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The elderly having babies. (59)

May 23, 2020 4:07 AM CST The elderly having babies.
tomcatty: Women are having babies older and older. Bearing in mind old age beginsat 56 officially in the UK, is it fair to have children when your elderly, although there are advantages and disadvantages having elderly parents.
What do you think, did you have elderly parents?
Is there also someone who thinks about the child? Should a child grow up in a family whose parents are over 50? Will it then become the caregiver of his or her parents? My mother started dementia at the age of 70, I can't imagine that a 20 year old studying daughter or son living at home would get this extra task on his shoulders.

I personally find it selfish to start having children after the age of 50. I was 42 when my youngest daughter came into my life, I adopted her, she was a 5 month old baby. Now I'm 55, and a full time working mother to give her everything she needs. Studying costs a lot of money, and if you have to pay for an upbringing when your retirement approaches, I will ask myself many questions. I don't see a 70 year old parent doing the same tasks as a 50 year old parent when the child is a teenager.

I'm already the "old mom" in the eyes of her schoolfriends.

Just my opinion
May 23, 2020 4:30 AM CST The elderly having babies.
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Sawdust_Molly: Is there also someone who thinks about the child? Should a child grow up in a family whose parents are over 50? Will it then become the caregiver of his or her parents? My mother started dementia at the age of 70, I can't imagine that a 20 year old studying daughter or son living at home would get this extra task on his shoulders.

I personally find it selfish to start having children after the age of 50. I was 42 when my youngest daughter came into my life, I adopted her, she was a 5 month old baby. Now I'm 55, and a full time working mother to give her everything she needs. Studying costs a lot of money, and if you have to pay for an upbringing when your retirement approaches, I will ask myself many questions. I don't see a 70 year old parent doing the same tasks as a 50 year old parent when the child is a teenager.

I'm already the "old mom" in the eyes of her schoolfriends.

Just my opinion
Wise words.handshake

Your daughter is a lucky girl to have a Mum like you.teddybear
May 23, 2020 4:45 AM CST The elderly having babies.
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my grandmother brought me up and i had a wonderful childhood, my mothrwas too young to take on the responsibility,
May 23, 2020 5:42 AM CST The elderly having babies.
epirb
epirbepirbDannevirke, Hawke's Bay New Zealand19 Threads 1 Polls 10,938 Posts
Sawdust_Molly: Is there also someone who thinks about the child? Should a child grow up in a family whose parents are over 50? Will it then become the caregiver of his or her parents? My mother started dementia at the age of 70, I can't imagine that a 20 year old studying daughter or son living at home would get this extra task on his shoulders.

I personally find it selfish to start having children after the age of 50. I was 42 when my youngest daughter came into my life, I adopted her, she was a 5 month old baby. Now I'm 55, and a full time working mother to give her everything she needs. Studying costs a lot of money, and if you have to pay for an upbringing when your retirement approaches, I will ask myself many questions. I don't see a 70 year old parent doing the same tasks as a 50 year old parent when the child is a teenager.

I'm already the "old mom" in the eyes of her schoolfriends.

Just my opinion
Plenty of children are raised by their grand parents , far more of grand parents raising children than there would be over fifty year old mothers and there seems to be an acceptance of that . So whats the difference
May 23, 2020 6:05 AM CST The elderly having babies.
Tulefell
TulefellTulefellGothenburg, Vastra Gotaland Sweden46 Threads 3 Polls 2,493 Posts
tomcatty: Women are having babies older and older. Bearing in mind old age beginsat 56 officially in the UK, is it fair to have children when your elderly, although there are advantages and disadvantages having elderly parents.
What do you think, did you have elderly parents?
Contemplating fathering a child?
May 23, 2020 7:25 AM CST The elderly having babies.
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Tulefell: Contemplating fathering a child?
Why notgrin wink
May 23, 2020 8:15 AM CST The elderly having babies.
Tulefell
TulefellTulefellGothenburg, Vastra Gotaland Sweden46 Threads 3 Polls 2,493 Posts
tomcatty: Why not
A mere look at you will make any woman infertile.
May 23, 2020 8:17 AM CST The elderly having babies.
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Tulefell: A mere look at you will make any woman infertile.
you know nothing about me, outside CS,yawn
May 23, 2020 10:32 AM CST The elderly having babies.
Tulefell
TulefellTulefellGothenburg, Vastra Gotaland Sweden46 Threads 3 Polls 2,493 Posts
tomcatty: you know nothing about me, outside CS,
Easy to deduct: outside CS women fall over each other to get your attention, therefore you are hiding here.
May 23, 2020 10:35 AM CST The elderly having babies.
My late mother and father had a total of 7 children 2 of the 7 passed on when they were small.My late father was 47 and my mother was 36 when I was born.
May 23, 2020 10:37 AM CST The elderly having babies.
Tulefell
TulefellTulefellGothenburg, Vastra Gotaland Sweden46 Threads 3 Polls 2,493 Posts
Sawdust_Molly: Is there also someone who thinks about the child? Should a child grow up in a family whose parents are over 50? Will it then become the caregiver of his or her parents? My mother started dementia at the age of 70, I can't imagine that a 20 year old studying daughter or son living at home would get this extra task on his shoulders.

I personally find it selfish to start having children after the age of 50. I was 42 when my youngest daughter came into my life, I adopted her, she was a 5 month old baby. Now I'm 55, and a full time working mother to give her everything she needs. Studying costs a lot of money, and if you have to pay for an upbringing when your retirement approaches, I will ask myself many questions. I don't see a 70 year old parent doing the same tasks as a 50 year old parent when the child is a teenager.

I'm already the "old mom" in the eyes of her schoolfriends.

Just my opinion
Agree. Parenthood is a lot more than just providing genetic material. It's a long-term full-pelt commitment. If someone lived a childless life until 50, it's wise to continue to do so, methinks.
May 23, 2020 10:57 AM CST The elderly having babies.
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Tulefell: Easy to deduct: outside CS women fall over each other to get your attention, therefore you are hiding here.
yeh i have to beat them back with a baseball bat, notrolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing
May 23, 2020 5:04 PM CST The elderly having babies.
epirb: Plenty of children are raised by their grand parents , far more of grand parents raising children than there would be over fifty year old mothers and there seems to be an acceptance of that . So whats the difference
A huge difference in my eyes,.. upbringing your grandchildren, isn't the same as the responsability as a parent. In my childhood I was more with my grandparents then with my parents, but at the end parents are responsabel for there children. Grandparents are a back up, a help.. a big difference, me thinking...
May 23, 2020 5:09 PM CST The elderly having babies.
germanspitz: Wise words.

Your daughter is a lucky girl to have a Mum like you.
Thanks germanspitz

teddybear
May 23, 2020 5:26 PM CST The elderly having babies.
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Sawdust_Molly: Thanks germanspitz
has it ever crossed your mind you might be wronglaugh laugh laugh
May 23, 2020 6:50 PM CST The elderly having babies.
epirb
epirbepirbDannevirke, Hawke's Bay New Zealand19 Threads 1 Polls 10,938 Posts
Sawdust_Molly: A huge difference in my eyes,.. upbringing your grandchildren, isn't the same as the responsability as a parent. In my childhood I was more with my grandparents then with my parents, but at the end parents are responsabel for there children. Grandparents are a back up, a help.. a big difference, me thinking...
Plenty of grand parents have sole custody of their grand children with the parent or parents out of the picture . 1 in every 200 children are raised by their grandparents in NZ .
May 23, 2020 11:38 PM CST The elderly having babies.
epirb: Plenty of grand parents have sole custody of their grand children with the parent or parents out of the picture . 1 in every 200 children are raised by their grandparents in NZ .
Not by free choice I guess. Rather out of necessity if the parents are out of the picture for some dubious reason.
May 23, 2020 11:42 PM CST The elderly having babies.
Oralmaster76
Oralmaster76Oralmaster76Dublin, Ireland1 Posts
I Think there is so much more risk to the babe at that age in a womans life and more riak of a defect birth. But not in all cases i suppose
More poqer to couple that honestly plan a child at that age
May 24, 2020 9:53 AM CST The elderly having babies.
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Oralmaster76: I Think there is so much more risk to the babe at that age in a womans life and more riak of a defect birth. But not in all cases i suppose
More poqer to couple that honestly plan a child at that age
I don't think his is an area which the polititians would want to legistlate, so in the last instance it's up to the individuals involved, not you or me.
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