. you ducked it up, with your dramatic childish , behaviour.
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Aug 19, 2018 3:48 AM CST The advantages & disadvantages of being single!
pKrema
pKremapKremaAt home, Shumen Bulgaria6 Threads 4,707 Posts
Guys, please...don't start...
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Aug 19, 2018 3:51 AM CST The advantages & disadvantages of being single!
aries1234
aries1234aries1234plymout, Devon, England UK175 Threads 3 Polls 5,672 Posts
One2note: If anything , I made your relationship stronger .. you ducked it up, with your dramatic childish , behaviour.
Wrong and learn to spellcats meow
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Aug 19, 2018 3:51 AM CST The advantages & disadvantages of being single!
One2note
One2noteOne2noteLondon, Essex, England UK286 Threads 3 Polls 7,606 Posts
ChesneyChrist: Freedom and money.
Independence.
Career focus.
Hedonism.
Self-desire.

Careless and partial use of resources.
Isolation.
Mental health problems.
Dying younger and dying alone.
Loss of trust and respect.
Precious and irritating.
That's a very romantic way of looking at things .
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Aug 19, 2018 3:52 AM CST The advantages & disadvantages of being single!
pKrema
pKremapKremaAt home, Shumen Bulgaria6 Threads 4,707 Posts
One2note: There always an element of doubt with online dating .. people generally look towards the negativity of a persons profile, rather than the positive.
My thought is , why join an international dating site , when you don't have the means , or the finances to travel abroad, or are not willing to leave family & relocate for the right person?
Indeed...
we know you took a chance and met your online date...
I am sure you are happy you did it no matter the outcome...
Seeing the person face to face is worlds apart from impersonal texting...
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Aug 19, 2018 3:55 AM CST The advantages & disadvantages of being single!
aries1234
aries1234aries1234plymout, Devon, England UK175 Threads 3 Polls 5,672 Posts
pKrema: Indeed...
we know you took a chance and met your online date...
I am sure you are happy you did it no matter the outcome...
Seeing the person face to face is worlds apart from impersonal texting...
True but she still dumped him at first sightlaugh laugh laugh cats meow
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Aug 19, 2018 4:02 AM CST The advantages & disadvantages of being single!
One2note
One2noteOne2noteLondon, Essex, England UK286 Threads 3 Polls 7,606 Posts
pKrema: Indeed...
we know you took a chance and met your online date...
I am sure you are happy you did it no matter the outcome...
Seeing the person face to face is worlds apart from impersonal texting...
I think most of us are different in real life & the forums is a playground to vent frustrations, but if put in a one to one situation, I'm sure people's behaviour would be completely different.
Yes , I have no regrets about my recent visit & have only fond memories. It was a great experience, one which I wouldn't hesitate to do again .
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Aug 19, 2018 4:06 AM CST The advantages & disadvantages of being single!
pKrema
pKremapKremaAt home, Shumen Bulgaria6 Threads 4,707 Posts
One2note: I think most of us are different in real life & the forums is a playground to vent frustrations, but if put in a one to one situation, I'm sure people's behaviour would be completely different.
Yes , I have no regrets about my recent visit & have only fond memories. It was a great experience, one which I wouldn't hesitate to do again .
World is smaller than we think...
And life doesn't through possibilities your way, in quantities to spoil you to a point you just can't be arsed to try...
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Aug 19, 2018 6:06 AM CST The advantages & disadvantages of being single!
Naivete
NaiveteNaiveteAtlanta, Georgia USA80 Posts
One2note: There can only be a mutual click , if you're willing to take a chance..
I knew this lady , who joined CS recently & was a member for 1 day before she met a man & now they're together & have met on several occasions...
It's a case of knowing what you want & going for it..
It's not that hard to find a man - any man, but I doubt that's what most people want. Some really aren't very picky - as long as it's a woman/man and reasonably attractive - it's OK, but not everyone is like that.

I personally think that people from 40~55 age range don't really have much choice - both in real life and on dating sites, if they want to meet someone for a quality long-lasting relationship. People at that age are - mostly married. If they are not - they are usually too busy with their lives - jobs, still small children they have to take care of, family responsibilities... Or they are the types who never wanted a commitment any way.

When international dating is concerned - it gets even more complicated. How many people age 40~55 can leave their home, their mortgages, their jobs, their small children (or take them with them) and leave for a far away country to live some uncertain life relying completely on one person they hardly know? Even if they CAN move, it's not easy to be as adventurous at 50 as it is at 20. We all have a lot more experience and know what kind of people live all around the world. People need to have to trust their future partner and must have some sort of insurance to make such a big step.

People younger than 35 and older than 60 have much more chances to meet a partner - everywhere - online and offline than people age 40~55 (or - maybe - even 35~60). So what can they do?

1) Lower expectations drastically
2) Look for a partner outside of their age range - a lot younger or a lot older - depending on their preferences
3) Stay single until they get a little older and be able to AGAIN find someone suitable for themselves

I think that staying in a "dating game" at that age with the expectations, hopes and desires we had when we were 30 (finding someone around our age, falling in love, enjoying our relationship, being free to do whatever we want and go wherever we want, have TRUST in people we used to have) is VERY unrealistic. Maybe this post doesn't sound very romantic and fun, but this is my conclusion after being a member of various dating sites and talking with many men from different countries around my age.
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Aug 19, 2018 6:09 AM CST The advantages & disadvantages of being single!
Limun
LimunLimunAbidos, Central Serbia Serbia6 Threads 1 Polls 1,923 Posts
ChesneyChrist: Freedom and money.
Independence.
Career focus.
Hedonism.
Self-desire.

Careless and partial use of resources.
Isolation.
Mental health problems.
Dying younger and dying alone.
Loss of trust and respect.
Precious and irritating.
okay...is that good or bad ?
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Aug 19, 2018 6:24 AM CST The advantages & disadvantages of being single!
pKrema
pKremapKremaAt home, Shumen Bulgaria6 Threads 4,707 Posts
pKrema: World is smaller than we think...
And life doesn't throw possibilities your way, in quantities to spoil you to a point you just can't be arsed to try...
Bloody phone autocorrect... mumbling
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Aug 19, 2018 6:26 AM CST The advantages & disadvantages of being single!
Snookums33
Snookums33Snookums33Joburg, Gauteng South Africa601 Threads 2 Polls 5,760 Posts
I've been single for so long....it's just life....
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Aug 19, 2018 6:54 AM CST The advantages & disadvantages of being single!
ChesneyChrist
ChesneyChristChesneyChristManchester, Greater Manchester, England UK7,144 Posts
The single life is more entertaining - at least when you’re single through choice - but you lose a lot of depth and stability by living it.

It’s probably one reason why we struggle to find great leaders and inspiring personalities. An atomised society with each isolated individual chiefly depending on the infrastructure and technology to survive. You won’t see so many rounded personalities in a society which doesn’t at any level function as a unit. Leadership over and above all rests upon teamwork, the ability to come together. Those who lead must first learn how to follow and this is what doesn’t happen in the singledom where life is perpetually on your own terms.
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Aug 19, 2018 7:07 AM CST The advantages & disadvantages of being single!
pKrema
pKremapKremaAt home, Shumen Bulgaria6 Threads 4,707 Posts
People tend to complicate simple things and life is simpler than we make it look and sound...
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Aug 19, 2018 7:10 AM CST The advantages & disadvantages of being single!
pKrema
pKremapKremaAt home, Shumen Bulgaria6 Threads 4,707 Posts
Almost everyone seems to live by someone else's expectations, advises, thick, meaningless books...measurements and likes...
Who is to blame? You or the "life"?!
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Aug 19, 2018 7:19 AM CST The advantages & disadvantages of being single!
Bogart_1960
Bogart_1960Bogart_1960Ask me !, Provence-Alpes-Cote d'Azur France36 Threads 1 Polls 10,012 Posts
positives:

---------------- BS

Negatives

---------------------- BS


we need to feel good about solitude and learn to live alone, if we ever want to be with someone. relationship is a partnership. also
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Aug 19, 2018 7:39 AM CST The advantages & disadvantages of being single!
Limun
LimunLimunAbidos, Central Serbia Serbia6 Threads 1 Polls 1,923 Posts
Bogart_1960: positives:

---------------- BS

Negatives

---------------------- BS


we need to feel good about solitude and learn to live alone, if we ever want to be with someone. relationship is a partnership. also
`` we need``, looks like the key word,but since we joined a dating site and whine all the time ,we cant really find nirvana
unless we enjoy the whining laugh
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Aug 19, 2018 7:48 AM CST The advantages & disadvantages of being single!
Bogart_1960
Bogart_1960Bogart_1960Ask me !, Provence-Alpes-Cote d'Azur France36 Threads 1 Polls 10,012 Posts
Limun: `` we need``, looks like the key word,but since we joined a dating site and whine all the time ,we cant really find nirvana
unless we enjoy the whining
damn, now I know why I am alone. I skipped all the whining classes.

Hey Lin, how ´s life?wave
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