I would suggest that instead of blaming women for marriage failure, one needs to realise that in ANY relationship, it takes people to work things out, find compromise and most of all communicate. The hole in the premise posted in this thread is that marriage does work, can last a lifetime, so putting the entire blame for marriage breakdown on a very few women is without doubt unbelievably short sighted. Most marriages fail due to many reasons, the top of which is financial, then infidelity, and violence and those are hardly solely down to women.
Point 10 yes it does happen that he wont change but, I do know of one case many years ago where the mother on her death bed said to her daughter don't marry your boyfriend and came up with all his faults but her boyfriend changed when he married the daughter as he knew been married you have got responsibilities which you don't have when single.
Point 11 yes I do know a girl where her job in more important than the man in your life as her marriage broke down when her husband job moved him she was staying so as not to change jobs. When her now ex job moved him closer to where she lived he moved back in with her until his job moved him again and they parted again. Many years later she found a new man and she moved in with him and were together about 3 years but, we joked does he know what his partner look like as her work took her away from home most of the week and at the weekends she was over with her mother. So any man in her life will have to take second place to her work.
I'm going with #10. Picking the wrong guy. Even in a good way.
After an ugly very costly divorce,(I moved to another state where I landed a high paying position) my ex wife having heard about my success from mutual friends called me and said "All my friends ask me if I'd go back to you and I told them all 'Hell yeah!" Incredulously I said.. "You've got to be kidding? It ain't gonna happen" Then almost in the same breath she said defensively "Well, you're not my type anyways" I said... "I didn't tell you that to be mean... I told you that because in no way would that be happening. Since you've said I'm not your type; maybe you shouldn't have married me in the first place and now you want another stab at it? What color is the sky in your world?" I couldn't believe she wanted divorce only to get back together again. Pick the wrong dude once... shame on me. then pick him again.... (In the words of GW Bush:) We won't get fooled again" How psychotic is that? After that she became very hateful towards me.
My 2nd wife (RIP) said "She still loves you" I said "Ack!" My 2nd wife said "Hate is NOT the opposite of love, indifference is." I said "Ack!"
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The hole in the premise posted in this thread is that marriage does work, can last a lifetime, so putting the entire blame for marriage breakdown on a very few women is without doubt unbelievably short sighted.
Most marriages fail due to many reasons, the top of which is financial, then infidelity, and violence and those are hardly solely down to women.