To tell Comforting lie or Hurtful truth...why? (36)
You summed up a vast amount of realistic understanding most won't get/understand!
Might be naive but keep distance from pretty much everyone.
Might be naive but keep distance from pretty much everyone.
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Yes the truth is always better that's for sure....sometimes when I am put on the spot I am not sure what to say so I will blurt out something else.....
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Sometimes it's better to keep silent. Or if you are gonna lie, you have to do it perfect, so everyone would believe it.
And sometimes if you don't want to hurt somebody who's close to you, like your parents, friends, brother, sister, wife or children etc. then don't tell anything.
But if you have to stand trial, lie like a politician.
And sometimes if you don't want to hurt somebody who's close to you, like your parents, friends, brother, sister, wife or children etc. then don't tell anything.
But if you have to stand trial, lie like a politician.
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yeah take some lessons from trump......
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M4
It reminds me of one situation I had once when I was caught on the act
the first I thought was to lie to get an excused but I realized it would just make it complicated so I accepted and told the truth even it hurts a bit 
It reminds me of one situation I had once when I was caught on the act
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PeKaatje: Sometimes it's better to keep silent. Or if you are gonna lie, you have to do it perfect, so everyone would believe it.
And sometimes if you don't want to hurt somebody who's close to you, like your parents, friends, brother, sister, wife or children etc. then don't tell anything.
But if you have to stand trial, lie like a politician.
hey PekAnd sometimes if you don't want to hurt somebody who's close to you, like your parents, friends, brother, sister, wife or children etc. then don't tell anything.
But if you have to stand trial, lie like a politician.
Why not we can just zipped our mouth z but @ times its not helping because issues will be unsolved
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chatonlyman2: You summed up a vast amount of realistic understanding most won't get/understand!
Might be naive but keep distance from pretty much everyone.
chatonlyMight be naive but keep distance from pretty much everyone.
Simple and conscise
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I think the truth is better to hear.
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Bluesky60: I think the truth is better to hear.
Hey Blue
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The trust here : I submitted documents for Canadian citizenship in 1996 year. I was first in RF, who did it in new Canadian citizenship programs. My documents application was refuged. What I have now? Nothing. I now in Russia. So many year. It is mistake, it my refugees right violations. No good
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I always say if you want the truth by all means ask me but if you want me to lie just to make you feel good don't dare ask me.
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Bviac: The trust here : I submitted documents for Canadian citizenship in 1996 year. I was first in RF, who did it in new Canadian citizenship programs. My documents application was refuged. What I have now? Nothing. I now in Russia. So many year. It is mistake, it my refugees right violations. No good
Bvac I understand how you feel
but every country does have their own rules and requirements in applying and programs that you have to comply.I did that too in my application to US E mbassy and thanked God got my working visa
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Mercedes_00: I always say if you want the truth by all means ask me but if you want me to lie just to make you feel good don't dare ask me.
Merce
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ysabeljhen: Merce .Being yourself made it a big difference
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ysabeljhen: Let’s compare, shall we?
Hurtful truth:
‘This is what happened. And this is how I truly feel. I am really sorry. But I thought you deserved to know the truth. I know it really hurts but I am here, to help you get over it. Let me know what can I do to make things better.’
Comforting lie:
‘Ofcourse, I'm saying the truth. I have no reason to lie to you. I love you, you know that right? I will never do something that might hurt you even a little. I love you. I love everything about you. You're just perfect.’
When you use the first one, it will hurt and kill and bleed. But it will heal faster. Infact, the other person might allow you to be there to help them heal. You will be respected.
When you use the second one, it won't hurt now at all. But it will keep piling up till one day, the truth just comes out. You will make the other person feel that everything you ever said was a lie. Pure lie just to comfort them. You will be regretted.
No matter how hard it is, always choose the truth.
Women avoid truth like the plague when it's for the purpose of not looking like a bad person - to personally fear the consequences of telling the truth is so woman that women often turn to sociopathic men for their complete indifference to feelings. Hurtful truth:
‘This is what happened. And this is how I truly feel. I am really sorry. But I thought you deserved to know the truth. I know it really hurts but I am here, to help you get over it. Let me know what can I do to make things better.’
Comforting lie:
‘Ofcourse, I'm saying the truth. I have no reason to lie to you. I love you, you know that right? I will never do something that might hurt you even a little. I love you. I love everything about you. You're just perfect.’
When you use the first one, it will hurt and kill and bleed. But it will heal faster. Infact, the other person might allow you to be there to help them heal. You will be respected.
When you use the second one, it won't hurt now at all. But it will keep piling up till one day, the truth just comes out. You will make the other person feel that everything you ever said was a lie. Pure lie just to comfort them. You will be regretted.
No matter how hard it is, always choose the truth.
But there are selfless reasons to lie. Comforting words to the mother burying her son, everything will be ok in heaven, praising fat people and exaggerating their efforts in the gym, making a big deal out of that depressed persons new trainers, holding a country together in war. There are some occasions when the feelings are more important than the facts and you need to trick people into behaving confidently to change their facts.
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ChesneyChrist: Women avoid truth like the plague when it's for the purpose of not looking like a bad person - to personally fear the consequences of telling the truth is so woman that women often turn to sociopathic men for their complete indifference to feelings.
But there are selfless reasons to lie. Comforting words to the mother burying her son, everything will be ok in heaven, praising fat people and exaggerating their efforts in the gym, making a big deal out of that depressed persons new trainers, holding a country together in war. There are some occasions when the feelings are more important than the facts and you need to trick people into behaving confidently to change their facts.
Well ChestneyBut there are selfless reasons to lie. Comforting words to the mother burying her son, everything will be ok in heaven, praising fat people and exaggerating their efforts in the gym, making a big deal out of that depressed persons new trainers, holding a country together in war. There are some occasions when the feelings are more important than the facts and you need to trick people into behaving confidently to change their facts.
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Particularly in my western world where relationships are about confidence and fun is the lie of most use. Confidence is a feeling and fun is playing with people's feelings, in the context of frolic you have to realise how deflating the whole truth and nothing but the truth would be.
In other cultures where love is colder and more practical - where life is based on utility(not fun)and the achievement of objectives(instead of sensory stimulation) - life will accord closer to the matter of fact. Clinical.
In other cultures where love is colder and more practical - where life is based on utility(not fun)and the achievement of objectives(instead of sensory stimulation) - life will accord closer to the matter of fact. Clinical.
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It's not really about the truth or lie because women are suspicious of the kindness displayed by soliciting males be they genuine or not. The sense that he's trying to curry favour because he doesn't think he's good enough is what she does want to perceive, if she was objectively the most beautiful girl in the world telling her this truth early on would be akin to shooting yourself in the foot. Telling her she's the most beautiful girl in the whole wide room would be better, technically it's still true but it's not quite kind is it? It's less true than the truth but more entertaining, it's the massaged truth you're aiming at around women.
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Hurtful truth:
‘This is what happened. And this is how I truly feel. I am really sorry. But I thought you deserved to know the truth. I know it really hurts but I am here, to help you get over it. Let me know what can I do to make things better.’
Comforting lie:
‘Ofcourse, I'm saying the truth. I have no reason to lie to you. I love you, you know that right? I will never do something that might hurt you even a little. I love you. I love everything about you. You're just perfect.’
When you use the first one, it will hurt and kill and bleed. But it will heal faster. Infact, the other person might allow you to be there to help them heal. You will be respected.
When you use the second one, it won't hurt now at all. But it will keep piling up till one day, the truth just comes out. You will make the other person feel that everything you ever said was a lie. Pure lie just to comfort them. You will be regretted.
No matter how hard it is, always choose the truth.