Let's say you send a flower or compliment to somebody. They respond back with a simple Thank You but do not open the door to any other communication. Is "Thank You" the nice way of saying "No. Thank you"??
Maybe they're wanting you to take the first moves,sometimes i follow up a little if i just get a thank you.If after that theres nothing more then take it as a thanks but no thanks note.
The sentences all ready that are planned to accompany the flowers aggravate me, they are simplistic enough I think! Well...each time I try to say something in my own words, even if it means no, thanks.
I have replied with a simple "Thank You", sometimes that's all I have to say at the moment. I'm not a big fan of instantly returning compliments to someone I haven't previously interacted with, they just lack a certain tone of sincerity.
I wouldn't take it as a absolute brush off the first time, but if I didn't see something a bit more encouraging on the second attempt, there wouldn't likely be a third.
A few times I've sent a flower or a short email just because someone has peaked my interest. If they don't respond that's a sure No, thank you. Sometimes the reply is short and sweet and that's fine as well. I feel like I'm an adult I should be able to figure out what's meant by the reply. I also think by not responding word travels and soon you get a bad rep amongst the other members.
It could very well be. If you don't hear anything back, it should be evident that the person is not interested. Which is much better than them pretending to be, then later telling you they're not, or, simply dropping off the face of the earth.
AS for me if I have time to reply, no problem to start contact. I do not think I have to date, fall in love or get laid like crazy with women in here. To me, the more things we can talk about the better contact. As I have said before I think many people here have strong expectations and they do really want to find strong "prospects", then their "thanks" can be "no thanks"
A simple thank you is an honest reply to a flower. I searched through some of the threads last night and happened upon this thread by a real gentleman. He was recounting experiences of being a gentleman and how it had lost him the oppertunity on several occasions to continue liasons with a few women.
I understood what he was saying completely. I don't see a flower as any thing but a simple comment. I don't preceive it as an invite to an affair. Sometime we have to remember that not everyone believes that just because she talked to me, it means she wants me.
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