Do you prefer to know where you stand with someone? (91)

Mar 14, 2019 11:38 AM CST Do you prefer to know where you stand with someone?
Some people are direct, and told that they are being anti-social, where others will connive behind your backs, showing a smiling face and sweet words, totally insincere!!!

Which do you prefer?

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Mar 14, 2019 12:14 PM CST Do you prefer to know where you stand with someone?
Draegoneer
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smiley963: Some people are direct, and told that they are being anti-social, where others will connive behind your backs, showing a smiling face and sweet words, totally insincere!!!

Which do you prefer?
I'm not sure it matters. Most will cross paths with both types and more through out their life time.

You can't control them. You can control yourself and how you address it.

Walking away, or at least maintaining distance, while keeping minimal contact isn't a bad idea for the insincere.

For the direct, let's hope they can take as good as they give.
Mar 14, 2019 12:17 PM CST Do you prefer to know where you stand with someone?
smiley963: Some people are direct, and told that they are being anti-social, where others will connive behind your backs, showing a smiling face and sweet words, totally insincere!!!

Which do you prefer?
Sometimes we have to accept that people have reasons to keep you not knowing where you stand with them...and often they don't know themselves...yet...
Mar 14, 2019 12:22 PM CST Do you prefer to know where you stand with someone?
Draegoneer: I'm not sure it matters. Most will cross paths with both types and more through out their life time.

You can't control them. You can control yourself and how you address it.

Walking away, or at least maintaining distance, while keeping minimal contact isn't a bad idea for the insincere.

For the direct, let's hope they can take as good as they give.
Hi. It very much depends on Your personality, as to how you will handle these two totally diverse personalities. Thanks for the input!!!
Mar 14, 2019 12:27 PM CST Do you prefer to know where you stand with someone?
pKrema: Sometimes we have to accept that people have reasons to keep you not knowing where you stand with them...and often they don't know themselves...yet...
How do you feel about people going behind your back, to your boss, telling him all sorts of crap about you. How will you know they did it, except notice his suddenly ice cold demeanor?
Mar 14, 2019 12:29 PM CST Do you prefer to know where you stand with someone?
smiley963: How do you feel about people going behind your back, to your boss, telling him all sorts of crap about you. How will you know they did it, except notice his suddenly ice cold demeanor?
Well, that's life, isn't it...
It was going to be too perfect if we knew everything...
I am sure most forumers will swear they don't give a crap what others are saying about them anyway...
Mar 14, 2019 12:31 PM CST Do you prefer to know where you stand with someone?
smiley963: How do you feel about people going behind your back, to your boss, telling him all sorts of crap about you. How will you know they did it, except notice his suddenly ice cold demeanor?
I'm not surpried your mates dobbed you in.
Mar 14, 2019 12:33 PM CST Do you prefer to know where you stand with someone?
pKrema: Well, that's life, isn't it...
It was going to be too perfect if we knew everything...
I am sure most forumers will swear they don't give a crap what others are saying about them anyway...
This is a community, where all sorts of malicious, kind and could not care less attitudes reside!!!!
Mar 14, 2019 12:34 PM CST Do you prefer to know where you stand with someone?
aries1234: I'm not surpried your mates dobbed you in.
I am the boss!!!!
Mar 14, 2019 12:36 PM CST Do you prefer to know where you stand with someone?
smiley963: Some people are direct, and told that they are being anti-social, where others will connive behind your backs, showing a smiling face and sweet words, totally insincere!!!

Which do you prefer?
Peace of mind...we achieve such a blessed peace of mind when we teach ourselves not to care what others say and think about us.
It simply doesn't matter what others think about us.
Let it go. Your mind will thank you. wave
Mar 14, 2019 12:36 PM CST Do you prefer to know where you stand with someone?
smiley963: I am the boss!!!!
God help SArolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing
Mar 14, 2019 12:37 PM CST Do you prefer to know where you stand with someone?
Kaybee50: Peace of mind...we achieve such a blessed peace of mind when we teach ourselves not to care what others say and think about us.
It simply doesn't matter what others think about us.
Let it go. Your mind will thank you.
Are you a Buddhist, I was one too long ago. But no I don't agree with You, I live in reality!!!!
Mar 14, 2019 12:38 PM CST Do you prefer to know where you stand with someone?
aries1234: God help SA
By this time you have figured out, where you would be in this little scenario!!!!!
Mar 14, 2019 12:42 PM CST Do you prefer to know where you stand with someone?
smiley963: Are you a Buddhist, I was one too long ago. But no I don't agree with You, I live in reality!!!!
No, I am not a Buddhist. Why does that matter if I am or am not? dunno

I have learned, and continue to learn, through life's lessons and experiences what does and does not matter.
What I can and cannot control.
Cancer has taught me how short and precious life is and to embrace the positive and let go of the stuff that simply does not matter.

Trying to control others' thoughts, actions, words, feelings, etc. is something beyond our control, so let it go and peace of mind floods in.
Mar 14, 2019 12:45 PM CST Do you prefer to know where you stand with someone?
Kaybee50: No, I am not a Buddhist. Why does that matter if I am or am not?

I have learned, and continue to learn, through life's lessons and experiences what does and does not matter.
What I can and cannot control.
Cancer has taught me how short and precious life is and to embrace the positive and let go of the stuff that simply does not matter.

Trying to control others' thoughts, actions, words, feelings, etc. is something beyond our control, so let it go and peace of mind floods in.
I too had cancer. I'm expecting it to return soon, as the signs are there now.

Ok, jokes aside. I really could not care less who says what about me in real life. Note cs is not real life, as some are using me as an example.
Mar 14, 2019 12:55 PM CST Do you prefer to know where you stand with someone?
smiley963: I too had cancer. I'm expecting it to return soon, as the signs are there now.

Ok, jokes aside.
I wasn't joking about the cancer. dunno
Mar 14, 2019 12:56 PM CST Do you prefer to know where you stand with someone?
Kaybee50: I wasn't joking about the cancer.
Neither am I.
Mar 14, 2019 12:57 PM CST Do you prefer to know where you stand with someone?
smiley963: Neither am I.
O.k. Then I don't understand your comment about "All jokes aside" in regards to my cancer comment.
Mar 14, 2019 1:01 PM CST Do you prefer to know where you stand with someone?
Kaybee50: O.k. Then I don't understand your comment about "All jokes aside" in regards to my cancer comment.
I has nothing to do with that. It is my comment on:
Peace of mind...we achieve such a blessed peace of mind when we teach ourselves not to care what others say and think about us.
It simply doesn't matter what others think about us.
Let it go. Your mind will thank you.

I did not take you too seriously!

It does matter to us, what our loved ones think of us!!!!!
Mar 14, 2019 1:05 PM CST Do you prefer to know where you stand with someone?
smiley963: I has nothing to do with that. It is my comment on:
Peace of mind...we achieve such a blessed peace of mind when we teach ourselves not to care what others say and think about us.
It simply doesn't matter what others think about us.
Let it go. Your mind will thank you.

I did not take you too seriously!

It does matter to us, what our loved ones think of us!!!!!
But I wasn't joking about the Peace of Mind either.
Snookums, this is a prime example of why others react negatively to you.
You are not required to agree with others' opinions and comments here, but resorting to insults because someone doesn't fit into your box is the reason you receive negativity from forum users.

You know this. tip hat
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