Mourning and Letting Go of a Relationship (8)
This person I'm speaking of is not a bad person; she's not perfect and, yeah, she's done and said things that were hurtful to me.
With this understanding, I realize I should have told her when she did or said something that bothered me instead of thinking she would just ‘get it' and address the problem herself. Nobody does that, that's not the real world. People aren't mind-readers after all. Mistreatment comes from many places, sometimes from those you love (and who love you). Being a martyr is a great way to ensure you get hurt over and over again and that's what I've been doing.
With this understanding, I realize I should have told her when she did or said something that bothered me instead of thinking she would just ‘get it' and address the problem herself. Nobody does that, that's not the real world. People aren't mind-readers after all. Mistreatment comes from many places, sometimes from those you love (and who love you). Being a martyr is a great way to ensure you get hurt over and over again and that's what I've been doing.
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Lastly, I think being able to forgive is an important part of the process even if (especially if) they don't feel they have anything to apologize for. It's really true. With that in mind…
I forgive you and, yeah, I still love you.
I forgive you and, yeah, I still love you.
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csmkhan: Lastly, I think being able to forgive is an important part of the process even if (especially if) they don't feel they have anything to apologize for. It's really true. With that in mind…
I forgive you and, yeah, I still love you.
It depends on a lot of things and the time you were with them. Time is definitely a healer!!I forgive you and, yeah, I still love you.
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Here's a hug 
If this is what love or being in love with some one is all about then you can all have it..All you people chasing this is something I'm not interested in..I will gladly give my mail to whoever wants it.
If this is what love or being in love with some one is all about then you can all have it..All you people chasing this is something I'm not interested in..I will gladly give my mail to whoever wants it.
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csmkhan: This person I'm speaking of is not a bad person; she's not perfect and, yeah, she's done and said things that were hurtful to me.
With this understanding, I realize I should have told her when she did or said something that bothered me instead of thinking she would just ‘get it' and address the problem herself. Nobody does that, that's not the real world. People aren't mind-readers after all. Mistreatment comes from many places, sometimes from those you love (and who love you). Being a martyr is a great way to ensure you get hurt over and over again and that's what I've been doing.
What did she Do or not do? Forget about it If you don't have Commitment, Communication Compatibility and Compromises.With this understanding, I realize I should have told her when she did or said something that bothered me instead of thinking she would just ‘get it' and address the problem herself. Nobody does that, that's not the real world. People aren't mind-readers after all. Mistreatment comes from many places, sometimes from those you love (and who love you). Being a martyr is a great way to ensure you get hurt over and over again and that's what I've been doing.
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csmkhan: Mourning the loss of a relationship is hard and it's also necessary. It's okay to be sad and really feel the loss of your partner when a breakup happens. I'm not saying that for you; I'm saying that for me.
Letting people go hasn't been the hardest thing for me to do. It hasn't. I can stop talking to someone and leave them be. It doesn't stop me from snooping on them from time to time, however. What I typically do is I try to move on quickly—flipping through the pages of a relationship as quickly as possible because I believe that doing so will get me over the heartache that much faster. It turns out that this method of getting over a breakup or loss of a relationship requires real work.
I was avoiding the real work; the hard work…
Losing a relationship with someone is tough, no matter who you are or how you are—you could be a logic and data-driven person but when it comes to loss or matters of the heart you turn into a petulant puddle of goo. Why is that? Perhaps it's because breaking up with someone is kinda like (or exactly like) withdrawing from a substance like drugs or booze.
I wouldn't know, I'm still trying to find a relationship.Letting people go hasn't been the hardest thing for me to do. It hasn't. I can stop talking to someone and leave them be. It doesn't stop me from snooping on them from time to time, however. What I typically do is I try to move on quickly—flipping through the pages of a relationship as quickly as possible because I believe that doing so will get me over the heartache that much faster. It turns out that this method of getting over a breakup or loss of a relationship requires real work.
I was avoiding the real work; the hard work…
Losing a relationship with someone is tough, no matter who you are or how you are—you could be a logic and data-driven person but when it comes to loss or matters of the heart you turn into a petulant puddle of goo. Why is that? Perhaps it's because breaking up with someone is kinda like (or exactly like) withdrawing from a substance like drugs or booze.
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If you lost someone you love, it’s a mourning process.
It can take time.
It can take time.
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Letting people go hasn't been the hardest thing for me to do. It hasn't. I can stop talking to someone and leave them be. It doesn't stop me from snooping on them from time to time, however. What I typically do is I try to move on quickly—flipping through the pages of a relationship as quickly as possible because I believe that doing so will get me over the heartache that much faster. It turns out that this method of getting over a breakup or loss of a relationship requires real work.
I was avoiding the real work; the hard work…
Losing a relationship with someone is tough, no matter who you are or how you are—you could be a logic and data-driven person but when it comes to loss or matters of the heart you turn into a petulant puddle of goo. Why is that? Perhaps it's because breaking up with someone is kinda like (or exactly like) withdrawing from a substance like drugs or booze.