Spotting the red flags (29)
LeeCharmingCardiff, South Glamorgan, Wales UK537 Threads 273 Polls 6,941 PostsI spoke to a male friend today, who was going to make the extreme sacrifice and marry his girlfriend. I had told my friend many times to look for the red flags, but also the moment she becomes emotionally unavailable (an ice queen), that he needs to walk away and today he told me, that is exactly what he has done, he saved himself the misery, the manipulation and the torture of being around a woman, who wants to suck away his life force and wants him to keep on giving, when she offers nothing but misery in return…if a woman is no longer wanting to be intimate with a man, then the man needs to walk away and keep away from her...I think fear of loneliness drives men to stick with women, who use them as emotional tampons, but not care about the man's needs, cause only the woman's needs are important and a man with problems takes away the victimhood of a woman, so they can't let that happen
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To be honest I knew this woman was red flag material, when he told me she had her children taken into care and I was giving him plenty of info to spot the red flags, so he could save himself, when the time came….I feel good about giving him the valid advice I gave him and saving him anymore misery from this woman…
Have you helped another man to spot the red flags? Have you ever given advice to male friends, family etc on relationships?
Have you helped another man to spot the red flags? Have you ever given advice to male friends, family etc on relationships?
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You sound as if you're trying to convince yourself you did the right thing...
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LeeCharming: I spoke to a male friend today, who was going to make the extreme sacrifice and marry his girlfriend. I had told my friend many times to look for the red flags, but also the moment she becomes emotionally unavailable (an ice queen), that he needs to walk away and today he told me, that is exactly what he has done, he saved himself the misery, the manipulation and the torture of being around a woman, who wants to suck away his life force and wants him to keep on giving, when she offers nothing but misery in return…if a woman is no longer wanting to be intimate with a man, then the man needs to walk away and keep away from her...I think fear of loneliness drives men to stick with women, who use them as emotional tampons, but not care about the man's needs, cause only the woman's needs are important and a man with problems takes away the victimhood of a woman, so they can't let that happen
You should go to the land where women rule
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aries1234: You should go to the land where women rule
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LeeCharming: I spoke to a male friend today, who was going to make the extreme sacrifice and marry his girlfriend. I had told my friend many times to look for the red flags, but also the moment she becomes emotionally unavailable (an ice queen), that he needs to walk away and today he told me, that is exactly what he has done, he saved himself the misery, the manipulation and the torture of being around a woman, who wants to suck away his life force and wants him to keep on giving, when she offers nothing but misery in return…if a woman is no longer wanting to be intimate with a man, then the man needs to walk away and keep away from her...I think fear of loneliness drives men to stick with women, who use them as emotional tampons, but not care about the man's needs, cause only the woman's needs are important and a man with problems takes away the victimhood of a woman, so they can't let that happen
You did the right thing 
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LeeCharming: To be honest I knew this woman was red flag material, when he told me she had her children taken into care and I was giving him plenty of info to spot the red flags, so he could save himself, when the time came….I feel good about giving him the valid advice I gave him and saving him anymore misery from this woman…
Have you helped another man to spot the red flags? Have you ever given advice to male friends, family etc on relationships?
Lee, there's are major problems when it comes to giving relationship advice. If a friend comes to you and complains about his/her relationship, your are only hearing one side, it doesn't matter how well you know that person, they most likely won't be telling the whole truth.Have you helped another man to spot the red flags? Have you ever given advice to male friends, family etc on relationships?
So if you give him/her advice you may be giving them bad advice. That may not be a big problem for a new relationship where children aren't involved, but in the case of a marriage or where children are involved, the best advice you could give is to seek out a good marriage counselor.
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Just so you know Lee, I'm directing my comments to anybody who wants to give relationship advice.
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It's not that hard to spot red flags.
Each of your posts has red fireworks going off.
Each of your posts has red fireworks going off.
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KNenagh: It's not that hard to spot red flags.
Each of your posts has red fireworks going off.
We have a winner Each of your posts has red fireworks going off.
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Red flags to look for is Leeshaming
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Mercedes_00: We have a winner
Which person with basic cop-on and choices would listen to stuff like this for 30 seconds? 
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KNenagh: Which person with basic cop-on and choices would listen to stuff like this for 30 seconds?
He's mum------ This thread is Archived ------
Mercedes_00: He's mum
Maybe that's were the problem is. My mum would tell me to cop the hell on!------ This thread is Archived ------
KNenagh: Maybe that's were the problem is. My mum would tell me to cop the hell on!
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LeeCharming:
6.She uses feminist wording and rambles on about equality,
What! She expects to be treated as an equal? That's going too far. 6.She uses feminist wording and rambles on about equality,
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When an overwhelming physical attraction towards women is accompanied by an inability to get their interest, it is only to be expected that resentment will set in. If some attractive female were to throw Lee over her shoulder, whisk him off to bed and give him the time of his life, I doubt if her being a feminist would bother him then.
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Harbal: When an overwhelming physical attraction towards women is accompanied by an inability to get their interest, it is only to be expected that resentment will set in. If some attractive female were to throw Lee over her shoulder, whisk him off to bed and give him the time of his life, I doubt if her being a feminist would bother him then.
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mollybaby: I don't believe most men think like that.
Just the ones like Lee.mollybaby: And smart women can smell misogyny a mile off
I don't think Lee is a misogynist; I think he just resents the fact that women have got power over him and he has none over them. 
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Harbal: All the time, Tule, I've even had to give up my afternoon naps because of them.
Wrong answer... :(------ This thread is Archived ------
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