what i am looking for is someone to light that same candle that burned when i met my ex.i knew she was the one for me .unfortunatly only one candle got lit
I think and you might not like it but if you are looking for someone to light the candle someone else has already lit then you have not blown out the first one and are not ready to lit a different candle. And trying to compare another person to the one you are trying to replace is not fair to her or you because it will never be the same. I think you have to be willing to remember the love you had but not let it influence the next one. It isn't fair keep living with what if's and if only. You can only live in the moment. And the only thing you can control is the present moment.
I have had long term friendships that I felt instantly connected to. It is unreal when it happens and beautiful. I think our hearts can sometimes tell when there is someone special in your presense.
so have i. but would you only have one date cuz you dont feel that way after one date? in my honest oppion 1st dates dont really count when people are nervous.
I was pretty young and had relationships with them for a very long time. I am not sure about the now thing am still waiting for a second date with someone.
As for other types of relationships I think you can have a connection with another person that can be instant and very meaningful.
it can happen though, it seems impossible, but i do believe in love at first sight... and sometimes if you have a long enough date, the nerves melt away.... maybe you need to experience something new
He doesn't need another candle, just someone to light the one that went out. Joe wants to feel the kind of love that Kirtie Allie talks about in the movie "It takes Two" where she says its the "can't eat, can't sleep, home run hit out of the ballpark kind of feeling."
Unfortunately, we never how when that kind of feeling will appear. For some it never does, for others, several times in a lifetime. Another thread says 3 times.
Wishing you happy feelings during your wait for your love....Nancy
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