The advantages & disadvantages of being single! ( Archived) (57)

Bogart_1960: damn, now I know why I am alone. I skipped all the whining classes.

Hey Lin, how ´s life?

pedro27: you're looking well, are you sick?

Bogart_1960: hum . you are alone in that space shuttle I am not going,

Bogart_1960: you go first, let me know how´s the place. I am staying as long as I can.

Naivete: It's not that hard to find a man - any man, but I doubt that's what most people want. Some really aren't very picky - as long as it's a woman/man and reasonably attractive - it's OK, but not everyone is like that.

I personally think that people from 40~55 age range don't really have much choice - both in real life and on dating sites, if they want to meet someone for a quality long-lasting relationship. People at that age are - mostly married. If they are not - they are usually too busy with their lives - jobs, still small children they have to take care of, family responsibilities... Or they are the types who never wanted a commitment any way.

When international dating is concerned - it gets even more complicated. How many people age 40~55 can leave their home, their mortgages, their jobs, their small children (or take them with them) and leave for a far away country to live some uncertain life relying completely on one person they hardly know? Even if they CAN move, it's not easy to be as adventurous at 50 as it is at 20. We all have a lot more experience and know what kind of people live all around the world. People need to have to trust their future partner and must have some sort of insurance to make such a big step.

People younger than 35 and older than 60 have much more chances to meet a partner - everywhere - online and offline than people age 40~55 (or - maybe - even 35~60). So what can they do?

1) Lower expectations drastically
2) Look for a partner outside of their age range - a lot younger or a lot older - depending on their preferences
3) Stay single until they get a little older and be able to AGAIN find someone suitable for themselves

I think that staying in a "dating game" at that age with the expectations, hopes and desires we had when we were 30 (finding someone around our age, falling in love, enjoying our relationship, being free to do whatever we want and go wherever we want, have TRUST in people we used to have) is VERY unrealistic. Maybe this post doesn't sound very romantic and fun, but this is my conclusion after being a member of various dating sites and talking with many men from different countries around my age.