Signs or rejection that men understand ( Archived) (83)

Nov 24, 2019 6:00 AM CST Signs or rejection that men understand
Tulefell
TulefellTulefellGothenburg, Vastra Gotaland Sweden103 Threads 5 Polls 3,295 Posts
Is there any?


I’ve had a date for a couple of years ago, we drunk a couple of glasses of red and talked for a couple of hours. The man was (perhaps still is) a good conversationalist, nothing controversial, nothing disturbing, no sharp edges and … nothing to remember or look forward to.

We agreed to go paddle together, he failed to show (due to excess alcohol consumption a day before that, my guess) and I found myself feeling a relief. I do prefer paddle alone.

We never met again: I said no to all his suggestions. But nonetheless, he took upon himself to make hints in his comments on FB as if he knows more about me, than he really does, as if we are a couple and meet regularly. I seldom react on his comments. I take my time to answer his private messages, if I do it at all. I never return his calls.

Isn’t that obvious that I am not interested in him? What signs of rejection do men understand?
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Nov 24, 2019 6:27 AM CST Signs or rejection that men understand
daniela777
daniela777daniela777Mi Paraiso, Murcia Spain44 Threads 2,714 Posts
Tulefell: Is there any?


I’ve had a date for a couple of years ago, we drunk a couple of glasses of red and talked for a couple of hours. The man was (perhaps still is) a good conversationalist, nothing controversial, nothing disturbing, no sharp edges and … nothing to remember or look forward to.

We agreed to go paddle together, he failed to show (due to excess alcohol consumption a day before that, my guess) and I found myself feeling a relief. I do prefer paddle alone.

We never met again: I said no to all his suggestions. But nonetheless, he took upon himself to make hints in his comments on FB as if he knows more about me, than he really does, as if we are a couple and meet regularly. I seldom react on his comments. I take my time to answer his private messages, if I do it at all. I never return his calls.

Isn’t that obvious that I am not interested in him? What signs of rejection do men understand?
Generally...most men don't take rejection very well.

They prefer to do the rejection than being rejected.
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Nov 24, 2019 6:32 AM CST Signs or rejection that men understand
Tulefell
TulefellTulefellGothenburg, Vastra Gotaland Sweden103 Threads 5 Polls 3,295 Posts
daniela777: Generally...most men don't take rejection very well.

They prefer to do the rejection than being rejected.
Shall I start to pursue him in hope that he'd get enough at same point and reject me?
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Nov 24, 2019 6:37 AM CST Signs or rejection that men understand
donal63
donal63donal63letterkenny, Donegal Ireland2 Threads 2,252 Posts
Rogerandout: You don't listen to that do you Donal. That's just part off the game. Playing hard to get. Now a restraining order, then you have to think. Maybe she's not interested
its basically along them lines,,sometimes less swearing involvedconfused
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Nov 24, 2019 6:40 AM CST Signs or rejection that men understand
Rogerandout
RogerandoutRogerandoutLondon, Greater London, England UK686 Posts
Tulefell: Shall I start to pursue him in hope that he'd get enough at same point and reject me?
Just be yourself. That would probably work
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Nov 24, 2019 6:41 AM CST Signs or rejection that men understand
donal63
donal63donal63letterkenny, Donegal Ireland2 Threads 2,252 Posts
had a girlfriend who didn't want to see me no more,as her boyfriend Wouldn't like itconfused
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Nov 24, 2019 6:52 AM CST Signs or rejection that men understand
ChesneyChrist
ChesneyChristChesneyChristManchester, Greater Manchester, England UK7,144 Posts
You have to make us think that it was our idea. Introduce him to someone younger and more attractive.
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Nov 24, 2019 7:02 AM CST Signs or rejection that men understand
irish78eyes
irish78eyesirish78eyesMeath/Louth, Louth Ireland22 Threads 6,274 Posts
Tulefell: Is there any?


I’ve had a date for a couple of years ago, we drunk a couple of glasses of red and talked for a couple of hours. The man was (perhaps still is) a good conversationalist, nothing controversial, nothing disturbing, no sharp edges and … nothing to remember or look forward to.

We agreed to go paddle together, he failed to show (due to excess alcohol consumption a day before that, my guess) and I found myself feeling a relief. I do prefer paddle alone.

We never met again: I said no to all his suggestions. But nonetheless, he took upon himself to make hints in his comments on FB as if he knows more about me, than he really does, as if we are a couple and meet regularly. I seldom react on his comments. I take my time to answer his private messages, if I do it at all. I never return his calls.

Isn’t that obvious that I am not interested in him? What signs of rejection do men understand?
I'm straight as they come, if I don't want him he will know. I just say I'm sorry but we are just friends, there is nothing there! If you say ' I feel" then they cannot tell you how to feel. Pretty blunt, but I'd rather that than be accused further down the line of stringing along or being in awkward positions
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Nov 24, 2019 7:02 AM CST Signs or rejection that men understand
Tulefell
TulefellTulefellGothenburg, Vastra Gotaland Sweden103 Threads 5 Polls 3,295 Posts
Rogerandout: Just be yourself. That would probably work
How many years do I have to be myself for that tactic to work? Is 2 years too short a time?
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Nov 24, 2019 7:05 AM CST Signs or rejection that men understand
Tulefell
TulefellTulefellGothenburg, Vastra Gotaland Sweden103 Threads 5 Polls 3,295 Posts
ChesneyChrist: You have to make us think that it was our idea. Introduce him to someone younger and more attractive.
Well... your comment can be considered as canonical example of the male detachment from reality.
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Nov 24, 2019 7:07 AM CST Signs or rejection that men understand
Rogerandout
RogerandoutRogerandoutLondon, Greater London, England UK686 Posts
Tulefell: How many years do I have to be myself for that tactic to work? Is 2 years too short a time?
A couple of minutes should be enough
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Nov 24, 2019 7:08 AM CST Signs or rejection that men understand
donal63
donal63donal63letterkenny, Donegal Ireland2 Threads 2,252 Posts
irish78eyes: I'm straight as they come, if I don't want him he will know. I just say I'm sorry but we are just friends, there is nothing there! If you say ' I feel" then they cannot tell you how to feel. Pretty blunt, but I'd rather that than be accused further down the line of stringing along or being in awkward positions
thanks for letting me knowgrin
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Nov 24, 2019 7:10 AM CST Signs or rejection that men understand
Tulefell
TulefellTulefellGothenburg, Vastra Gotaland Sweden103 Threads 5 Polls 3,295 Posts
irish78eyes: I'm straight as they come, if I don't want him he will know. I just say I'm sorry but we are just friends, there is nothing there! If you say ' I feel" then they cannot tell you how to feel. Pretty blunt, but I'd rather that than be accused further down the line of stringing along or being in awkward positions
I think ignoring his calls is pretty blunt. Never told him anything about my feelings. And no, I'll never say a man that we are "just friends", coz I never have male friends to start with. Friendship is very important to me, I had a very few people throughout my life, whom I considered my friends, they all were women. "Just friends" doesn't exist for me. And it's another subject.
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Nov 24, 2019 7:12 AM CST Signs or rejection that men understand
Rogerandout
RogerandoutRogerandoutLondon, Greater London, England UK686 Posts
irish78eyes: I'm straight as they come, if I don't want him he will know. I just say I'm sorry but we are just friends, there is nothing there! If you say ' I feel" then they cannot tell you how to feel. Pretty blunt, but I'd rather that than be accused further down the line of stringing along or being in awkward positions
Friends? Yeah right, no man's gonna be friends with a woman who's brutally rejected him. You're a hard woman Irish
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Nov 24, 2019 7:12 AM CST Signs or rejection that men understand
Tulefell
TulefellTulefellGothenburg, Vastra Gotaland Sweden103 Threads 5 Polls 3,295 Posts
Rogerandout: A couple of minutes should be enough
Well... he makes exactly that sort of comments: as if he knows me.
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Nov 24, 2019 7:17 AM CST Signs or rejection that men understand
irish78eyes
irish78eyesirish78eyesMeath/Louth, Louth Ireland22 Threads 6,274 Posts
Rogerandout: Friends? Yeah right, no man's gonna be friends with a woman who's brutally rejected him. You're a hard woman Irish
That I am, but the respect is there and yes I am friends or have been out in same places and same group of friends. Most of my friends are male anyway. Less drama lol
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Nov 24, 2019 7:18 AM CST Signs or rejection that men understand
Rogerandout
RogerandoutRogerandoutLondon, Greater London, England UK686 Posts
Tulefell: Well... he makes exactly that sort of comments: as if he knows me.
Oh! But you've been telling us, that he likes you
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Nov 24, 2019 7:21 AM CST Signs or rejection that men understand
Rogerandout: Friends? Yeah right, no man's gonna be friends with a woman who's brutally rejected him. You're a hard woman Irish
But she's a kinda right ,if she don't like from the start it's not gonna work out......
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Nov 24, 2019 7:25 AM CST Signs or rejection that men understand
Rogerandout
RogerandoutRogerandoutLondon, Greater London, England UK686 Posts
michaelright: But she's a kinda right ,if she don't like from the start it's not gonna work out......
How? She's a woman. Their never right
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Nov 24, 2019 7:30 AM CST Signs or rejection that men understand
Tulefell
TulefellTulefellGothenburg, Vastra Gotaland Sweden103 Threads 5 Polls 3,295 Posts
Rogerandout: Oh! But you've been telling us, that he likes you
I haven't. You either have reading comprehension issues or are of the very sort as the "hero" of this thread.

I've been myself for more than 2 minuts now. You should have got enough.
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