The idea of on line is contact safely and privately. Yet guys (gals?) immediately want private email, phone numbers or to move to social forum. I have no idea what hangup/hangon/hangten/hangout, or whatever that is. Likewise I don't do whatsapp or any apps. I don't own a Smartphone or anything else that does that app thing. I am not on FB, Twitter or Twitch, or Twaddle or whatever. Even if I did, no way I give access to my private email or account to a total stranger! My steady and I wrote via Craig's list for months before moving to email. Once we KNEW each other, we talked on the phone and finally met in person. Letting a stranger into your on line world is the same as inviting someone you just met in a bar home. Yeah..I know people who do. Talk about risky business. Hello Boston Strangler, nice to meet you. In your home, you can call the cops and get a restraining order and hope. On line, just try and shake some stalker or hacker. So guys, if you want instant, stick to the bar. You might get lucky. Or if not, try the street corner.
I agree, I actually know this is true...most if not all women online want immediate information demanding names, descriptions, family backgrounds, height, weight, etc., and that's fine, yet even if the details are true in most cases they won't believe you whether you have a pic or not since this is quite natural for social sites where females have certain triggers which will set each one off.
If a guy is just online for forums that's fine also with a pic or not... but when he does have a pic looking for something bells go off in a woman's head and where the direction goes no one knows. Lack of pic is a surely a deal breaker ( although you may miss one good one ) and that's fine also, however, when a woman sees a pic that her mind accepts as a potential to continue, all data which was given up to that point becomes totally useless even ignored and that's when "certain" females get in trouble if not careful. Once hooked everything from there on in is being controlled by the other individual and sometimes turns out extremely bad. The moment someone says let's take it offline is an indication something is wrong where little time passed and the person is either naive or quite the opposite.
A picture does skew things. If a looker, tons of interest. Blah, no interest. Funny thing is no one wants average even if they are below average. I got hooked on my guy long before I knew what he looked like. His brain, experiences, knowledge and hobbies all clicked. The only picture he had sent was he and his identical twin in a coaster wagon when about 4 or so. After a couple months, liking him more and more, I said I want a photo so I know what you look like. Experience of men our age, I figured wouldn't be that exciting. I knew he was slim which was a plus. He finally sent a photo. When I brought it up... I had my boarders wife and my tenants wife up here at the time. I yelled, come look at what I have been writing too!! Talk about hitting the jackpot. I would have been happy with whatever he looked like, but ended up with a movie star. All these years and we have aged and I still think he is super handsome. Mom always said love and potatos are two of a kind. Both have eyes and both are blind. If you get to know someone first, it doesn't matter what the looks are. And we all will lose them with age anyway. I didn't like to see photos of my late husband. I realize why. In my mind he looked the way he did when I married him. Photos made me see him as he was. He had trouble when he became an invalid. I got it through to him, love is for keeps. I didn't marry a body, I married a heart and a soul. And those were still there. The body is just a carrier. For better or worse. His looks were imperfect, but to me he was handsome til the day he died.
They once showed 20 pics to 15 psych student asking them to pick the cops from the criminals and basically no one was really right . The pictures were all criminals ... not at the time of booking though.
I always wanted to know why men don't have a pic on their profile..I won't accept the excuse that someone might steal their pic & use it...You can easily do a Google search anyway..One site I'm affiliated with..The men who have no pics on their profile have all confessed to me that they're in a relationship or married..I think they grew tired of me just having that gut feeling they weren't single.
I felt guilty because it shouldn't of been me they enjoyed laughing and conversing with..I told them all to delete and either get their relationships on track or break up and be honest in how they surf the net..To me it's cheating if you prefer to spend time with someone on the net rather than your missus..Doesn't have to be a physical dalliance in my eyes for it to be cheating.
Lol, I'm definitely not attached, married, or Gay... for sure. If it wasn't for COVID19 I wouldn't be here... I was just bored. I was so busy before it's the first time I ever used Netflix as stated before... got bored pretty damn fast not even renewing it. Now it's a little better... working from home and yet really not my thing. So, in my specific case ( don't know about other gentlemen ), since I have no interest in meeting anyone, and just using the forum part I see no reason for posting an image. Even if I remain a while I probably won't ...just my choice and since I'm not responding to anyone privately either no scams coming from me. I just read the protocol I will have to use to work again strictly for insurance purposes and I hate it. Vitamins may be... not injections or preventive meds as they don't work. I will probably quit, go private, handle my own transportation or move to Uraguay and become a leftist, and join the revolution. LMAO.
My post was in reference to men who are on sites to date..Why bloody send personal pics when it could easily be on a profile..They probably don't feel confident until they feel the woman they've been engaging with for a bit makes them feel comfortable for whom they are having no pic on a profile whilst conversing.
Just had a few to say send me your email or I’ll send you mines, I’m not on here that much or do you have WhatsApp, I’m not sending or giving out nothing
DedovixBig Place, Central Serbia Serbia5,492 posts
Orzzz: The idea of on line is contact safely and privately. Yet guys (gals?) immediately want private email, phone numbers or to move to social forum. I have no idea what hangup/hangon/hangten/hangout, or whatever that is. Likewise I don't do whatsapp or any apps. I don't own a Smartphone or anything else that does that app thing. I am not on FB, Twitter or Twitch, or Twaddle or whatever. Even if I did, no way I give access to my private email or account to a total stranger! My steady and I wrote via Craig's list for months before moving to email. Once we KNEW each other, we talked on the phone and finally met in person. Letting a stranger into your on line world is the same as inviting someone you just met in a bar home. Yeah..I know people who do. Talk about risky business. Hello Boston Strangler, nice to meet you. In your home, you can call the cops and get a restraining order and hope. On line, just try and shake some stalker or hacker. So guys, if you want instant, stick to the bar. You might get lucky. Or if not, try the street corner.
DedovixBig Place, Central Serbia Serbia5,492 posts
Orzzz: Getting what smarty pants?
whatever it is that you`re not getting Okay jokes aside We all have a certain opinion on how all this dating scene should work and we get confused, disappointed ,frustrated when the actual situation doesnt meet our expectation
Orzzz: A picture does skew things. If a looker, tons of interest. Blah, no interest. Funny thing is no one wants average even if they are below average. I got hooked on my guy long before I knew what he looked like. His brain, experiences, knowledge and hobbies all clicked. The only picture he had sent was he and his identical twin in a coaster wagon when about 4 or so. After a couple months, liking him more and more, I said I want a photo so I know what you look like. Experience of men our age, I figured wouldn't be that exciting. I knew he was slim which was a plus. He finally sent a photo. When I brought it up... I had my boarders wife and my tenants wife up here at the time. I yelled, come look at what I have been writing too!! Talk about hitting the jackpot. I would have been happy with whatever he looked like, but ended up with a movie star. All these years and we have aged and I still think he is super handsome. Mom always said love and potatos are two of a kind. Both have eyes and both are blind. If you get to know someone first, it doesn't matter what the looks are. And we all will lose them with age anyway. I didn't like to see photos of my late husband. I realize why. In my mind he looked the way he did when I married him. Photos made me see him as he was. He had trouble when he became an invalid. I got it through to him, love is for keeps. I didn't marry a body, I married a heart and a soul. And those were still there. The body is just a carrier. For better or worse. His looks were imperfect, but to me he was handsome til the day he died.
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I have no idea what hangup/hangon/hangten/hangout, or whatever that is. Likewise I don't do whatsapp or any apps. I don't own a Smartphone or anything else that does that app thing. I am not on FB, Twitter or Twitch, or Twaddle or whatever.
Even if I did, no way I give access to my private email or account to a total stranger! My steady and I wrote via Craig's list for months before moving to email. Once we KNEW each other, we talked on the phone and finally met in person.
Letting a stranger into your on line world is the same as inviting someone you just met in a bar home.
Yeah..I know people who do. Talk about risky business. Hello Boston Strangler, nice to meet you.
In your home, you can call the cops and get a restraining order and hope. On line, just try and shake some stalker or hacker.
So guys, if you want instant, stick to the bar. You might get lucky. Or if not, try the street corner.