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Aug 6, 2019 6:38 AM CST Control and power...
pKrema
pKremapKremaAt home, Shumen Bulgaria6 Threads 4,707 Posts
I guess it isn't easy to be honest with oneself and admit we are trying to control everything because it gives us a sense of security...
And I don't mean an aggressive or possessive kind of control...
Do you feel better if everything is precisely controlled by you, work, emotions, relations even feelings...?
Doing only things you believe are good for you, for your comfort zone...your order in live...status...
Isn't is just a false sense of security after all...?!
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Aug 6, 2019 7:19 AM CST Control and power...
Dedovix
DedovixDedovixBig Place, Central Serbia Serbia12 Threads 1 Polls 5,492 Posts
pKrema: I guess it isn't easy to be honest with oneself and admit we are trying to control everything because it gives us a sense of security...
And I don't mean an aggressive or possessive kind of control...
Do you feel better if everything is precisely controlled by you, work, emotions, relations even feelings...?
Doing only things you believe are good for you, for your comfort zone...your order in live...status...
Isn't is just a false sense of security after all...?!
I admit it, control gives me a chubby ...professor
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Aug 6, 2019 7:21 AM CST Control and power...
methuzelah
methuzelahmethuzelahTampa, Florida USA296 Threads 1,633 Posts
I don't. I have enough controlling myselflaugh
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Aug 6, 2019 7:21 AM CST Control and power...
Bogart_1960
Bogart_1960Bogart_1960Ask me !, Provence-Alpes-Cote d'Azur France36 Threads 1 Polls 10,012 Posts
"A smooth sea never made a skillful sailor. and/but put your future in good hands – your own."

oh damn, you dont like quotes wave

There's a reason for everything we do. Most of us never just act on a caprice, but also most people don't put so much thought into their every action.


I prefer living without "control".


did you ask for another quote?

"The dangers of life are infinite, and among them is safety."Goethe
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Aug 6, 2019 7:50 AM CST Control and power...
RedHeadedTaurus
RedHeadedTaurusRedHeadedTaurusHere, Michigan USA17 Threads 1 Polls 8,455 Posts
pKrema: I guess it isn't easy to be honest with oneself and admit we are trying to control everything because it gives us a sense of security...
And I don't mean an aggressive or possessive kind of control...
Do you feel better if everything is precisely controlled by you, work, emotions, relations even feelings...?
Doing only things you believe are good for you, for your comfort zone...your order in live...status...
Isn't is just a false sense of security after all...?!
Yep, pretty much. Although, I don't only do things that I believe are good for me - I also do things that I believe may be beneficial for others. I am not the type to be so self-centered. That said, I'm not usually a fly by the seat of my pants type person, so I feel most things in my life are precisely controlled by me. Sometimes it is just a false sense of security after all because even with the "best" planning (control), things in life go awry - regardless.
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Aug 6, 2019 9:06 AM CST Control and power...
deedee123xo
deedee123xodeedee123xoLimerick, Ireland15 Threads 3,538 Posts
pKrema: I guess it isn't easy to be honest with oneself and admit we are trying to control everything because it gives us a sense of security...
And I don't mean an aggressive or possessive kind of control...
Do you feel better if everything is precisely controlled by you, work, emotions, relations even feelings...?
Doing only things you believe are good for you, for your comfort zone...your order in live...status...
Isn't is just a false sense of security after all...?!
I like my feelings to be controlled (IRL)
I like my space to be controlled..my own personal life.
I used to be a stickler for trying to control everything...too me along time to realise this was selfish and wrong..but never did it for selfish reasons....for reasons i wont say here id had my own reasons for needing that control.
I have learnt to let it all go
I like organisation and routine in my life but im able to let things go too when it counts.
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Aug 6, 2019 10:19 AM CST Control and power...
OnlyLiveTwice
OnlyLiveTwiceOnlyLiveTwiceValletta, Majjistral Malta162 Threads 29 Polls 1,446 Posts
Pkrema, are you the über-control type? Does your clothes-cupboard look like a catalogue photo shoot?
Do you never leave a mess in the sink? Is your bathroom a spotless, tidy space? Do you carry your agenda in your bag, and cross off the items daily? If so, not all is lost. It may not be a bad thing.
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Aug 6, 2019 11:56 AM CST Control and power...
galrads
galradsgalradsDublin, Ohio USA2,264 Threads 279 Polls 36,283 Posts
pKrema: I guess it isn't easy to be honest with oneself and admit we are trying to control everything because it gives us a sense of security...
And I don't mean an aggressive or possessive kind of control...
Do you feel better if everything is precisely controlled by you, work, emotions, relations even feelings...?
Doing only things you believe are good for you, for your comfort zone...your order in live...status...
Isn't is just a false sense of security after all...?!
Control and power aren't bad things on their own in my opinion. However combine them and you get a convenience freak which is a behavior I never practice but I see a lot of others doing anything in a relationship when its convenient only for them. wave
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Aug 7, 2019 1:10 AM CST Control and power...
pKrema
pKremapKremaAt home, Shumen Bulgaria6 Threads 4,707 Posts
Control is also when you cling on to patterns that no longer serve you and fulfil you, but they are the "Devil you know" ... Refusing to step into the new because you may not be able to control what's coming...ignoring the possibility of something bigger and better...trying to convince yourself you are just fine with what you have already... Or creating brighter memories about situation that were painful or exhausting emotionally...just to fill the void...
Sitting down and facing it all as it really was... Do we have the guts?!
And I think it's one of the reasons why people choose to stay single or date casually...ONS...
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Aug 7, 2019 1:13 AM CST Control and power...
pKrema
pKremapKremaAt home, Shumen Bulgaria6 Threads 4,707 Posts
OnlyLiveTwice: Pkrema, are you the über-control type? Does your clothes-cupboard look like a catalogue photo shoot?
Do you never leave a mess in the sink? Is your bathroom a spotless, tidy space? Do you carry your agenda in your bag, and cross off the items daily? If so, not all is lost. It may not be a bad thing.
All you mentioned above isn't control for me...laugh
I am far from demanding perfection from myself and others...but chaos isn't a way to move forward, in my opinion...
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Aug 7, 2019 2:38 AM CST Control and power...
ChesneyChrist
ChesneyChristChesneyChristManchester, Greater Manchester, England UK7,144 Posts
One reason I keep talking about fate is to face circumstances not of your making to whatever end. We are stronger men and women than we could ever choose because we are a better man than we know, but a worse person than we think.
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Aug 8, 2019 2:57 AM CST Control and power...
Butcher559
Butcher559Butcher559Whangarei, Northland New Zealand13 Threads 1 Polls 750 Posts
pKrema: I guess it isn't easy to be honest with oneself and admit we are trying to control everything because it gives us a sense of security...
And I don't mean an aggressive or possessive kind of control...
Do you feel better if everything is precisely controlled by you, work, emotions, relations even feelings...?
Doing only things you believe are good for you, for your comfort zone...your order in live...status...
Isn't is just a false sense of security after all...?!
I like to have a percentage of control in the things i do and it does feel good when things you controlled turns out well, its like a straight shot of pride or a couple of glory pills for your ego.. But i'm finding that just rolling with life and not being so anxious about control over everthing around me, works just as well and the glory pills for your ego have a different buzz when a uncontrolled situation turns out good.
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Aug 8, 2019 3:48 AM CST Control and power...
I like to wear the jeans in a relationship
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