Once a first contact has been made via PM and you´ve agreed to meet up for a drink with someone who happens to live about 15mn away, what´s wrong with asking them to call you in order to arrange a date & a time and to get a first impression of the person?
Then, after giving them YOUR telephone number, saying they can withhold their number if they wish to stay anonymous, they still refuse to call - for "personal reasons"?
daniela777: Once a first contact has been made via PM and you´ve agreed to meet up for a drink with someone who happens to live about 15mn away, what´s wrong with asking them to call you in order to arrange a date & a time and to get a first impression of the person?
Then, after giving them YOUR telephone number, saying they can withhold their number if they wish to stay anonymous, they still refuse to call - for "personal reasons"?
What´s wrong with this picture?
15 minutes.... Oh what I'd give for the love of my life to live 15 mins away, I'm not even 15 minutes away from the nearest shop....add to that, honestly, getting a date here as an old man is pretty unlikely, I gave it a go, and nothing at all, not a squeek, so now I languish here in the forums, it's not the worst thing in the world, and there's always cake, beer and a good hot curry to be had... Life is life... Men on dating sites (not necessarily forum users) are after a leg over, I've said it a few times, and any woman you ask will tell you, it's a case of nothing to be found here that's going to amount to a hill of beans, if you're looking for a relationship, go real world or introduction agency, more invested by all parties....this is just a distraction...fun for a while, but nothing to pin your hopes onto...
daniela777: Once a first contact has been made via PM and you´ve agreed to meet up for a drink with someone who happens to live about 15mn away, what´s wrong with asking them to call you in order to arrange a date & a time and to get a first impression of the person?
Then, after giving them YOUR telephone number, saying they can withhold their number if they wish to stay anonymous, they still refuse to call - for "personal reasons"?
What´s wrong with this picture?
Maybe they are just one of us people who hates talking on the phone.
If he lives only 15mins away, just meet him, and get your first impression first hand.
He says on his profile that he´s separated. I take it his ex lives in UK while he´s living in Spain?
Nevertheless, why refusing to give his number when I gave him mine? From a cell phone you can always withhold your number or... call from a public phone?
And, why wanting to meet me for a drink & a chat???
Arthur_Sixpence: 15 minutes.... Oh what I'd give for the love of my life to live 15 mins away, I'm not even 15 minutes away from the nearest shop....add to that, honestly, getting a date here as an old man is pretty unlikely, I gave it a go, and nothing at all, not a squeek, so now I languish here in the forums, it's not the worst thing in the world, and there's always cake, beer and a good hot curry to be had... Life is life... Men on dating sites (not necessarily forum users) are after a leg over, I've said it a few times, and any woman you ask will tell you, it's a case of nothing to be found here that's going to amount to a hill of beans, if you're looking for a relationship, go real world or introduction agency, more invested by all parties....this is just a distraction...fun for a while, but nothing to pin your hopes onto...
To tell you the truth, I am NOT looking for a relationship but, if you find someone local who has similar interests, why not be friends?
mollybaby: Maybe they are just one of us people who hates talking on the phone.
If he lives only 15mins away, just meet him, and get your first impression first hand.
I´m sorry to disappoint you Molly but it is not my style. I don´t go and meet people I have never talked to before.
Whenever people want to see me for business matters, they phone first, then we arrange a meeting. Not the other way round.
I have my number on quite a few posters around here for various reasons. As it happens, one of my posters for dog training classes happens to be at a vet´s near that guy and I told him so.
For me, this behaviour sounds very suspicious indeed. I trust him with my number but he cannot trust me with his????
Dec 10, 2018 8:00 AM CST Prelude To Meeting Someone
GeronimolionSan Pedro Alcantara, Andalusia Spain63 Posts
GeronimolionSan Pedro Alcantara, Andalusia Spain63 posts
In my opinion Molly has a point,
I HATE phones, really i do, they are the most annoying inventions of the century. Don't get me wrong, they are useful, if you use them right, but often is the most disturbing thing around me. People go to a meeting or date, and staring all the time at there cellphones ¨ Its a real TURN OFF for me¨. And sorry lady's, but you are the worst in this scenario. I can understand when you are not interested in the person you meet, you just brake off the meeting, but be so uneducated to take your phone and ignore the person, says more about your attitude and personality then you can imagine. It never happen to me personally, but i saw it often that a couple sitting together and she was just messaging and calling on the phone..... So, no it doesn't means he is married, probably he just hate phones like me
daniela777: I´m sorry to disappoint you Molly but it is not my style. I don´t go and meet people I have never talked to before.
Whenever people want to see me for business matters, they phone first, then we arrange a meeting. Not the other way round.
I have my number on quite a few posters around here for various reasons. As it happens, one of my posters for dog training classes happens to be at a vet´s near that guy and I told him so.
For me, this behaviour sounds very suspicious indeed. I trust him with my number but he cannot trust me with his????
I'm not a bit disappointed, I am not the one wanting to date you
Look, you are better off not meeting him so. For personal reasons, you do want to talk on the phone and for personal reasons,he doesn't, so it is a bad start to any budding relationship.
I HATE phones, really i do, they are the most annoying inventions of the century. Don't get me wrong, they are useful, if you use them right, but often is the most disturbing thing around me. People go to a meeting or date, and staring all the time at there cellphones ¨ Its a real TURN OFF for me¨. And sorry lady's, but you are the worst in this scenario. I can understand when you are not interested in the person you meet, you just brake off the meeting, but be so uneducated to take your phone and ignore the person, says more about your attitude and personality then you can imagine. It never happen to me personally, but i saw it often that a couple sitting together and she was just messaging and calling on the phone..... So, no it doesn't means he is married, probably he just hate phones like me
What a surprise to see you... here Gero.
I agree entirely with what you´re saying regarding using your phone when you´re with someone. I usually put mine on silence.
But.... regarding phoning someone to arrange a place and a time to meet doesn´t mean you have to talk for hours on end. Beside, you also want to know if the person is real? In this case, I don´t think it would make any difference if he lived 2 hours away! How can you contact someone if you have a delay? Via CS PM? But you would need your phone for that!
Anyway, that guy sounds really weird and suspicious from the onset.
mollybaby: I'm not a bit disappointed, I am not the one wanting to date you
Look, you are better off not meeting him so. For personal reasons, you do want to talk on the phone and for personal reasons,he doesn't, so it is a bad start to any budding relationship.
Of course it is a bad start. And I told him so. He said he would contact me at a later date.
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Then, after giving them YOUR telephone number, saying they can withhold their number if they wish to stay anonymous, they still refuse to call - for "personal reasons"?
What´s wrong with this picture?