When do you know someone is exclusively yours? (80)
when you discuss it and both mutually agree to be exclusive.....
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M4_Mischief: when you discuss it and both mutually agree to be exclusive.....
Then you were very lucky, to have trustworthy ones!!!------ This thread is Archived ------
smiley963: Then you were very lucky, to have trustworthy ones!!!
I guess some of us are just not as lucky as others! It is said that your personality, attracts others, thus the fault is yours alone. A bit negative I would say!!!! If we all just see the dark side, there will be no light side either!------ This thread is Archived ------
smiley963: I guess some of us are just not as lucky as others! It is said that your personality, attracts others, thus the fault is yours alone. A bit negative I would say!!!! If we all just see the dark side, there will be no light side either!
I'm sure you have a light side, my treasure, someone might discover it some day .
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smiley963:
You only know someone is yours:
- When you have gone to bed together
- When they don't want you out of their sight
The above two items do not indicate exclusivity. You only know someone is yours:
- When you have gone to bed together
- When they don't want you out of their sight
Exclusivity is acquired after both parties involved have mutually discussed and agreed to it.
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Kaybee50: The above two items do not indicate exclusivity.
Exclusivity is acquired after both parties involved have mutually discussed and agreed to it.
Do people actually do that nowadays?Exclusivity is acquired after both parties involved have mutually discussed and agreed to it.
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smiley963: Do people actually do that nowadays?
I'm big on communicating. ------ This thread is Archived ------
Kaybee50: I'm big on communicating.
Yes, communication is very important, but things like that, just do not get said, that I know of!!!------ This thread is Archived ------
smiley963: Yes, communication is very important, but things like that, just do not get said, that I know of!!!
But they do get said.It isn't always easy to speak from the heart, this is true.
But for me, necessary. It eliminates misunderstandings, misconceptions, and is a healthy basis for a solid foundation.
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Kaybee50: I'm big on communicating.
Two people can verbally and in writing aree to a contract, in front of witnesses it is caled the marriage contract 
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Kaybee50: But they do get said.
It isn't always easy to speak from the heart, this is true.
But for me, necessary. It eliminates misunderstandings, misconceptions, and is a healthy basis for a solid foundation.
If you can manage to get that to happen, then you are amazing!It isn't always easy to speak from the heart, this is true.
But for me, necessary. It eliminates misunderstandings, misconceptions, and is a healthy basis for a solid foundation.
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aries1234: Two people can verbally and in writing aree to a contract, in front of witnesses it is caled the marriage contract
But this doesn't guarantee exclusivity! Contracts are often broken!
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smiley963: If you can manage to get that to happen, then you are amazing!
I am absolutely not amazing.Life's experiences and journey are the best teacher, and yet, I still manage to stumble too often by listening to my insecurities and fear.
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I'll be anyone's for $11.95 (plus taxes)
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daniela777: But this doesn't guarantee exclusivity!
Contracts are often broken!
Yes Dan but most people don't do into marriage lightly and breaking a contract sometimes has penaltiesContracts are often broken!
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Kaybee50: I am absolutely not amazing.
Life's experiences and journey are the best teacher, and yet, I still manage to stumble too often by listening to my insecurities and fear.
We do all listen to out insecurities:Life's experiences and journey are the best teacher, and yet, I still manage to stumble too often by listening to my insecurities and fear.
Once bitten, twice shy...
In my case forever...
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smiley963: We do all listen to out insecurities:
Once bitten, twice shy...
In my case forever...
I am working on being mindful of just being in the moment and enjoying the gifts that moment brings.Once bitten, twice shy...
In my case forever...
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I think to believe someone 'is yours' suggests a certain amount of possessiveness, or maybe a projection of insecurity leading to a need to possess.
From The Eden Project...In Search of the Magical Other.....James Hollis.
"To be fascinated by the Other is to be possessed by an affected idea. This is what happens in projection. In the most rabid stage of being in love, and rabid is by no means too strong a word, one is unable to do other than obsess on the Other.
One is caught in a projective identification with the hearts desire, the boundaries between self and other dissolving again, as they did for the infant.
This is the unconscious underpinning of the fascination with the Other, the search to recover the lost paradise of childhood, the original 'participation mystique' with the primary caregivers.
Similarly, the demand for exclusivity in relationship clearly has its roots in the infants total dependence on the stability of the Other."
From The Eden Project...In Search of the Magical Other.....James Hollis.
"To be fascinated by the Other is to be possessed by an affected idea. This is what happens in projection. In the most rabid stage of being in love, and rabid is by no means too strong a word, one is unable to do other than obsess on the Other.
One is caught in a projective identification with the hearts desire, the boundaries between self and other dissolving again, as they did for the infant.
This is the unconscious underpinning of the fascination with the Other, the search to recover the lost paradise of childhood, the original 'participation mystique' with the primary caregivers.
Similarly, the demand for exclusivity in relationship clearly has its roots in the infants total dependence on the stability of the Other."
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Exclusivity can only exist after the three involved mutually agree to it, both women and the man visit the local health department to test free of STDs, and the women demonstrate they can give good head.
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You only know someone is yours:
- When they tell you
- When you have gone to bed together
- When they don't want you out of their sight
- When they promise everlasting love
Have you anything to add, from experience?