Income difference and relationship ( Archived) (80)

Jun 23, 2020 2:12 PM CST Income difference and relationship
Cranky_Geezer
Cranky_GeezerCranky_GeezerPatchogue, New York USA29 Threads 1 Polls 2,239 Posts
snowlynx: You wouldn't still have her number by any chance?
Yes I do. We're still quite friendly and have two children together. However, she's remarried and not looking for a stranger from the internet. Sorry! laugh cheers
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Jun 23, 2020 2:14 PM CST Income difference and relationship
Cranky_Geezer
Cranky_GeezerCranky_GeezerPatchogue, New York USA29 Threads 1 Polls 2,239 Posts
Tulefell: And she?
She was fine with our financial situation. I made a good living at the time and was able to work out of the house and be Mr. Mom. Our issues had nothing to do with money.
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Jun 23, 2020 2:16 PM CST Income difference and relationship
rohaan
rohaanrohaanCoos Bay, Oregon USA229 Threads 10,460 Posts
Cranky_Geezer: Say some men or most men. Saying men implies all. My ex-wife earned three times as much as me. I was fine with that.
Almost every registered nurse, and often, L.P.N. I met out-earned their husband. (Male licensed nurses out-earned their non-nurse partners, as well.) A friend of mine is a physician, and her (male) partner is a carpenter. She earns close to six times what he does. The trend of the husband earning more is diminishing.
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Jun 23, 2020 2:16 PM CST Income difference and relationship
Tulefell
TulefellTulefellGothenburg, Vastra Gotaland Sweden103 Threads 5 Polls 3,295 Posts
Domestic violence is a different topic, but I'm sure it has a financial angle: women earn less money just because they are women and very often cannot afford to leave an abusive relationship. Totally heartbreaking :(
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Jun 23, 2020 2:18 PM CST Income difference and relationship
Melody1671
Melody1671Melody1671Maracaibo, Zulia Venezuela2,376 Posts
Tulefell: You can be busy with different tasks all day long and still have no income: I have a few acquaintances, who do a lot of volunteer job. By definition they get no monetary compensation.

Not always working brings money.
Well, that's their life circumstance, not mine... You asked for opinions and I gave mine...I do a lot of volunteer job myself... And of course I don't get any money for it... In fact, I spend money... And I love to be able to help sterilize and buy vaccines or medical treatment for little animals... I even donated ALL of the medical supplies that were left after my Mom passed... And it was such amount of stuff that the lady that received them sent me a message CRYING and whenever she sends a help package to people in need, she attaches an "Im memoriam" card with my Mom's name (she asked me to do so)... And a famous news journalist here, whose father was about to have surgery and couldn't find specific medical supplies also got a box of seven bottles of physiological solution (Not sure if I got that right in english) and other supplies... Her father always messages me and we have built a wonderful friendship... But, to get back on topic, I would prefer to spend my life with a male that didn't feel comfortable letting me do all the job, paid or not... I am looking for a male that would be able to do volunteer job with me, as well as making money with me... bouquet
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Jun 23, 2020 2:18 PM CST Income difference and relationship
Cranky_Geezer
Cranky_GeezerCranky_GeezerPatchogue, New York USA29 Threads 1 Polls 2,239 Posts
rohaan: Almost every registered nurse, and often, L.P.N. I met out-earned their husband. (Male licensed nurses out-earned their non-nurse partners, as well.) A friend of mine is a physician, and her (male) partner is a carpenter. She earns close to six times what he does. The trend of the husband earning more is diminishing.
Actually my ex is in the medical field. She's a board certified Family Physician.
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Jun 23, 2020 2:19 PM CST Income difference and relationship
Melody1671
Melody1671Melody1671Maracaibo, Zulia Venezuela2,376 Posts
* "In Memoriam"
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Jun 23, 2020 2:22 PM CST Income difference and relationship
rohaan
rohaanrohaanCoos Bay, Oregon USA229 Threads 10,460 Posts
Cranky_Geezer: Actually my ex is in the medical field. She's a board certified Family Physician.
fantastic!! I bet she’s a sweetheart, too...I’ve known so many way cool lady physicians. It hasn’t been easy for them. Trust me. (I’m retired from practical nursing). It was a super career, for the most part..
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Jun 23, 2020 2:27 PM CST Income difference and relationship
Lasagna
LasagnaLasagnaBuenos Aires, Argentina10 Threads 191 Posts
Bnaughty: Domestic violence against women is rife here too
Sad but true mon chéri. hug
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Jun 23, 2020 2:28 PM CST Income difference and relationship
Melody1671
Melody1671Melody1671Maracaibo, Zulia Venezuela2,376 Posts
Lasagna: Not quite so. Lots of single mothers in Latin America last time I checked.
Also many murder their wife in order not to divide 50/50 in the event of a divorce.
I said that's the way most latin males are raised... But only THEM are to choose what they do with their lives and what choices they make... bouquet
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Jun 23, 2020 2:28 PM CST Income difference and relationship
Cranky_Geezer
Cranky_GeezerCranky_GeezerPatchogue, New York USA29 Threads 1 Polls 2,239 Posts
rohaan: fantastic!! I bet she’s a sweetheart, too...I’ve known so many way cool lady physicians. It hasn’t been easy for them. Trust me. (I’m retired from practical nursing). It was a super career, for the most part..
thumbs up
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Jun 23, 2020 2:30 PM CST Income difference and relationship
Melody1671
Melody1671Melody1671Maracaibo, Zulia Venezuela2,376 Posts
galrads: A lot of Italian males are this way too, except those living in Italy letting their mommies do everything for them up to and maybe when they over 40 years of age.
Well, they are the exceptions that confirm the rule, maybe?... confused laugh
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Jun 23, 2020 2:38 PM CST Income difference and relationship
Tulefell
TulefellTulefellGothenburg, Vastra Gotaland Sweden103 Threads 5 Polls 3,295 Posts
Melody1671: Well, that's their life circumstance, not mine... You asked for opinions and I gave mine...I do a lot of volunteer job myself... And of course I don't get any money for it... In fact, I spend money... And I love to be able to help sterilize and buy vaccines or medical treatment for little animals... I even donated ALL of the medical supplies that were left after my Mom passed... And it was such amount of stuff that the lady that received them sent me a message CRYING and whenever she sends a help package to people in need, she attaches an "Im memoriam" card with my Mom's name (she asked me to do so)... And a famous news journalist here, whose father was about to have surgery and couldn't find specific medical supplies also got a box of seven bottles of physiological solution (Not sure if I got that right in english) and other supplies... Her father always messages me and we have built a wonderful friendship... But, to get back on topic, I would prefer to spend my life with a male that didn't feel comfortable letting me do all the job, paid or not... I am looking for a male that would be able to do volunteer job with me, as well as making money with me...
It's a very noble deed and I hope that the medical supplies found those, who needed them most.

But to get to the topic... Is it right that you are looking for a man with the same values, same work morale and... approximately same income?
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Jun 23, 2020 2:39 PM CST Income difference and relationship
rohaan
rohaanrohaanCoos Bay, Oregon USA229 Threads 10,460 Posts
secretagent09: If bonding and closeness was established the one who is trying to keep the other from leaving is probably hurting because of that one little word.......love.

On the other hand, I have been in a domestic violence situation with my husband. If he knew I wanted to leave I would never have gotten out the door so I had to do it behind his back. I'm not naturally a sneaky person but my life and my daughter's life were at stake.
God bless you richly. I hope you’ve found a more peaceful and safe life.teddybear
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Jun 23, 2020 2:43 PM CST Income difference and relationship
Melody1671
Melody1671Melody1671Maracaibo, Zulia Venezuela2,376 Posts
Tulefell: It's a very noble deed and I hope that the medical supplies found those, who needed them most.

But to get to the topic... Is it right that you are looking for a man with the same values, same work morale and... approximately same income?


They did... She sent me tons of pictures that broke my heart... And to be able to put a little smile or a little sensation of relief in their faces, was like a caress to my soul...

Back on topic: Of course... Why would I look for a person that had nothing in common with me?... confused
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Jun 23, 2020 2:48 PM CST Income difference and relationship
Tulefell
TulefellTulefellGothenburg, Vastra Gotaland Sweden103 Threads 5 Polls 3,295 Posts
Melody1671:

Back on topic: Of course... Why would I look for a person that had nothing in common with me?...
Well... a lot of people look for improving their financial situation for any price, so to say, without bothering about anything else. You never know what is "of course" with the next human being :)
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Jun 23, 2020 2:50 PM CST Income difference and relationship
Melody1671
Melody1671Melody1671Maracaibo, Zulia Venezuela2,376 Posts
Tulefell: Well... a lot of people look for improving their financial situation for any price, so to say, without bothering about anything else. You never know what is "of course" with the next human being :)
Well, we ended up exactly on my first comment... That's like a business relationship... Not a love one... bouquet
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Jun 23, 2020 2:51 PM CST Income difference and relationship
mikey4691
mikey4691mikey4691Knoxville, Tennessee USA8 Threads 6,868 Posts
rohaan: Almost every registered nurse, and often, L.P.N. I met out-earned their husband. (Male licensed nurses out-earned their non-nurse partners, as well.) A friend of mine is a physician, and her (male) partner is a carpenter. She earns close to six times what he does. The trend of the husband earning more is diminishing.
Somebody gotta put the boards and pipes together or their will be no offices to visit..
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Jun 23, 2020 2:51 PM CST Income difference and relationship
ChesneyChrist
ChesneyChristChesneyChristManchester, Greater Manchester, England UK7,144 Posts
Tulefell: It’s known that financial strain doesn’t improve relationship. But let’s talk about difference in incomes. Would it create some strain? Money is power in our world, after all.

So how much difference in income between you and your partner would be comfortable for you? (Could be expressed as percent of your income.)
Income's never really been an issue although my second girlfriend did leave me for a man with a million pound in the bank. I thought to myself I'm going to need to print a lot of newspapers to compete with that so I got a better job. And now I only consider longer term relationships with the working class. The working class and immigrants.
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Jun 23, 2020 2:56 PM CST Income difference and relationship
Tulefell
TulefellTulefellGothenburg, Vastra Gotaland Sweden103 Threads 5 Polls 3,295 Posts
Melody1671: Well, we ended up exactly on my first comment... That's like a business relationship... Not a love one...
I was madly in love (admittedly a couple of lives ago) and our paper ship didn't survive the very first financial storm.

Still, he was the love of my life. I like to remember it. I'm not in hurry to revive it :)

I'm very practical nowadays.
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