Why must adults be mature? ( Archived) (30)

Jan 9, 2019 10:53 AM CST Why must adults be mature?
smiley963
smiley963smiley963Johannesburg, Gauteng South Africa254 Threads 5 Polls 3,651 Posts
While being a child, we are all led to believe that adulthood, is the be-all and end-all. We strive for maturity, and everything it encompasses. Is this acceptable to all human beings, or are there some that would prefer to revert to childhood gladly, as an adult? We have lost so much, in the process from child to adult! The people that refused, are referred to as a man-child/woman-child. These people are commendable, as they will stand by their beliefs. Do You?
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Jan 9, 2019 11:02 AM CST Why must adults be mature?
pKrema
pKremapKremaAt home, Shumen Bulgaria6 Threads 4,707 Posts
As a child I was led to believe I should be responsible, disciplined and hard working along with being a fun enjoying child and I was...
And when maturity came and I found out it is was the best thing I was led to believe in my childhood...
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Jan 9, 2019 11:06 AM CST Why must adults be mature?
aries1234
aries1234aries1234plymout, Devon, England UK175 Threads 3 Polls 5,672 Posts
pKrema: As a child I was led to believe I should be responsible, disciplined and hard working along with being a fun enjoying child and I was...
And when maturity came and I found out it is was the best thing I was led to believe in my childhood...
Yes you must stay in touch with the child within, but there is a difference between being childish, and childlike.
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Jan 9, 2019 11:12 AM CST Why must adults be mature?
Arthur_Sixpence
Arthur_SixpenceArthur_SixpenceEnnis, Clare Ireland51 Threads 4 Polls 1,001 Posts
Today's kids are adult before their time, being pushed to achieve greatness by parents vicariously living past their failed aspirations through their kids...and yet, this generation is on the back of what are called the snowflake millennials...a damned if you do, damned if you don't paradigm...
As a sixty year old single man, I made a conscious decision to be as childlike as I wanted to be (out of hours) but retaining all the grown up attributes for work and professional dealings...
Here is the perfect place to cut loose and be a kid again, it's only the internet, we're all safe with a working brain and a computer with an off switch... Real life is different, real life is adult...
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Jan 9, 2019 11:13 AM CST Why must adults be mature?
Arthur_Sixpence
Arthur_SixpenceArthur_SixpenceEnnis, Clare Ireland51 Threads 4 Polls 1,001 Posts
aries1234: Yes you must stay in touch with the child within, but there is a difference between being childish, and childlike.
Well put... thumbs up
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Jan 9, 2019 11:18 AM CST Why must adults be mature?
pKrema
pKremapKremaAt home, Shumen Bulgaria6 Threads 4,707 Posts
Arthur_Sixpence: Today's kids are adult before their time, being pushed to achieve greatness by parents vicariously living past their failed aspirations through their kids...and yet, this generation is on the back of what are called the snowflake millennials...a damned if you do, damned if you don't paradigm...
As a sixty year old single man, I made a conscious decision to be as childlike as I wanted to be (out of hours) but retaining all the grown up attributes for work and professional dealings...
Here is the perfect place to cut loose and be a kid again, it's only the internet, we're all safe with a working brain and a computer with an off switch... Real life is different, real life is adult...
I would disagree with you Art... Kids live fast and wear themselves quick and that doesn't make them anywhere close to adults...
You have a child's body and mind into the fast track of life and when they reach 20 they are tired and bored...and know it all...
But it's an illusion, they don't mature, they are kids with no childhood...
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Jan 9, 2019 11:31 AM CST Why must adults be mature?
Arthur_Sixpence
Arthur_SixpenceArthur_SixpenceEnnis, Clare Ireland51 Threads 4 Polls 1,001 Posts
pKrema: I would disagree with you Art... Kids live fast and wear themselves quick and that doesn't make them anywhere close to adults...
You have a child's body and mind into the fast track of life and when they reach 20 they are tired and bored...and know it all...
But it's an illusion, they don't mature, they are kids with no childhood...
My concern is the pressure children are under to achieve' at all costs' in a future work environment that only truly favours the prepared... Maybe I'm deviating from the OPs thread centre, and if I am, I apologise... As a father who paid close attention to my children's development, (don't we all, or at least, most of us), I felt recreational time, unconditional love and supporting the policy of 'its OK to fail, because that's how we learn', worked wonders with my two...they discovered the power of play and it took them to careers that are now living, earning and fulfilling... My adult playtime likewise gives me a clear head, happy disposition, and chance to bring my best game to the working world... Everyone needs to be in touch with the inner child...
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Jan 9, 2019 11:59 AM CST Why must adults be mature?
pKrema
pKremapKremaAt home, Shumen Bulgaria6 Threads 4,707 Posts
Arthur_Sixpence: My concern is the pressure children are under to achieve' at all costs' in a future work environment that only truly favours the prepared... Maybe I'm deviating from the OPs thread centre, and if I am, I apologise... As a father who paid close attention to my children's development, (don't we all, or at least, most of us), I felt recreational time, unconditional love and supporting the policy of 'its OK to fail, because that's how we learn', worked wonders with my two...they discovered the power of play and it took them to careers that are now living, earning and fulfilling... My adult playtime likewise gives me a clear head, happy disposition, and chance to bring my best game to the working world... Everyone needs to be in touch with the inner child...
I understand you perfectly and you have done the right thing with your kids...to become happy adults...
Being in touch with your inner child isn't something many can easily do...
The freedom kids have today makes them feel as there's nothing more to be learned from life...
And it's sad...
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Jan 9, 2019 12:06 PM CST Why must adults be mature?
mollybaby
mollybabymollybabyCork City, Cork Ireland56 Threads 8 Polls 23,608 Posts
Adults who have lost the ability to have fun have gained the worst of adulthood and lost the best of childhood
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Jan 9, 2019 12:12 PM CST Why must adults be mature?
Inthewoods
InthewoodsInthewoodsColorado Springs, Colorado USA9,867 Posts
Don't worry be happy... grin
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Jan 9, 2019 12:30 PM CST Why must adults be mature?
ChesneyChrist
ChesneyChristChesneyChristManchester, Greater Manchester, England UK7,144 Posts
smiley963: While being a child, we are all led to believe that adulthood, is the be-all and end-all. We strive for maturity, and everything it encompasses. Is this acceptable to all human beings, or are there some that would prefer to revert to childhood gladly, as an adult? We have lost so much, in the process from child to adult! The people that refused, are referred to as a man-child/woman-child. These people are commendable, as they will stand by their beliefs. Do You?
Why not behave completely on impulse all the time? Nobody actually likes anybody anymore and civilisation is over-rated, there might never be a harsh winter again.
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Jan 10, 2019 1:20 AM CST Why must adults be mature?
smiley963
smiley963smiley963Johannesburg, Gauteng South Africa254 Threads 5 Polls 3,651 Posts
I think the posters here need to specify the age group they are referring to?
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Jan 10, 2019 3:50 PM CST Why must adults be mature?
deedee123xo
deedee123xodeedee123xoLimerick, Ireland15 Threads 3,538 Posts
smiley963: While being a child, we are all led to believe that adulthood, is the be-all and end-all. We strive for maturity, and everything it encompasses. Is this acceptable to all human beings, or are there some that would prefer to revert to childhood gladly, as an adult? We have lost so much, in the process from child to adult! The people that refused, are referred to as a man-child/woman-child. These people are commendable, as they will stand by their beliefs. Do You?
Mostly adult with childlike tendencies is how I like to describe myself.....always good to learn from that phrase of "dance like no-ones watching, sing like no one can hear you...love like you've never had your heart broken"...comes to mind
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Jan 11, 2019 10:34 AM CST Why must adults be mature?
smiley963
smiley963smiley963Johannesburg, Gauteng South Africa254 Threads 5 Polls 3,651 Posts
deedee123xo: Mostly adult with childlike tendencies is how I like to describe myself.....always good to learn from that phrase of "dance like no-ones watching, sing like no one can hear you...love like you've never had your heart broken"...comes to mind
iow. Be yourself, with no false adaptations! Enjoy life to the fullest! Don't care less about criticisms! They have no idea what they're missing!
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Jan 11, 2019 10:53 AM CST Why must adults be mature?
pKrema
pKremapKremaAt home, Shumen Bulgaria6 Threads 4,707 Posts
"Why must adult be mature?"





Because grownups have to be grownups, to adapt and change and think about others...
To sacrifice and make the hard decisions and know how much is too much...and when far is too far...
To nurture and be strong and guide with care and wisdom...
To put other's needs before their own and to know when to step back ...
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Jan 11, 2019 11:16 AM CST Why must adults be mature?
smiley963
smiley963smiley963Johannesburg, Gauteng South Africa254 Threads 5 Polls 3,651 Posts
pKrema: "Why must adult be mature?"





Because grownups have to be grownups, to adapt and change and think about others...
To sacrifice and make the hard decisions and know how much is too much...and when far is too far...
To nurture and be strong and guide with care and wisdom...
To put other's needs before their own and to know when to step back ...
Which of the above responsibilities do the others not keep, and still be themselves. You don't need to show that you are an adult by being responsible, it must come purely naturally, not with the idea "I'm and adult" and must thereby act like one, where no-one can criticise me being an adult, per the global idea of it.

How much of these so-called adults, are addicted to you-name-it? To keep the pose?

Child-like parents:
Think about others - Where else have you seen a stronger bond, between parent and children
Sacrifice - The children always come first
Nurture - You are the children's prime example, and they look up to you

Everyday Adult:
Not be selfish - Most adults are very much so, and put their own needs before anything else, and the children must ask "How high" when told (not asked) to jump.
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Jan 11, 2019 11:38 AM CST Why must adults be mature?
pKrema
pKremapKremaAt home, Shumen Bulgaria6 Threads 4,707 Posts
smiley963: Please define:
"Proper adults" in your book?

Responsibility comes naturally, not coached, as the problems of the parents, become the child's!!!!
laugh
A naturally achieve responsibility?
You must be joking...
Sorry, Smiley, that's not a virtue and you are not born with it...someone responsible have to show you and teach you...
Strict but gentle, loving and firm, not afraid to show vulnerability and passion...not afraid to admit they don't know but willing to learn...
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Jan 11, 2019 11:41 AM CST Why must adults be mature?
Matthew 18:3 And said, Verily I say unto you, Except ye be converted, and become as little children, ye shall not enter into the kingdom of heaven.
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Jan 11, 2019 11:42 AM CST Why must adults be mature?
smiley963
smiley963smiley963Johannesburg, Gauteng South Africa254 Threads 5 Polls 3,651 Posts
pKrema: A naturally achieve responsibility?
You must be joking...
Sorry, Smiley, that's not a virtue and you are not born with it...someone responsible have to show you and teach you...
Strict but gentle, loving and firm, not afraid to show vulnerability and passion...not afraid to admit they don't know but willing to learn...
Yes some are naturally responsible adults, actually most of them.
No I'm not joking!!!

Somewhere alone the lines the education structure changed between "adults" and childlike-adults, as adults generally need a ego boost a couple of times a day, and if not had it for the day, will visit a bar e.g. for needed ego.
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Jan 11, 2019 11:43 AM CST Why must adults be mature?
smiley963
smiley963smiley963Johannesburg, Gauteng South Africa254 Threads 5 Polls 3,651 Posts
mykingdomforanam: Matthew 18:3 And said, Verily I say unto you, Except ye be converted, and become as little children, ye shall not enter into the kingdom of heaven.
I know that quote:
I guess become like children mentally?
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