Why is contact and dating SO difficult,HELP! (18)
Mate thats women all the time. Most of the women i know say one thing but actually mean another. If u work out how this system works please let the rest of us guys know!!!!
A've been on here for about last 4 month as well and i don't seem to be getting anywhere either. But neva know what might happen so don't worry about it.
A've been on here for about last 4 month as well and i don't seem to be getting anywhere either. But neva know what might happen so don't worry about it.
You never know when its gonna happen...it'll happen when you least expect it,well thats my theory anyway 
Good luck fellas
Good luck fellas
Hi Alan - I could have written this post - only about MEN
I use this site now only for the forums because I got sick of weirdo's sending me messages, boys young enough to be my grandsons, and people who only wanted to know if I could talk on MSN and did I have a web cam!! ( I wonder why
)
If I get a message that isnt rude or pushy then I always answer them politely even if I am not interested I say so but in a nice way.
On the very odd occasion that I have sent a message to someone else they dont even have the courtesy to say " thanks but no thanks". Then I have had flowers and messages from people saying they like my profile etc., so I look at theirs and find that we do have stuff in common and send them a message back and would you believe it - thats the last you hear from them - not even the bloody manners to drop you a note and say " well actually, I dont think so". Obviously they lied on their profiles when they said they were nice, or caring because in my book they are just rude and ignorant - but hey who cares, their loss.
Maybe you should just join in the general chat in the forums and see what happens and forget sending messages or waiting for them even and have a laugh with the regular users on their. Chriss and Ramone and Settfree and Scouser will all make you welcome - I'm sure - another guy to gang up against us poor women
Only joking guys
I use this site now only for the forums because I got sick of weirdo's sending me messages, boys young enough to be my grandsons, and people who only wanted to know if I could talk on MSN and did I have a web cam!! ( I wonder why
)If I get a message that isnt rude or pushy then I always answer them politely even if I am not interested I say so but in a nice way.
On the very odd occasion that I have sent a message to someone else they dont even have the courtesy to say " thanks but no thanks". Then I have had flowers and messages from people saying they like my profile etc., so I look at theirs and find that we do have stuff in common and send them a message back and would you believe it - thats the last you hear from them - not even the bloody manners to drop you a note and say " well actually, I dont think so". Obviously they lied on their profiles when they said they were nice, or caring because in my book they are just rude and ignorant - but hey who cares, their loss.
Maybe you should just join in the general chat in the forums and see what happens and forget sending messages or waiting for them even and have a laugh with the regular users on their. Chriss and Ramone and Settfree and Scouser will all make you welcome - I'm sure - another guy to gang up against us poor women
Only joking guysI guess the previouse dissapointment´s left some marks to us all, also maybe too many times it happens that our desires, wishes and dreams and expectations are not realitic. Maybe online we are dare to be a hopeless romantic, but know in real and scheduled life its quite different and makes it difficult to meet the expectations, not realy much different from meeting someone in an other enviroment. 
ive met someone through this site,and im so glad that i did, but it took me a few months of comming on the site everyday and getting to know people and talking on the forums,i came on to the forums just to make friends and a bit of company from when my wife left, i wasnt planning on getting to date someone,but it happened,i hope that you find what your looking for alan and its nice to meet you
Just don't expect it to happen,let it happen.
It will come,time....another 4 letter word!
It will come,time....another 4 letter word!
... and they fell in love and lived happily ever after! I should think that's most peoples wish who use dating sites but in reality if there is someone for everyone out in the world they might be searching another site or looking in a different direction. I believe in destiny and if you are supposed to meet whether it is via this site, another or a chance meeting it will happen eventually. I do think however, that a simply reply to say, thanks but no thanks, to a message or flower is courteous. If you state you are considerate on your profile then show that by simply acknowledging the fact that someone has gone out of their way to show interest or just say hello. And if someone's profile details a certain age or ethnic group then show respect for that persons hopes or wishes. I'm still getting messages from lads who are young enough to be my son and I do reply to say no thank you as I've found that they can be a bit persistent if you simply ignore them!
i agree with u bubbly that seems to b what i`m getting too. :o( in fact that`s all i`m getting. it does`nt hurt to reply to a message u send.
This question Iv'e posed can only be answered by the strange people that mess us around, obviosly all the replies up to now are from nice thoughtful people who have consideration for thier fellow human beings.
So it is a little nieve of me to expect an answer, because those types of people who mess us around dont have the guts or moral fibre to behave with respect and answer, So Im not trying any more(YOUR LOSS).
Thanks everyone for your time and effort.
Alan
So it is a little nieve of me to expect an answer, because those types of people who mess us around dont have the guts or moral fibre to behave with respect and answer, So Im not trying any more(YOUR LOSS).
Thanks everyone for your time and effort.
Alan
Hi,
There are good and bad points to the whole internet dating idea, it opens up a whole new world of people to chat and interact with.
But becuase you are sitting in front of a screen and not face to face with someone, it is less personal, and therefore it is easier for people to be unpolite and dismissive.
Don't let it get you down though, for all the rude folk, there are plenty of nice ones too!
The key is patience, i've been a member of this site for around two years and only met one person, so just be patient and don't give the rude one's the satisfaction of bothering about them!!!
There are good and bad points to the whole internet dating idea, it opens up a whole new world of people to chat and interact with.
But becuase you are sitting in front of a screen and not face to face with someone, it is less personal, and therefore it is easier for people to be unpolite and dismissive.
Don't let it get you down though, for all the rude folk, there are plenty of nice ones too!
The key is patience, i've been a member of this site for around two years and only met one person, so just be patient and don't give the rude one's the satisfaction of bothering about them!!!
Hi Alun
Here’s a serious answer to presumably a serious question: I looked at your profile and see that you are looking in the 42-age bracket. However, you then declare no interest in women with children. That’s just knocked you out of 90% of the searches because most women of that age already have, or may want to have, children.
A word of caution, if you do get any responses, which are not to your tastes or liking, it is sometimes less offensive not to reply, which by implication is far better than a negative “thanks but no thanks”. It really is very difficult to say something like that without bruising someone’s feelings. I stand no doubt to be corrected?
Here’s a serious answer to presumably a serious question: I looked at your profile and see that you are looking in the 42-age bracket. However, you then declare no interest in women with children. That’s just knocked you out of 90% of the searches because most women of that age already have, or may want to have, children.
A word of caution, if you do get any responses, which are not to your tastes or liking, it is sometimes less offensive not to reply, which by implication is far better than a negative “thanks but no thanks”. It really is very difficult to say something like that without bruising someone’s feelings. I stand no doubt to be corrected?
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If your looking for a miricle,follow the yellow brick road,it has many....
Hi
The sharing of joy (whether physical, emotional, or, intellectual) forms a bridge between the sharers and can be the basis for understanding, friendship and may be more……………. preconceived notion about others makes stumbling block
The sharing of joy (whether physical, emotional, or, intellectual) forms a bridge between the sharers and can be the basis for understanding, friendship and may be more……………. preconceived notion about others makes stumbling block
A trite response and biting riposte I received to an email I sent on here, saying “Hello”, Was: “Hello, good day”. I thought it could have been, “Have a nice day”, a la MacDonalds, but there you go, I went about my day with renewed vigour and enthusiasm, in this cold and wintry land... ...lol
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hi alan us girls have the same problem,it seems to me most people on these dating sites (men and women)are fishermen/women, they put out the right bait catch you then through you back in because they know there will be another fish swiming by very soon,but i still hope there is a fisherman who wont throw me back in,:
hello hope, welcome to the forums :)
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