Keeping secrets (41)
BerrySmoothie: We choose what we wish to reveal.
I haven’t divulged too much to my children, though if I’m asked, I’m honest with them.
If I’d told them everything, it may have harmed the good relationship I have with them.
It’s my history. I choose what and whom I give it away to.
........ok... I.m here now.....soooooo spill the beansI haven’t divulged too much to my children, though if I’m asked, I’m honest with them.
If I’d told them everything, it may have harmed the good relationship I have with them.
It’s my history. I choose what and whom I give it away to.
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Butin: ........ok... I.m here now.....soooooo spill the beans
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aries1234: Don't tell him anything he's the biggest gossip on CS
It’s far too late now 
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aries1234: Don't tell him anything he's the biggest gossip on CS
Don't forget also he can't afford a new shirt 
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BerrySmoothie: It’s far too late now
You must have seen Trufart's Tiny chopper 
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MikeD12: You must have seen Trufart's Tiny chopper
No. I missed that entirely Forgive me Tru
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Try, i’m just playin with you 
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*Tru*
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Friskyone: Is it ever a good idea or healthy reason for the relationship, to keep a secret from your partner/husband/wife?
If so, what would you consider a secret not to be revealed?
i think it's good to take one's time in what they reveal as a relationship develops. one's past is in the past. however, in an existing already committed relationship.... being secretive is putting up walls to keep your partner separate.If so, what would you consider a secret not to be revealed?
i think there's a difference between privacy and secrecy. healthy partnerships have a level of transparency and acceptance. secrets can prevent folks from developing that deep trust developed through honesty and intimacy.
i also think folks make their own 'rules' for a relationship. if both partners are comfortable with keeping secrets in the now...so be it. but if one or both partners' secrecy (not privacy) is negatively effecting the relationship, and preventing any real vulnerability, i would question the loyalty to the us. i certainly don't mean every single thing needs to be shared. i think folks know, or feel the difference when they are in service to an us, or service to a self.
sometimes folks want the convenience or benefits of a being in a relationship, without actually being in one.
jmho
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jono7: i think it's good to take one's time in what they reveal as a relationship develops. one's past is in the past. however, in an existing already committed relationship.... being secretive is putting up walls to keep your partner separate.
i think there's a difference between privacy and secrecy. healthy partnerships have a level of transparency and acceptance. secrets can prevent folks from developing that deep trust developed through honesty and intimacy.
i also think folks make their own 'rules' for a relationship. if both partners are comfortable with keeping secrets in the now...so be it. but if one or both partners' secrecy (not privacy) is negatively effecting the relationship, and preventing any real vulnerability, i would question the loyalty to the us. i certainly don't mean every single thing needs to be shared. i think folks know, or feel the difference when they are in service to an us, or service to a self.
sometimes folks want the convenience or benefits of a being in a relationship, without actually being in one.
jmho
Hmmm I didn’t read the thread header correctly.i think there's a difference between privacy and secrecy. healthy partnerships have a level of transparency and acceptance. secrets can prevent folks from developing that deep trust developed through honesty and intimacy.
i also think folks make their own 'rules' for a relationship. if both partners are comfortable with keeping secrets in the now...so be it. but if one or both partners' secrecy (not privacy) is negatively effecting the relationship, and preventing any real vulnerability, i would question the loyalty to the us. i certainly don't mean every single thing needs to be shared. i think folks know, or feel the difference when they are in service to an us, or service to a self.
sometimes folks want the convenience or benefits of a being in a relationship, without actually being in one.
jmho
I answered in terms of my children.
Agree with much of what you say Jono.
In regards to a potential partner, it takes time to build trust before we open ourselves up completely. It’s a process and for me personally, I like to know a man fairly well before baring all.
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Friskyone: Is it ever a good idea or healthy reason for the relationship, to keep a secret from your partner/husband/wife?
If so, what would you consider a secret not to be revealed?
The question is:If so, what would you consider a secret not to be revealed?
Are all of you revealing secrets, in this thread?
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hiya BerrySmoothie 
i totally agree with you.
it's a process, and one that needs time and trust.
i totally agree with you.
it's a process, and one that needs time and trust.
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smiley963: The question is:
Are all of you revealing secrets, in this thread?
NOOOOOO....that IS NOT the question. Don't try to hijack MY thread. Are all of you revealing secrets, in this thread?
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Friskyone: Is it ever a good idea or healthy reason for the relationship, to keep a secret from your partner/husband/wife?
If so, what would you consider a secret not to be revealed?
But do women keep secrets?If so, what would you consider a secret not to be revealed?
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My thing is, if they don’t ask then don’t tell cause then it’s gets thrown in your face, during arguing
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Friskyone: Is it ever a good idea or healthy reason for the relationship, to keep a secret from your partner/husband/wife?
If so, what would you consider a secret not to be revealed?
Did you know ?If so, what would you consider a secret not to be revealed?
In Islam it's extremely forbidden to reveal bedroom secrets
how about this in Christianity?
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saidmahmoud: But do women keep secrets?
I believe everyone has kept a secret. Women, men, children, family members, the FBI, the CIA, DEA, ATF, etc. Does that suffice you?
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Friskyone: I believe everyone has kept a secret. Women, men, children, family members, the FBI, the CIA, DEA, ATF, etc. Does that suffice you?
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saidmahmoud: No
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I haven’t divulged too much to my children, though if I’m asked, I’m honest with them.
If I’d told them everything, it may have harmed the good relationship I have with them.
It’s my history. I choose what and whom I give it away to.