smiley963: Yes, I'm talking about human beings first of all:-
Why do we all break up relationships, because we think that there are better available...
How many times did you try, before you found the better one...?
Fixing people...?! Mmmm...no... If you don't realise you are broken, nothing can fix you... And it's not about finding the better one but growing a sense of what is your "thing"...and do not settle for anything that just suits you for the moment...
smiley963OPJohannesburg, Gauteng South Africa3,651 posts
pKrema: Fixing people...?! Mmmm...no... If you don't realise you are broken, nothing can fix you... And it's not about finding the better one but growing a sense of what is your "thing"...and do not settle for anything that just suits you for the moment...
We all have different requirements, but the broad outline stays the same everywhere...
its not my job to fix anybody....I don't want to be with someone who I see as needing to be fixed either....that is a fixation with potential when decisions need to be based on the here and now and if it isn't working in the now that means we're probably not compatible and we both should move....and when it comes to fixing issues within a relationship it takes two and takes more than just im sorry's but real changes.....the man I choose to be with I will be able to accept as he is right off the bat cause I don't do maybees and mights and if only's..... I don't live in the future I live in the now so we gotta be good there with each other.....
smiley963OPJohannesburg, Gauteng South Africa3,651 posts
M4_Mischief: its not my job to fix anybody....I don't want to be with someone who I see as needing to be fixed either....that is a fixation with potential when decisions need to be based on the here and now and if it isn't working in the now that means we're probably not compatible and we both should move....and when it comes to fixing issues within a relationship it takes two and takes more than just im sorry's but real changes.....the man I choose to be with I will be able to accept as he is right off the bat cause I don't do maybees and mights and if only's..... I don't live in the future I live in the now so we gotta be good there with each other.....
See that's where we differ mainly...I think of possibilities...thus the future...I am never happy with just now...
that's where i live....the past is gone so its not real and the future isn't here yet so its not real either.....the way i see it is this....if we aren't compatible and things aren't great now then we/they are not going to be....this we'll be compatible if you change bit is erroneous....what if the person doesn't wanna change?...what happens when/if those changes don't come?....
smiley963OPJohannesburg, Gauteng South Africa3,651 posts
M4_Mischief: that's where i live....the past is gone so its not real and the future isn't here yet so its not real either.....the way i see it is this....if we aren't compatible and things aren't great now then we/they are not going to be....this we'll be compatible if you change bit is erroneous....what if the person doesn't wanna change?...what happens when/if those changes don't come?....
People don't really change ever...they might start living pretending...
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