What do guys look for in a woman

aries1234plymout, Devon, England UK175 Threads 3 Polls 5,672 Posts

aries1234OPplymout, Devon, England UK5,672 posts

For years, we've talked about finding the right woman -- someone we can ride the waves of life with, who will stand by our side for better or for worse.

As a man, committing to The One is among the most important decisions we make in life; some may even argue it is the most important.
The woman we decide to share our world with is the one who will mother our children, help us plan life, pick us up when we're down and make us better men than we are right now.
But, what does the right woman look like in our eyes?

For years, women have been sharing what they want in men, but there's this widely-held stereotype that all we want is the so-called “trophy wife.” I don't agree with that notion.

You see, there's so much that should go into deciding whom to share your life with — characteristics, in a sense, that stand the test of time.
So, what is it we men want in a woman?
1. Character
Being truly beautiful has nothing to do with what you look like, but everything to do with who you are.
I've met quite a few beautiful women in my life whose personalities were as appealing as the dirty concrete in a New York City subway station.
I'm sorry, but it's true.
We want people who put as much time and energy into ensuring they look good as they do into being genuine and real. You know “that girl” you are around your girlfriends?
That's who you really are. Don't be so hesitant to be that way with us.
We see you laugh uncontrollably with your friends, so laugh with us. We love women who have senses of humor and don't take life so seriously.
Be yourself. Order a cheeseburger for lunch. Get ketchup all over your face.

Put on sweats and a t-shirt when we come over. Skip makeup and don't do your hair. It's all okay; we actually like that.
You know that Drake song when he says, "Sweatpants, hair tied, chillin' with no makeup on, that's when you're the prettiest..."?
Well, he's right.
We love when you get dressed up and feel beautiful, but know that you don't need to flip a switch from your real self in order to gain our acceptance.
If there ever comes a point when you feel a need to do that, well, you're just with the wrong man.
2. Respect

How you present yourself says a lot about who you are.
Wearing clothes that accentuate your body is nothing new, nor do I believe it's disrespectful. But, that's not where I am going with this.
In today's society, there's something called social media, and it's basically your résumé for men. Where you go, whom you go with, what you say and how you say it reflects you as an individual.

And, truthfully speaking, men don't want someone who is everywhere, doing everything, with everyone.
Little boys who want the popular girl might, but real men don't play those games.
You can't respect a man if you don't respect yourself. It's not a knock, but seriously, how would that be possible?
We prefer the woman who's sitting home, reading a book as opposed to getting drunk with her friends on the weekends; we prefer the one who's life is kept more low-key, as it makes her more intriguing.

becomes. It forces us to engage, to inquire, to seek out.

Our conversations with you gain substance, and this becomes appealing.
If we know everywhere you've been and everything you've done, where does that leave us?
3. Affection
Men are very physical human beings. Everything for us elevates with touch. By nature, we're drawn to it.
It goes without saying that a woman who is very free with her offerings of affection will entice us. It's very warm and welcoming to a man.
Just like you, we want a woman to reach out and grab our hand; we want for you to come over and kiss us randomly; we want for you to hug us and ask us how our day was. It evokes this feeling of being wanted.
It just strengthens that connection we have with you and opens up lines of communication, but more importantly, makes us feel comfortable — invited in, so to speak.